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Anonymous911
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My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years now.
I’ve never opened up to my parents about any guy I have dated or liked in the past, but I told them about my current bf because we are willing and determined to take the next step. The only problem is (I’ll cut to the chase) they’ll NEVER approve him because he is black. We live in Australia, and I am middle eastern - we are both born and raised Catholic, so religiously, no problem at all (thank God).
I literally have no other choice but to run away. His parents are accepting, I have met them and they told me “if my son is happy with you, then that is what matters and we will support you both no matter what, if you want to move in here, we are happy to support you until you both move out and find a place for yourselves”… I appreciate that so much from them. My parents on the other hand are EXTREMELY racist and refuse to ever meet him no matter how much of a good guy he is. They threaten to disown me, kill me, and tell me I’m the devil for being with him. They have even abused me. They always make me feel guilty, telling me now that I’m the reason for my dad’s chest problems and it makes me feel very bad because I love them both so much, but they just cannot accept my love and care too much about reputation and that I should ‘equally’ be married to a nice white guy
ugh… they throw in the “you’re not marrying him not even over my dead body… not now not in a hundred years…”
My man doesn’t drink, doesn’t smoke, or take drugs. He is a professional athlete. And I just finished my medical degree. We are both 22 years old and financially stable, we have thought about every negative and only encourages us to be with each other more as husband and wife. We want to get married (in a catholic church of course), and the only option for me is to do it behind their backs because they will NEVER accept with their racist small minds. I pray every night, every night that God may soften their hearts, but I feel as though even when I’m married with children it may not happen. They’ll always be evil and racist.
Do I sneak out? They think I left him a few months ago but we are still together and more in love than ever. If I tell them again that I’m still with him, they will literally bash me.
I’ve decided to contact my priest for some advice, but I’m afraid he will tell me not to leave me parents and to obey them even if they are racist? This is so difficult but one thing I must admit is that God has definitely washed away my fears and doubt slowly each day… I know I’m still very young and yes there are plenty of fish in the sea, but who’s to say this isn’t my destiny and this is written in my life?
I’ve never opened up to my parents about any guy I have dated or liked in the past, but I told them about my current bf because we are willing and determined to take the next step. The only problem is (I’ll cut to the chase) they’ll NEVER approve him because he is black. We live in Australia, and I am middle eastern - we are both born and raised Catholic, so religiously, no problem at all (thank God).
I literally have no other choice but to run away. His parents are accepting, I have met them and they told me “if my son is happy with you, then that is what matters and we will support you both no matter what, if you want to move in here, we are happy to support you until you both move out and find a place for yourselves”… I appreciate that so much from them. My parents on the other hand are EXTREMELY racist and refuse to ever meet him no matter how much of a good guy he is. They threaten to disown me, kill me, and tell me I’m the devil for being with him. They have even abused me. They always make me feel guilty, telling me now that I’m the reason for my dad’s chest problems and it makes me feel very bad because I love them both so much, but they just cannot accept my love and care too much about reputation and that I should ‘equally’ be married to a nice white guy
ugh… they throw in the “you’re not marrying him not even over my dead body… not now not in a hundred years…”My man doesn’t drink, doesn’t smoke, or take drugs. He is a professional athlete. And I just finished my medical degree. We are both 22 years old and financially stable, we have thought about every negative and only encourages us to be with each other more as husband and wife. We want to get married (in a catholic church of course), and the only option for me is to do it behind their backs because they will NEVER accept with their racist small minds. I pray every night, every night that God may soften their hearts, but I feel as though even when I’m married with children it may not happen. They’ll always be evil and racist.
Do I sneak out? They think I left him a few months ago but we are still together and more in love than ever. If I tell them again that I’m still with him, they will literally bash me.
I’ve decided to contact my priest for some advice, but I’m afraid he will tell me not to leave me parents and to obey them even if they are racist? This is so difficult but one thing I must admit is that God has definitely washed away my fears and doubt slowly each day… I know I’m still very young and yes there are plenty of fish in the sea, but who’s to say this isn’t my destiny and this is written in my life?
