Intimacy during pregnancy

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My wife and I are expecting our first child and are very excited.
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Is it ok for us to still be intimate, in other words is it moral to have intercourse during a pregnancy? I know the medical world says its ok but I want the Churchā€™s view.

And just in case anyone wants to get in depthā€¦yes we are in a valid sacramental marriage.
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I was always curious about this myself. I could not find anything on it.
 
Why would the Church have position on this? :confused:

It doesnā€™t seem to be a moral issue.
 
Not that Iā€™m married or anything, but Iā€™ve never heard any Church teaching against it (and it doesnā€™t seem the sort of thing theyā€™d teach against honestly), so Iā€™d figure itā€™d be all right if thatā€™s what you wanted to do. Why would you think it might be wrong?
 
Nevarlander said:
Not that Iā€™m married or anything, but Iā€™ve never heard any Church teaching against it (and it doesnā€™t seem the sort of thing theyā€™d teach against honestly), so Iā€™d figure itā€™d be all right if thatā€™s what you wanted to do. Why would you think it might be wrong?
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I dont know, I guess it was just one of those things that I put too much though into. I guess its because the teaching that all sex must be open to the transmission of life, it wouldnt create life because she is already pregnant. If i sound ridiculous please let me know. First child so kinda nervous too.
 
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I dont know, I guess it was just one of those things that I put too much though into. I guess its because the teaching that all sex must be open to the transmission of life, it wouldnt create life because she is already pregnant. If i sound ridiculous please let me know. First child so kinda nervous too.
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I donā€™t know of any Church teaching, but I would say that it would be fine. Couples who are infertile can have intercourse, even though they cannot have children. They are open to life, and even though itā€™s even more impossible to create another life while pregnant, you are still ā€œopen to life.ā€ I would say not to worry about it :).
 
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I dont know, I guess it was just one of those things that I put too much though into. I guess its because the teaching that all sex must be open to the transmission of life, it wouldnt create life because she is already pregnant. If i sound ridiculous please let me know. First child so kinda nervous too.
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Actually ā€œordered to procreationā€ is a term I prefer over ā€œopen to lifeā€ because of confusion surrounding naturally infertile couples, post-menopause, or during pregnancy-- ā€œordered to procreationā€ means an unaltered act of completed sexual intercourse between spouses. A marital act while pregnant is an unaltered act of intercourseā€¦ it is subjectively infertile but objectively ordered to procreation.

It is in no way sinful.
 
Sex is unitive and procreative. As long as you donā€™t do anything to hinder either of those qualities in any love making act, youā€™re fine. As long as the guy ā€œfinishesā€ inside the woman without barriers, you are doing all God would ask. Itā€™s a beautiful privilege of the marriage vocation.:o
 
Sacristan2006 said:
My wife and I are expecting our first child and are very excited.
šŸ˜ƒ

Is it ok for us to still be intimate, in other words is it moral to have intercourse during a pregnancy? I know the medical world says its ok but I want the Churchā€™s view.

And just in case anyone wants to get in depthā€¦yes we are in a valid sacramental marriage.
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Check out www.christopherwest.com for more information on the beautiful teaching of our Church.

Entering into the marital embrace during pregnancy can be just as fulfilling and loving as when you are trying to conceive a baby.

The church teaches that we must not frustrate or bar ourselves from the natural procreative ability of intercourse. This doesnā€™t mean we have to try to breed and anything else is a sin. Remember, the marital embrace is twofold: procreative and unitive.

Also, think about how God is. He doesnā€™t just create; He loves His creations. We are called in marriage to foreshadow His creative side and His loving side.
 
Itā€™s fine but uncomfortable later on. My husband and I have a but of a hang up on it. When pregant you are sort of pre-occupied with a bun in the oven, so the idea of poking the bun with his you know what was something we had to get over. (blushing here). In my last week of labor it was suggested sex encourages labor, but the idea or possibility of my husband breaking my water with his penis didnā€™t seem attractive or a pleasant birth story to tell a child when s/he is older.
 
Yes it is fine unless there is a medical reason to stop. Actually, I enjoyed it more when pregnant than any other time, probably because I was so elated to be pregnant. But unfortunately I was one of those that by the 4th month was told to stop until after the baby was bornā€¦
 
marital relations during pregnancy is permitted

Blessed Anne Catherine Emmerich tells us that it is better to remain continent (to abstain from sex) during pregnancy for spiritual reasons:

I was at the same time clearly instructed how immeasurably the holiness of children was encouraged by the purity, chastity, and continence of their parents and by their resistance to all unclean temptations; and how continence after conception preserves the fruit of the womb from many sinful impulses. In general, I was given an overflowing abundance of knowledge about the roots of deformity and sin.
(Emmerich, Life of the Blessed Virgin Mary)

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Ron_Conte said:
marital relations during pregnancy is permitted

Blessed Anne Catherine Emmerich tells us that it is better to remain continent (to abstain from sex) during pregnancy for spiritual reasons:

I was at the same time clearly instructed how immeasurably the holiness of children was encouraged by the purity, chastity, and continence of their parents and by their resistance to all unclean temptations; and how continence after conception preserves the fruit of the womb from many sinful impulses. In general, I was given an overflowing abundance of knowledge about the roots of deformity and sin.
(Emmerich, Life of the Blessed Virgin Mary)

Ron
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I wonder how it does that? I guess Iā€™m not buying it. It seems to me that she may be saying that because someone thought sex during pregnancy was icky or perhaps they knew women who were uncomfortable with it and them tried to spiritualize it.

Anne Catherine Emmerich loses more credibility every time I read something of hers.
 
Anne Catherine Emmerich:
I was at the same time clearly instructed how immeasurably the holiness of children was encouraged by the purity, chastity, and continence of their parents and by their resistance to all unclean temptations; and how continence after conception preserves the fruit of the womb from many sinful impulses. In general, I was given an overflowing abundance of knowledge about the roots of deformity and sin.
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How does *that *work? Married sex is perfectly good and normal, definitely not something that opens one up to sin, especially someone whoā€™s not even a participant and is unaware of whatā€™s going onā€¦ this sounds like over-pious nonsense, not to put a fine point on it.
 
ā€œOver-pious.ā€ Thatā€™s the word I was searching for.
 
I remember someone on another site asking this very question and the answer was that itā€™s perfectly OK to be intimate during pregnancy according to the teaching of the church.

Now if only I could remember where it was asked and who gave the anwer, however Iā€™m currently suffering from Mommy Alzheimers from the lack of sleep Iā€™ve had over the past few months.

Oh and congrats to the original poster!
 
renee1258 said:
Itā€™s fine but uncomfortable later on. My husband and I have a but of a hang up on it. When pregant you are sort of pre-occupied with a bun in the oven, so the idea of **poking the bun **with his you know what was something we had to get over. (blushing here). In my last week of labor it was suggested sex encourages labor, but the idea or possibility of my husband breaking my water with his penis didnā€™t seem attractive or a pleasant birth story to tell a child when s/he is older.
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I read alot of posts that have tried to be funny but this is one of the funniest.

Youā€™re talking about regular sex right
 
Franciscan said:
I read alot of posts that have tried to be funny but this is one of the funniest.

Youā€™re talking about regular sex right
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As someone whoā€™s been thereā€¦yeah, regular sex is probably what sheā€™s talking about.
 
Everything Iā€™ve read and heard relations during pregnancy is just fine, providing it does not put your wife or child at risk: Medically and Morally.

**Which 99% of the time it DOES NOT!! So you should have nothing to worry about. šŸ˜ƒ ** Enjoy!

My 2nd pregnancy ended up being that 1%.
I went into ā€œearlyā€ labor a few times (the Drs. were able to stop labor). However we got told NO sex to help me stay "pregnantā€™ (you donā€™t want the baby born to early).

However, that was my 2nd pregnancy. With my first I did not have that problem. Looking back on it: I most likely only had that problem with my 2nd pregnancy because my kids are 10 months apart. I literally was pregnant for 19 months straight (well I had one month off)ā€¦ I think my body was just "tiredā€™ of being pregnant.

Just enjoy! You have nothing to worry about. In MOST cases it does not hurt your wife or your baby. God Bless.
 
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