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[dannyd4007]

The one thing I am really confused about is what I say to my children.

We have five adopted children, we have 2, 1/2 brother & sister combo who love attention and I am sure are thrilled there is someone new in their lives. I have a feeling they will be very positive, while my daughter who is at home probably is internalizing the whole thing.

The two other will not care. How do I address this with each one?

Not to mention my wife, sorry ex-wife, is saying this person is not replacing me, but really no matter what isn’t that happening. You can say what you want, but here is a man who comes in for a week and she is trying to forge some kind of relationship with the children and him.

 

[AdamP88]

The one thing I am really confused about is** what I say to my children.**

We have five adopted children, we have 2, 1/2 brother & sister combo who love attention and I am sure are thrilled there is someone new in their lives. I have a feeling they will be very positive, while my daughter who is at home probably is internalizing the whole thing.

The two other will not care. How do I address this with each one?

Not to mention my wife, sorry ex-wife, is saying this person is not replacing me, but really no matter what isn’t that happening. You can say what you want, but here is a man who comes in for a week and she is trying to forge some kind of relationship with the children and him.

I think you should still basically go on as if she was your wife. Technically, even if there is a civil divorce, there is no annulment (I’m assuming) so she is still your wife in the eyes of the Church. I think the older children would probably understand this if you explain it to them.

You could say “as far as I’m concerned, she’s still my wife, I never wanted a divorce.” Or just tell them you love her and you’re praying for he because she is still married to you in the eyes of the church.