Invite priest to wedding reception?

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i believe this is customary. I am not getting married anytime soon but was talking about it with my partner. He believes it is a bit awkward and not done but I thought it quite normal. Obviously you wouldnt seat him with anyone too wild but wouldnt it be rude NOT to invite him? Should mention he is a friend also.
 
sorry this probably wasnt the right forum…ima newbie…but then marriage is a sacrament…
 
Sancta_Caecilia said:
i believe this is customary. I am not getting married anytime soon but was talking about it with my partner. He believes it is a bit awkward and not done but I thought it quite normal. Obviously you wouldnt seat him with anyone too wild but wouldnt it be rude NOT to invite him? Should mention he is a friend also.
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It is customary to invite the priest to the wedding reception around here. They may not be able to stay for the whole reception (in my parish there often are two weddings in one day), but they usually show up for part of it at least. So, yes, it is quite normal.
 
I understand it is customary to invite the priest. Depending upon regional factors, it may be equally customary for him to either decline or to stay no longer than it takes to bless the meal.
 
Sancta_Caecilia said:
i believe this is customary. I am not getting married anytime soon but was talking about it with my partner. He believes it is a bit awkward and not done but I thought it quite normal. Obviously you wouldnt seat him with anyone too wild but wouldnt it be rude NOT to invite him? Should mention he is a friend also.
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news flash
brides to be should have it tatooed on their foreheads
you do not need a date to attend a wedding reception
how insensitive not to invite the minister who officiates.
he is usually seated at the table of the bride’s parents and is a guest of honor
 
Absolutely . . . I’ve never heard of not inviting the priest . . . the priest is a principle member of your wedding party - the celebrant of your Sacrament of Marriage . . . inviting the priest . . . is a way of inviting and welcoming Christ Himself to come your wedding reception also . . . and a way of honoring Holy Mother Church . . . even as Sacred :bible1: Scripture reveals Jesus and His Holy Mother Mary were invited to the wedding at Cana and that reception . . . and they accepted . . . and at that wedding is where He performed his First Holy Public Miracle . . . *turning water into wonderful new wine . . . *

And as the last poster mentioned . . . the priest should always be seated at the bride and groom’s table as a guest of honor . . . *just like a member of the family . . . *:harp:

. . . all for Jesus+
. . . thank You dear Lord for the gracious Sacrament of Marriage+​
 
Invite the priest. The one who married us came to the reception. We also invite the priests who officiate at baptisms and funerals.
And as an aside, we were at dinner the other night and our friends told us a relative had a notary officiate at the marriage and the notary charged $350. That wedding had a total of 20 in attendance.
 
It would be awkward to have a priest at most of the wedding receptions I’ve been to…with the excessive drinking, suggestive rap music, and booty shaking on the dance floor and whatnot. 😛 Seriously, I think as a courtesy, the officiant should be invited. Don’t take it personally if he declines, though.
 
MaryAnne77 said:
It would be awkward to have a priest at most of the wedding receptions I’ve been to…with the excessive drinking, suggestive rap music, and booty shaking on the dance floor and whatnot. 😛 Seriously, I think as a courtesy, the officiant should be invited. Don’t take it personally if he declines, though.
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no Catholic couple should be hosting the type of reception you cannot invite your priest to (or your parents for that matter). Even if he accepts, and many don’t because of other demands on the time, the often stay only enough time to greet people and perhaps share the meal.
 
puzzleannie said:
no Catholic couple should be hosting the type of reception you cannot invite your priest to (or your parents for that matter). Even if he accepts, and many don’t because of other demands on the time, the often stay only enough time to greet people and perhaps share the meal.
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What if your parents are the ones out there doing the booty shaking? 😉
 
The priest should always be invited, I think. But like another poster said, don’t be surprised if he declines totally or only stays for a short time.

My sister is getting married in October and we are inviting Fr. Peter. He has gotten to be friends with my whole family. But he has already told my sister that he may come for a little while, but will need to leave. He has other parish duties to attend to ie. still on priest duty!!

But, yes, he should be invited!!!
 
MaryAnne77 said:
It would be awkward to have a priest at most of the wedding receptions I’ve been to…with the excessive drinking, suggestive rap music, and booty shaking on the dance floor and whatnot. 😛 Seriously, I think as a courtesy, the officiant should be invited. Don’t take it personally if he declines, though.
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shudder I might walk out on a reception that bad if it were my own.
 
The priest are invited around here.At my sisters wedding it was harder to tell who was more drunk the groom or the priest. At the reception that is.
 
Sancta_Caecilia said:
i believe this is customary. I am not getting married anytime soon but was talking about it with my partner. He believes it is a bit awkward and not done but I thought it quite normal. Obviously you wouldnt seat him with anyone too wild but wouldnt it be rude NOT to invite him? Should mention he is a friend also.
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Especially if he is a friend, I would invite him. He can decline if he’d rather not come.
 
Definitely invite him. the priest who has married 5 out of our 6 children(last one not married) is not only our friend but he has known our children since 1993 when he was parochial vicar at our parish. He has moved several times but always says yes to coming back and representing Christ at their weddings. We pay for his room at the hotel. When he married the 5th child, it was in Virginia and we paid for his hotel, airfare and gave him a stipend. It was awesome to share our children’s lives with him.
If and when our last child decides that marriage is her vocation, I am hoping our friend will say yes and ask our friend to marry her like he did her siblings. We are truly blessed to have a friend like him
 
CB_Catholic said:
It is customary to invite the priest to the wedding reception around here. They may not be able to stay for the whole reception (in my parish there often are two weddings in one day), but they usually show up for part of it at least. So, yes, it is quite normal.
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MaryAnne77 said:
It would be awkward to have a priest at most of the wedding receptions I’ve been to…with the excessive drinking, suggestive rap music, and booty shaking on the dance floor and whatnot. 😛 Seriously, I think as a courtesy, the officiant should be invited. Don’t take it personally if he declines, though.
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This is a way to celebrate a wedding? 😦

The standards of behavior that MaryAnne mentioned above forecast serious problems ahead for such a couple if this behavior is their normal behavior outside of non-religious settings, not to mention the dichotomy of the values - Catholic and whatever.
 
Wow - shocking to think that someone would NOT invite the principle participant in the wedding ceremony to the reception! :eek: How horribly insulting.

~Liza
 
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