Invited to a "passion party"

[dumspirospero]

Are you talking about a “Passion of the Christ” Party? IF so…why would this type of dialogue and behavior be taking place? If not…I have honestly never heard of such a party…

goravens:

A friend of mine from work recently invited me to a “Passion Party” she is hosting. I decided not to go for several reasons - for one, sex is sacred and between my husband and I. I think it’s important to keep that between us, and I don’t want to share specifics with others (which usually comes up with women at these parties, from what I understand.) Another reason is that there are a lot of unmarried women from work going there, to buy “personal” products or things to use with boyfriends, and I felt like going to this party supported premarital sex. What do you think - are these reasons sound? I realize many of my co-workers will think I’m a prude. There’s zero support for my morals and beliefs from any of the people I work with. I wish I could share with them how awesome married sex is and they don’t need all this extra stuff. Any thoughts?

 

[mercygate]

K777angel:

Just remember that Jesus ate with sinners. Mingled with them.
We are to imitate Him. Be a witness amongst them.
If you (we) do not - WHO WILL?? They will be left to mingle with and wallow with their own.
It is not as if you are agreeing to DO something sinful. Of course you would never agree to that.
You are merely being asked to come to a party and BE with them.
My guess is that you would have some valuable (name removed by moderator)ut to share.
Something some may have never heard nor pondered.

You never know what seed you may plant…

She’ll plant a better seed if she refuses by saying, “No, thank you. My husband and I are Catholic. We practice NFP. We don’t need gimmicks and toys to make our lovemaking wonderful!”

 

[Daniel_Kane]

1 Cor 5:9 - I wrote to you in my letter not to associate with immoral people…

1 Cor 6:18 - Avoid immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside of the body but the immoral person sins against his own body.

It would in all likelihood be better to avoid this event and if necessary defend your decision on at least neutral ground instead of in the midst of an event whose sole purpose is at least lust if not outright fornication, masturbation or adultery. Not to mention you will be outnumbered and in all likelihood at least tempted to drink, etc.

Most are ill-equipped for this sort of battle, thus the admonition of Paul

 

[yochumjy]

Island Oak:

Funny…a friend of mine from work recently invited me to a “Tupperware party” she is hosting. I decided not to go for several reasons–for one, … Any thoughts?

I figured this was tongue in cheek, but funny enough…my wife plays volleyball with a person who has “tupperware parties” which is her code word for a “sex toy” party. I actually thought that was what you meant at first!


BTW, my wife has never felt comfortable with this and hasn’t ever gone…

John

 

[LSK]

I turned down the invitation to one because I am not married and have no reason to go to a passion party. I also agree with you, I think it not only promotes promiscuity but it is in incredibly poor taste.

Now, if this was for married women only and done in a spirit of how we can enhance our relationship with our husband in order to create better families - maybe.

What does anyone else think about that distinction? I can’t say I am real comfortable with it -

 

[Island_Oak]

LSK:

…Now, if this was for married women only and done in a spirit of how we can enhance our relationship with our husband in order to create better families - maybe.

What does anyone else think about that distinction? I can’t say I am real comfortable with it -

I’d still have to stick with my original vote. It’s not that I have a problem with a couple who wants to spice things up and agrees between themselves to investigate some “marital aids.” But how inappropriate to take that concern, question, inquiry… into a room full of cackling women more attracted by the prurient entertainment value of test-driving vibrating electronics than any legitimate marital enhancement.

 

[DailyBread]

For all people who wrote in suggesting that we imitate Jesus and mingle with sinners by going to this party, has not checked scripture lately. I don’t remember Jesus walking into bars or brothels to talk with them. He met with them at neutral places, like dinner or out by the synagogue. Goraven, if you want to reach out to these people, do it on a one on one basis by developing a personal relationship with your coworkers, and talk over lunch about how God has blessed you with a wonderful relationship. When they open up about their problems in their relationship, that is when you can offer advice. Trying to convince a bunch of women at a party focused on immorral behaivor will not change many hearts and will be more an occasion of sin. Hope this helped and you did the right thing by saying no. If no one ever did, they would never realize its wrong.

 

[cleofet]

Island Oak:

Funny…a friend of mine from work recently invited me to a “Tupperware party” she is hosting. I decided not to go for several reasons–for one, leftovers are sacred and between my husband and I. I think it’s important to keep that between us, and I don’t want to share recipies with others (which usually comes up with women at these parties, from what I understand.) Another reason is that there are a lot of unmarried women from work going there, to buy “personal” storage products or picnic things to use with boyfriends and I felt like going to this party supported premarital meal-making. What do you think- are these reasons sound? I realize many of my co-workers will think I’m stingy. There’s zero support for my morals and beliefs from any of the people I work with. I wish I could share with them how awesome married meal planning is and they don’t need all this extra stuff. Any thoughts?

I can’t believe you wrote this to mock this person. You need to find a better way to voice your opinion other then trying to make fun of someone who is trying to live their life the way the Lord wants all of us to

 

[Timidity]

I can’t think of any verse in the Bible that mentions “toys” in a good light. Stay away.

 

[Island_Oak]

cleofet:

I can’t believe you wrote this to mock this person. You need to find a better way to voice your opinion other then trying to make fun of someone who is trying to live their life the way the Lord wants all of us to

Lighten up…this was not meant to mock the question–just a little fun. I did offer a “serious” response to the inquiry–if you bothered to read the thread.

 

[Convert97]

A few months after we were married, my wife and I moved to Florida. Some of my wife’s new coworkers invited her to a “passion party” on a night when I had to work. She didn’t go and I was disappointed. I wanted her to spend freely. In three weeks we will celebrate our 25th anniversary and I am so grateful she did not go. As I struggle to live a life of marital chastity, I am so glad that she didn’t bring home any products that would remain lodged in my memory banks to hit me when my guard was down. I have seen enough ‘R’ movies to provide me with a life of temptation.

There is a feeling among those who attend such parties that “If I only had this lingerie, toy or movie, my intimate life would be better.” It is this thinking that leads to botox and plastic surgery. This is the physical equivalent of a lack of spiritual poverty: both can lead to dissatisfaction with what we have. Since we have adopted marital chastity as a goal, our satisfaction with each other has greatly increased.

Also, by refusing to go you will make a statement that your faith is more important than being popular. Your presence at such a party can cause scandal. Your standards will a greater witness to your faith if you don’t lower them.