I do kind of understand where you’re trying to go with your question - but having kidney disease myself, obviously the surgeon would have taken out one kidney (we’ll assume it’s a UNOS match-that’s kind of hard thought since this is back alley)- and placed it in the man. But if your situation was possible then - since this woman didn’t consent to do this she might feel obliged to keep him alive but I think in the long run she would eventually detach. I know this isn’t the same but maybe it’s a little like this. I became pregnant (while using NFP) and as I mentioned I have kidney disease as well as tumors and cysts in my ovary and uterous respectively. At the end of 3 months my kidneys began shutting down completely (in other words they were working at less than 2/3 capacity) - then something else happened a few days later in hospital when I was right on the 4 month date - I began to loose blood - lots of blood and my doctor had to proceed for either myself or the fetus to live. The fetus was not viable at that point and to continue the pregnancy would have cost my life and the fetus life. My life was saved and I am glad of it. I’m very sad that I was not able to carry the fetus to term but I’m glad I"m still here. I think that might be as close to a real life example as you might get. I did speak with a priest and he agreed that this was the best outcome possible. Of course according to many on here and the Catechism, apparently I have done a serious wrong by choosing my life over both myself and the fetus dying. As I said, it was sad but I’m glad I’m still here. I know this is a rare occurance just as rape and getting pregnant is a rare occurance, but it does still happen. And I"m glad I’m still here to tell about it - I love God and I am glad that when the doctors tell us it’s o.k. to try again that we will be able to try to carry a pregnancy to term. I don’t think I will understand ever why the Church (according to the Catechism) will state that two deaths are better than one.
I am very sorry for the loss of your child, a good Doctor does all he can to save the lives of both mother and child and it kind of sounds like that may have been your situation.
I’m a little confused over you thinking that some on here would think that you did something seriously wrong, unless of course, you had an abortion. (which you didn’t state, but that is the only reason I would see why anyone could find a problem with what you choose,) then I would imagine that since you have already spoke to a Priest about this (confession), that all is well.
That you say that the Catechism states that two deaths are better than one sounds a little like you didn’t understand something properly.
In any case, I think that any of us ought to do all we can so that others might live. That is why above I stated that until the man could properly be operated on that I would, in that very strange, and unreal situation “carry” him until that could take place. Like the poster after me stated, that probably wouldn’t even be for nine months, but if it were, I could take it. I wouldn’t be giving up my life for another, just letting someone else live until the proper thing could be done.
So, in the case of a mother who didn’t want her child for whatever reason, (which certainly wasn’t your situation.) She could carry that child for the nine months and then let that child live with someone else, or, who knows, a lot can happen in nine months, perhaps by then she would change her mind again and want to keep her child.
None of us knows what we would do unless we really were in YOUR situation.