Is abstinence my only choice to prevent prego complications?

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I am 40 years old and we have 11 kids(ages 18 years to 9 mos.). I am a devout homeschooling Catholic and my husband less so.I wouldn’t mind having more kids but the last preg. I developed a rare liver condition(pregnancy related) called Cholestasis, causing stillbirth from 37 weeks(so I was induced at 37 weeks and the baby’s ok) and in some cases even sooner, or severe prematurity at times as well, and I was informed there’s a 60-90% chance it WILL recur now with any future pregnancies(and even worse with each following one; and even now my liver still flares up; it hasn’t resolved yet,even after the birth,like it should have) which terrifies me, and so the only solution I can see to prevent it(as I can’t bear to live thru that fear and worry and stress again about possibly losing my baby) is abstinence,(we don’t use birth control) but my husband isn’t fond of this idea and says to use condoms but I won’t. I am worried this will cause a rift in our marriage,but I won’t commit what we both know is a sin(contraception) but I emotionally can’t go thru that terror again,either,even though I know I shouldn’t let fear stop me from having more kids.
Any suggestions? (NFP doesn’t work so well for me; my cycles are irregular and some of the kids were conceived this way!)
 
Pogue,

While I am happy to hear of the safe delivery of your baby, I am sorry to hear of the complications it created for future pregnancies and the rift it created with your husband. The links below should help explain your responsibilities given your husband’s insistence on contracepting. If you have any further questions or concerns that are not answered by these links, please contact Catholic Answers directly.
**Recommended Reading:
Good News About Sex And Marriage: Answers To Your Honest Questions About Catholic Teaching by Christopher West
 
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