I am not sure I understand Bl. Mother Teresa. It sounds like she is telling me to sacrifice my well being and that of my family. Is that what she means? Help me out here…
I know that Mother Teresa was a good woman, so by “giving to others till it hurts” is good and anything that benefits me must be evil. If that is the case, then the beneficiary of my giving is the only criterion of moral value…and so long as that beneficiary is anybody other than me, anything goes…right?
I don’t think her statement is that black or white. No one is asked to sell their wife or children to prevent a stranger from starving. But we must not restrict our giving to being “out of our abundance”; we have to make sacrifices, otherwise charity is not fully charity.
For a simple example, suppose my income is 50,000 rupees, and I need 30,000 of them to take care of my family (food, clothing, shelter, education, medical expenses, etc.) I have every right to keep that 30,000 (plus a little more for emergencies!

). However, if I’m planning to spend, say, 15,000 of the balance on something I don’t really need, like a new cell phone, I ought to give that to a more deserving cause. Like I said, it’s not something we all do - it’s an ideal that we should aim towards rather than an absolute decree.
Interesting…but consider these:
2 Thessalonians 3:10
For even when we were with you, we would give you this command: If anyone is not willing to work, let him not eat.
Luke 10:7
And remain in the same house, eating and drinking what they provide, for the laborer deserves his wages. Do not go from house to house.
2 Thessalonians 3:12-14
Now such persons we command and encourage in the Lord Jesus Christ to do their work quietly and to earn their own living.
Very true, and well quoted. But there’s also the example of the early Christian community in the Acts of the Apostles, who sold what they had and distributed the surplus to those in need.
You may be uncomfortable judging people on their merits but that is exactly what you do when you chose not to donate to a gay rights organization. That’s a judgment. That’s a good thing. Christ calls us to be like Him…and He will judge us on the last day.
While we are called to follow Christ in charity, we are not called to arrogate his prerogative to judge to ourselves. We can admonish, counsel, or even lawfully punish, of course.
The trouble with “merit” is that it’s a slippery slope. I know, for example, of Charitable Hospital X who refused to help a patient, Y, simply because Y was Catholic and X decided that only Protestants were meritorious (i.e., held to the true faith without adulteration). We should never be an occasion of sin for others, true. But where sin is not involved (say, Y is poor because of circumstances beyond his control, or physical or mental illness - not because he is wilfully refusing to work), then we certainly are called to be charitable to him. And I believe that it is lawful for Catholic charities to do the same. Secular governments are a thorny issue, but then I work for one of them, and while I disagree with them on many counts, I find it easier to do a little good while working for them than by staying outside and keeping my skills to myself.
Of course, this is an opinion. I’m not Pope Francis. Just sayin’.
