.. Let Him comfort you if you ever feel down about this. Donât buy the lies the enemy likes to feed us. I suppose you canât really miss what you havenât ever experienced. 
Good for youâŚThanks for your response, and encouragement.
I will stay a virgin until married.
I think you are right about being proud, itâs also a sin, I mis-applied the word, secular influence, Iâm afraid.
Thatâs what I was thinking too. Proud isnât the right word. Glad and thankful is what I would say.
I prefer the term âbeing chasteâ as technicall viginity is a biological thin which you can lose through exercise, when raped.
Yes. To have been preserved from sin is not a favor you do for God, but a favor Godâs grace bestows on you. The Magnificat captures this perfectly, whereas the parable contrasting the proud Pharisee and the humble tax collector praying captures the plight of the soul who escaped various impurities only to be ensnared and deadened by pride.
I really had to comment on this; You canât lose your virginity by exercisingâŚyou donât pop a cherry. Itâs a misconception that women have a hymen that covers their whole vagina but really it is a membrane that partially covers it, stretches out, and then returns to itâs original state when abstinent for a long time. I feel like this is a pretty harmful misconception that needs to be corrected because it implies women are just not the same after losing their virginity (but men are stronger because now the penis has been used as a weapon) It makes the first act of sex one of violence instead of love and procreation regardless of the situation it is in.
Iâm not sure I agree with your biology there, however, I think you are correct that a person is a virgin if they have not had consensual sex. Virginity is not a biological state of being intact and if a female injures herself during exercise so that she bleeds or is raped, thatâs not the same as having consensual intercourse. On the other hand, I think itâs a valid argument that chastity should be the goal and not only virginity, because people can technically be virgins and still sucumb to sins of impurity, which can have a long lasting effect and can become a sinful and burdonsome habit that is most difficult to unload.
I agree. I remember being a teenager! The focus on sex was just on not doing it and you really donât want kids. Those of us who wanted to remain âvirginsâ ended up discovering a lot of deviant sex acts just to âmaintain our purityâ, which clearly wasnât chaste at all. The virgin thing needs to stop. It just directs too much attention to the wrong thing. And it does tend to place extra pressure on women, at least in most cultures. (and this is because of the Hymen myth) To say itâs up to the woman to maintain virginity disregards menâs free-will and resolve, and blames the woman for the act.
Which is to say this: Virginity is a state of innocence, not a physical state. A person who has been sexually violated isnât innocent in terms of carnal knowledge, alas, but they are still morally innocent. It is the innocence that matters, whether a person is male or female.
Pride is definately the wrong emotion, but I imagine the OP used it because it is often considered the opposite of shame. Secular society often shames those who choose to remain chaste and those who are virgins. Perhaps it would be better to say that one should be unashamed about being a virgin. Though âproudâ and âunashamedâ may be used interchangeably in some situations, there is a significant difference between them.
It is sad to say, but yes: There are times when virgins need someone to reassure them that sexual purity is nothing to be ashamed of, does not mean they are socially backward, frigid, or emotionally handicapped, and definitely does not mean that they will never find person like them to marry who is ânormalâ. It is to be remembered that we lie to ourselves in many ways in order to give ourselves permission to do what is forbidden and to depart from the way we ought to be on. Ridicule of those who have held on to the truth is a common byproduct of this sort of self-deception. The old term âgoody-two-shoesâ is a vintage example of this kind of ridicule, used against those who have generally kept the faith. They say they are objecting to the âprideâ of the person that offends them, but no display of pride is needed for that old chestnut to be hauled out and fired.