Is calling gay marriage unnatural a good argument?

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Your questions have been answered in earlier posts, 73 and 74 to name a couple, ie, about 2 posts before yours, so it shouldn’t be too hard to find for you.
You reference post #73, which says:
Inability to procreate is not the definitive issue.
That supports my position. Inability to procreate applies to many heterosexual married couples, so it is not a good argument against same-sex marriage. This thread is looking for good arguments, and inability to procreate is not a good argument.

rossum
 
…Inability to procreate applies to many heterosexual married couples, so it is not a good argument against same-sex marriage. This thread is looking for good arguments, and inability to procreate is not a good argument.
The inability to procreate experienced by some heterosexual couples is not ordained by the nature of the couple, but by mere circumstances of illness, age, etc.

Goodness of argument on an issue of this kind is, to an extent, a function of the beholder’s perspective, including on such simple things as the answer to the question “what is marriage”.

If someone does not find sexual complementarity a defining aspect of marriage, if marriage as the vehicle for natural family formation, as the vehicle for parenting (where parenting is naturally the role of mother and father), then such a person is unlikely to find anything out of place in SSM.

If marriage is viewed as a means of accessing a particular legal framework for two persons choosing to live as a domestic unit, then one might wonder why siblings are denied marriage.
 
The inability to procreate experienced by some heterosexual couples is not ordained by the nature of the couple, but by mere circumstances of illness, age, etc.
I disagree. It is in the nature of all humans to age, and for females, ageing naturally brings infertility. Given that the Catholic Church does not recognise divorce, then it is in the nature of Catholic marriage that some marriages will be unable to procreate.
Goodness of argument on an issue of this kind is, to an extent, a function of the beholder’s perspective, including on such simple things as the answer to the question “what is marriage”.
Agreed. I am assuming that the arguments are to be directed at people who currently accept the validity of same sex civil marriages. A good argument is one which works from the perspective of the person you are discussing with. There is no point is assuming that they already agree with you on the points in contention. Those are not good arguments.

rossum
 
I disagree. It is in the nature of all humans to age, and for females, ageing naturally brings infertility. Given that the Catholic Church does not recognise divorce, then it is in the nature of Catholic marriage that some marriages will be unable to procreate.
It is in our nature to to procreate when our age and health is naturally so attuned, and not to do so otherwise. That naturally fits with our lifecycle. SSM runs fundamentally counter to that nature.
Agreed. I am assuming that the arguments are to be directed at people who currently accept the validity of same sex civil marriages. A good argument is one which works from the perspective of the person you are discussing with. There is no point is assuming that they already agree with you on the points in contention. Those are not good arguments.
Those who embrace SSM need to answer the question “what is marriage?” The discussion proceeds based on their answer.
 
If marriage is viewed as a means of accessing a particular legal framework for two persons choosing to live as a domestic unit, then one might wonder why siblings are denied marriage.
Are there lots of adult siblings where you live who live as a domestic unit and are agitating for the right to marry?
 
It is in our nature to to procreate when our age and health is naturally so attuned, and not to do so otherwise. That naturally fits with our lifecycle.
Does a childless couple automatically get an annulment from the Church? No they do not. The absence of children is not a grounds for annulment. Failure to procreate does not invalidate or annul a Catholic marriage. Again, you need to find a better argument here. This one can be countered too easily.
Those who embrace SSM need to answer the question “what is marriage?” The discussion proceeds based on their answer.
That is a better basis for discussion. However, you need to expect a different definition from the one the Catholic Church uses, obviously.

rossum
 
I dont like the Unnatural argument on anything to be fair,

if we should be against something for being “unnatural” its time to give up medicine, electricity, and so on
 
Are there lots of adult siblings where you live who live as a domestic unit and are agitating for the right to marry?
That is irrelevant. The question I posed assists one to understand “what is marriage?” Note that siblings are “explicitly denied” marriage (and civil unions) by statute.
 
Does a childless couple automatically get an annulment from the Church? No they do not. The absence of children is not a grounds for annulment. Failure to procreate does not invalidate or annul a Catholic marriage. Again, you need to find a better argument here. This one can be countered too easily.
Rossum, please connect my posts - I was not making an argument as I already stated that fertility is not a hurdle for marriage. I was passing an observation on the difference between infertile heterosexual couples and homosexual couples as that pertains to procreation, as you suggested there was no difference. One works with or accepts the natural order, the other is in conflict with it.
That is a better basis for discussion. However, you need to expect a different definition from the one the Catholic Church uses, obviously.
Very likely. One can anticipate an array of self-serving definitions, which ignore biology and history.
 
Rossum, please connect my posts - I was not making an argument as I already stated that fertility is not a hurdle for marriage. I was passing an observation on the difference between infertile heterosexual couples and homosexual couples as that pertains to procreation, as you suggested there was no difference. One works with or accepts the natural order, the other is in conflict with it.

Very likely. One can anticipate an array of self-serving definitions, which ignore biology and history.
How terrible that we should ignore history. :rolleyes:

It’s not like it once was in colonial America, for example, where a wife could not own or acquire property, enter into a contract or write a will without her husband’s permission. In 17th century New England, a woman might be referred to not as “Mary Brown” or even as “Mrs John Brown” but as “John Brown his wife.” A widow was often referred to as her husband’s “relict” which has the same etymology as the word “relic”.

As Sir William Blackstone says in his Commentaries on the Laws of England (Oxford: Clarendon Press, 1765-1769), 1: 442:
By marriage, the husband and wife are one person in law; that is, the very being or legal existence of the woman is suspended during the marriage, or at least is incorporated and consolidated into that of the husband, under whose wing, protection, and cover, she performs everything.
 
How terrible that we should ignore history. :rolleyes:

It’s not like it once was in colonial America, for example, where a wife could not own or acquire property, enter into a contract or write a will without her husband’s permission. In 17th century New England, a woman might be referred to not as “Mary Brown” or even as “Mrs John Brown” but as “John Brown his wife.” A widow was often referred to as her husband’s “relict” which has the same etymology as the word “relic”.

As Sir William Blackstone says in his Commentaries on the Laws of England (Oxford: Clarendon Press, 1765-1769), 1: 442:
This makes you sound erudite and well-read Thor, but, alas, your remarks appear utterly disconnected from the substance of th thread. 😉
 
This makes you sound erudite and well-read Thor, but, alas, your remarks appear utterly disconnected from the substance of th thread. 😉
I’m only responding to your statement that redefining marriage ignores history and is self-serving (“One can anticipate an array of self-serving definitions, which ignore biology and history”). But the historical example of marriage by which, as Blackstone say, the wife’s “very being or legal existence…is suspended” doesn’t seem all that great.
 
I’m only responding to your statement that redefining marriage ignores history and is self-serving (“One can anticipate an array of self-serving definitions, which ignore biology and history”). But the historical example of marriage by which, as Blackstone say, the wife’s “very being or legal existence…is suspended” doesn’t seem all that great.
Blackstone points to the legal framework going awry, which we see repeated in the idea of SSM.
 
I would suggest that we argue what is essential to marriage, union and procreation. It doesn’t really matter how you argue against gay marriage, if you can’t convince people that procreation is essential to marriage than you have no hope of convincing people that gay marriage is ok.

I mean think about it, what is the difference between opposite sex marriage and same sex marriage?

In a traditional marriage, two people who feel very close to each other decide to enter into a long-term relationship.

In a same-sex marriage, two people who feel very close to each other decide to enter into a long-term relationship.

what is the difference? Pretty simple a traditional couple can reproduce, a same-sex couple cannot. That really is all it comes down too. If you can’t argue that reproduction is essential to marriage, just as the Church teaches, we lost the argument before it even starts.

Personally I believe the wide acceptance of contraception is one of the main causes of this wider acceptance of same-sex marriage. IF sexual relations in a marriage, doesn’t need to be open to children, what makes it different than any other sexual relationship?

In all people there is the sexual drive, it is a part of who we are naturally, and it is why we have sexual relations, a part of our nature is continuing the species, but of course, we are more than animals so we don’t enter into sexual relationships simply to continue the species, we also enter into them because they allow us to deep intimate relationships that also help each other lead to salvation.

Anyway after this long explanation let me simply say, to support traditional marriage we must prove procreation is essential to marriage.

This is why impotence is an impediment if, now infertility is another issue and I’m no expert on that.
 
I would suggest that we argue what is essential to marriage, union and procreation. It doesn’t really matter how you argue against gay marriage, if you can’t convince people that procreation is essential to marriage than you have no hope of convincing people that gay marriage is ok.

I mean think about it, what is the difference between opposite sex marriage and same sex marriage?

In a traditional marriage, two people who feel very close to each other decide to enter into a long-term relationship.

In a same-sex marriage, two people who feel very close to each other decide to enter into a long-term relationship.

what is the difference? Pretty simple a traditional couple can reproduce, a same-sex couple cannot. That really is all it comes down too. If you can’t argue that reproduction is essential to marriage, just as the Church teaches, we lost the argument before it even starts.

Personally I believe the wide acceptance of contraception is one of the main causes of this wider acceptance of same-sex marriage. IF sexual relations in a marriage, doesn’t need to be open to children, what makes it different than any other sexual relationship?

In all people there is the sexual drive, it is a part of who we are naturally, and it is why we have sexual relations, a part of our nature is continuing the species, but of course, we are more than animals so we don’t enter into sexual relationships simply to continue the species, we also enter into them because they allow us to deep intimate relationships that also help each other lead to salvation.

Anyway after this long explanation let me simply say, to support traditional marriage we must prove procreation is essential to marriage.

This is why impotence is an impediment if, now infertility is another issue and I’m no expert on that.
The difference is not that an opposite sex couple can procreate. The difference is that a man and a woman can have sex. A man and a woman can have marital sex. A same sex couple can never have marital sex. They may do other things, but it is not conjugal sex and can never be. The union can never be marriage because it can never be conjugal–regardless of procreation or fertility.

I do agree with you that contraception led directly to same sex marriage, since it essentially divorced children from marriage. Those who supported contraception supported its end result–same sex marriage.
 
How terrible that we should ignore history. :rolleyes:

It’s not like it once was in colonial America, for example, where a wife could not own or acquire property, enter into a contract or write a will without her husband’s permission. In 17th century New England, a woman might be referred to not as “Mary Brown” or even as “Mrs John Brown” but as “John Brown his wife.” A widow was often referred to as her husband’s “relict” which has the same etymology as the word “relic”.

As Sir William Blackstone says in his Commentaries on the Laws of England (Oxford: Clarendon Press, 1765-1769), 1: 442:
And what makes our system better?

Benedicat Deus,
Latinitas
 
I would suggest that we argue what is essential to marriage, union and procreation. It doesn’t really matter how you argue against gay marriage, if you can’t convince people that procreation is essential to marriage than you have no hope of convincing people that gay marriage is ok.

I mean think about it, what is the difference between opposite sex marriage and same sex marriage?

In a traditional marriage, two people who feel very close to each other decide to enter into a long-term relationship.

In a same-sex marriage, two people who feel very close to each other decide to enter into a long-term relationship.

what is the difference? Pretty simple a traditional couple can reproduce, a same-sex couple cannot. That really is all it comes down too. If you can’t argue that reproduction is essential to marriage, just as the Church teaches, we lost the argument before it even starts.

Personally I believe the wide acceptance of contraception is one of the main causes of this wider acceptance of same-sex marriage. IF sexual relations in a marriage, doesn’t need to be open to children, what makes it different than any other sexual relationship?

In all people there is the sexual drive, it is a part of who we are naturally, and it is why we have sexual relations, a part of our nature is continuing the species, but of course, we are more than animals so we don’t enter into sexual relationships simply to continue the species, we also enter into them because they allow us to deep intimate relationships that also help each other lead to salvation.

Anyway after this long explanation let me simply say, to support traditional marriage we must prove procreation is essential to marriage.

This is why impotence is an impediment if, now infertility is another issue and I’m no expert on that.
The one thing I want to emphasize here, and in this I do share with the traditionalists their concern for the way many modern Catholics think about marriage, is that, the two goods, union and procreation, are not equal in importance. The primary purpose of marriage is procreation; union is secondary and subordinate to it. That isn’t to say it’s not important - it certainly is. But the procreative aspect is the primary purpose of marriage. Cf. Holy Office Decree of 1944.

I know you’re not promoting anything contrary to the teaching of the Church, but I just want to emphasize this.

Benedicat Deus,
Latinitas
 
The one thing I want to emphasize here, and in this I do share with the traditionalists their concern for the way many modern Catholics think about marriage, is that, the two goods, union and procreation, are not equal in importance. The primary purpose of marriage is procreation; union is secondary and subordinate to it. That isn’t to say it’s not important - it certainly is. But the procreative aspect is the primary purpose of marriage. Cf. Holy Office Decree of 1944.

I know you’re not promoting anything contrary to the ateaching of the Church, but I just want to emphasize this.

Benedicat Deus,
Latinitas
Strictly speaking, unity and procreation are combined into the one act. Husband and wife are physically united, and procreation may result. Physically speaking, the two aspects cannot be separated, (except artificially, and this is contrary to the nature of the marital act.)
 
Strictly speaking, unity and procreation are combined into the one act. Husband and wife are physically united, and procreation may result. Physically speaking, the two aspects cannot be separated, (except artificially, and this is contrary to the nature of the marital act.)
No doubt. But, conceptually, the procreative aspect is the principal one. If you think about, it would not be necessary to have a special union, sanctioned in law, for the unitive aspect, but the procreative aspect does require this.

So, I agree with you, but it’s important to stress that the procreative purpose is the primary one to which all others are subordinate.

Benedicat Deus,
Latinitas
 
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