Is Catholic Match a ghost town?

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Is Catholic Match.com a ghost town? I always see either messages from people on the opposite side of the country or dead accounts?
 
You posted a link to a secular website with a similar name. You don’t work for them, do you? Not that there’s anything inherently wrong with a secular website. I met my son’s mother through another popular secular website. The way it turned out (note that I didn’t say ‘wife’) is not the medium’s fault, rather both of ours, which would be the case even if we had met the so-called old-fashioned way due to bad decisions starting a few months into the relationship, ignoring warning flags, and choosing to cohabitate before we were even securely boyfriend/girlfriend, much less husband/wife. It was a different time in my life at least, and I can’t speak for her. I will say that the crisis led me back to my dormant and dying faith.

Because of modern society’s penchant for isolating people, the wonderful internet seems like the way to connect for anything, up to finding a spouse. The problem is that people are more willing to misrepresent themselves with an on line profile or to click ignore when she finds that out his salary isn’t what she wants or that she doesn’t have a 28-inch waist with a G-cup bust. IDK if that’s the problem with CM since I’ve never been there; I’m generalizing from what we all know about the internet and about modern society.

As to the specifics of your question, after reading the reviews, I suspect it’s a ghost town at best and scam at worst. TBH, I suspect the same of the secular websites, based on memory. The reason I think that is because of a more narrow pool of users than on a secular website combined with the business habit of pumping up a product to unrealistic expectations. Oh, but don’t worry if you upgrade and pay us more money, you’ll have more success.

In the end, all I can really say is for Catholics to trust in the Lord, which despite sounding trite and cliched depending on levels of faith, really actually says it all. As for me, I have come to realize that being a husband is not what God wants for me, so I’ll just focus on being the best father of a broken home I can be. Sorry to be such a downer. I think I’ll say a prayer for single people once I click the blue button.
 
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My own experience with it several years ago tells me that it is.
I’ve heard other people complain of this too.

I ended up meeting my wife on this website. Just randomly while posting.

I think it would be worth looking into having a dating forum or actual site as a sub section of Catholic Answers. Quite a few people met their spouses here.

There’s also Ave Maria singles, which I know nothing about but the name.
 
I tried using Catholicmatch a few years ago, and found it disappointing. To be honest, most of the men with whom I corresponded didn’t really seem to be all that serious about the faith. They were using it as just another website to try to find casual dates.
 
I also tried Catholicmatch awhile back. Found the women just as picky there as they are on the secular dating sites. It’s ok, I accept that’s just how that is, I just have to get out of the house and meet people in real life. That does work.
 
Yeah I agree, many men say “no” to chastity or contraception Church questions. I get a lot of messages from men who live thousands of miles away from me as well
 
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Looks. I saw no difference between CM and secular sites around this. In general, women are almost as bad as men online. I’m not tall or good looking so I have to meet women in real life then I have a chance I usually didn’t get online.
 
My husband and I met each other on Catholicmatch.com, but that was almost 8 years ago. I don’t know what it’s like now. I didn’t find a whole lot of men, but I was only looking for one. I did really enjoy talking to others on their forums.
 
thats true i generally ignore messages from people who look kinda scary…
 
but in all fairness, i think people who take care of themselves by eating right, exercising, and being well-groomed tend to be more attractive, i am more attracted to people who take care of their bodies in general, regardless of height
 
Depends where you live. There are tons of people on that site, in general but if you live in a rural area or somewhere where there are not many Catholics then you may not have many people to talk to if you want a non long distance relationship. I live close to Los Angeles (real close) and southern Cali is heavily populated so at any given time there was always about 800 active women I could message within 100 miles from me. They were not all online at the same time but you can check who has been active on that site within a given time period to see which profiles have a actual person behind it and who left the site but forgot to delete their profile. But I remember people who lived in the middle of nowhere saying that there was nobody on catholicmatch.

It is Catholicsingles that is a ghost town. I did a experiment. Most women even if they want to reject you will at least read your message. All these dating sites will let you know when your message has been read. Well, I messaged a few hundred women on catholicsingles and the vast majority never even opened their message even weeks later. That indicated a inactive profile. This was rarely ever the case on Catholicmatch for me. The message would get read 99% of the time even if I did not get a reply 80% of the time lol.

Ave Maria singles… dont get me started there. There were like 10 women in a 100 mile radius from me on that site and most of them also had a profile on Catholicmatch anyways.

You will hear lots of people complain about online dating but it worked for me. It took me about 3 1/2 active years of looking but I found a woman and we recently became engaged. Fortunately she lives less than a hour away so we see each other every weekend. Online dating takes patience and acceptance. Accepting that you will be ignored and rejected a lot can mean the difference between success or complaining about how online dating does not work while still being single for years on end.
 
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Thanks for sharing your story once again. Glad to hear that online dating worked for you. 🙂 Just as it worked for countless others on CM with their success stories.

But let’s not invalidate what other people have experienced. For some it worked/works, some doesn’t. Even on the CM blog there’s Mary Beth Bonacci who is as far as I know, single in her 50s.

I myself have tried and am trying CM on top of the other things I’m doing.

Fact is, not everyone who wants to get married will get married. Not everyone who prays for healing for a loved one from terminal illness will have their prayers answered with a yes.

Not everyone who tries no matter how hard they work or resourceful they are will achieve their goals.

That is just the way it is. We don’t know WHY, but God knows.
 
Yeah I think it also depends on the demographic. I’m guessing most younger men less than 30 are on there for the same reasons they would be on any other dating website, to date around the field rather than legitimately look for marriage.(Not implying they have bad intentions)
 
There is a big difference between someone saying “Online dating does not work” and “Online dating did not work for me” I take no issue with the second quote however the first one irks me a bit but I am obviously biased 😀
 
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