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Brennan_Doherty
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I do mean that an attempt to just get along and avoid offending is effeminate and I do mean that as a bad thing. Femininity, however, is very good and is part of the nature of women. I also think femininity can seen as part of the nature of the Church in her care for the poor and in the beauty in her art and architecture (which is one reason why it is so wrong to eliminate beauty from the Church’s liturgy, art, and architecture).Why do you call it effeminate as if it is a bad thing? Is that what you mean?
The ultimate mission is not just to get along and avoid offending. The beginning of ecumenism is charity. Once you have established a charitable and fraternal relationship, where there is trust, then you can proceed to deeper topics. You can’t have a conversation about something as serious as faith unless you have trust that the other side is not out to do you harm. We can’t just say, “Let’s sit down so that we can tell you how you’re wrong and we’re right.” This is not the way that human nature works. This will simply make people angry, offend them and less interested in hearing what you have to say. You have to build on common ground, that is charity and trust, plus whatever beliefs you share.
Whether this approach is effeminate or not, it doesn’t really matter. Afterall, we do call the Church “Mother”. In a sense, the Church is called to be effeminate. There is nothing wrong with being feminine. As the millions of Catholic women who have saved the Church from disaster, including Catherine of Siena and Teresa of Avila. Mother Teresa did more to promote the Catholic Church in India than most of her male counterparts.
I guess I’m confused as to why you call it “effeminate” and if you mean that being effeminate is a bad thing. I hope not. You may reconsider your wording as this is offensive to women.
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I use the term effeminate primarily to characterize men (and I’m not pointing any fingers), who should be acting in a masculine manner, acting in a more feminine manner which is inappropriate.
St. Catherine of Siena was feminine, yet at the same time she was very clear and direct and said what needed to be said regardless of the circumstances. So, she was feminine, but not effeminate.
I do agree that in personal relationships one should not be a jerk. However, let’s just say I prefer the strong, direct manner (which is charitable) of encyclicals like Mortalium Animos or Pascendi.