Is chastity a gift that unmarried couple give to each other?

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See title. We should pursue chastity for it’s own sake, but in the context of a romantic relationship does it take on the quality of being a mutual gift?
 
I think it could be seen as that, and much, much more. The Church tells us in the Catechism:

“2350 Those who are engaged to marry are called to live chastity in continence. They should see in this time of testing a discovery of mutual respect, an apprenticeship in fidelity, and the hope of receiving one another from God. They should reserve for marriage the expressions of affection that belong to married love. They will help each other grow in chastity.”

The Catechism actually devotes an entire section to the subject of “The Vocation to Chastity”.
vatican.va/archive/ENG0015/__P85.HTM
 
We are all called to chastity - appropriate to our state in life - throughout all our lives. Husbands and wives are equally called to marital chastity, and in that sense I think chastity is a continuing gift that married spouses also give to each other throughout their entire married life.
 
See title. We should pursue chastity for it’s own sake, but in the context of a romantic relationship does it take on the quality of being a mutual gift?
2337 Chastity means the successful integration of sexuality within the person and thus the inner unity of man in his bodily and spiritual being. Sexuality, in which man’s belonging to the bodily and biological world is expressed, becomes personal and truly human when it is integrated into the relationship of one person to another, in the complete and lifelong mutual gift of a man and a woman.

The virtue of chastity therefore involves the integrity of the person and the integrality of the gift.

Its all about recognizing that sexual activity is the act of giving and surrendering yourself sexually to another person. This gift of self is the gift. You’re not giving chastity. You’re giving yourself and entering into a mysterious communion with a marital meaning. Acts against chastity remove this self donative aspect of sex, reserve the gift of self and turn the act into a mere casual pursuit of sexual pleasure.

As such, married couples remain chaste by engaging in sexual activity in a manner that does not thwart the Divine purposes God designed sex for and respects the integrity of the people involved.
 
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