*…*Back to the point of this - I really have a very hard time believing that the church would rather have my husband and I choose bewtween being able to be with my husband and a likelyhood of getting pregnant (as I have 6 times) and having to make a choice between possibly having both of us dying or ending the pregnancy…he can not imagine Christ wanting us to have to make that kind of choice - nor can I.
The implication is that there is not another choice. There is. You don’t have to have sex at all. Christ, in fact, promoted this choice, so I don’t have to imagine that he would reject this option. I understand that in this “sex worshipping” world we live in, it is hard to imagine making such a choice. However, there are many couples faced with far worse medical problems than yours that have no other choice. Contrary to popular belief, you will
not die if you don’t have sex.
Furthermore, it would be a grave mistake to think there is no risk of death by choosing to using birth control. You are ALREADY making the choice of a “a likelihood of getting pregnant” everytime you have sex, whether you are on the pill or not.
For instance, a friend of my daughter just got pregnant using “the pill,” and her reaction was as if such a thing was
impossible. It is absurd to think that “the pill” will eliminate the risk of getting pregnant. For instance, studies show that about 60% of all women who seek an abortion do so BECAUSE their use of
artificial birth control FAILED. Women become pregnant using artificial birth control
all the time, and it has led to millions of innocent human beings being killed in abortion. Such is the tragic effect of misplaced faith in “the pill.”
Should couples be choosing to have sex if they are not prepared for the “likelihood of getting pregnant” or cannot handle the consequences of sex? When taking such risks, they should understand that the
Church is not “
making” them choose such risk of pregnancy (and perhaps death).
A more prudent choice may be to find other ways to express affection other than conjugal acts which may turn out to have deadly consequences.