Is Having A Huge Blow-Out w/ Husband A Mortal Sin?

[smichhertz]

Father heard my confession! Thanks everyone for the help.

Wonderful!

For future reference:

If anger reaches the point of a deliberate desire to kill or seriously wound a neighbor, it is gravely against charity; it is a mortal sin. The Lord says, “Everyone who is angry with his brother shall be liable to judgment.” - CCC 2303

I do not think you committed a mortal sin unless you had a deliberate desire to seriously hurt your husband. But you made the right decision by not taking chances, and playing it safe by going to confession before mass. I commend you for it!

 

[Seatuck]

While I appreciate that this advice is given in a charitable spirit, it is poor advice to give to a faithful Catholic about a Catholic issue.
As dailey says, it goes against our faith.

Now - I will say this - If dailey had attempted to have her confession heard but was unable due to the priest being quite busy on an Easter Sunday morning, then I personally, would say it is OK to receive - with the continued intent to get to confession as soon as possible.
But as I say - that is my personal view.

Peace
James

Yes, your personal view which isn’t in line with our faith. It would be ok if Dailey was about to go to battle in a war or was in some other life threatening situation or extreme situation where confession is not available at all. But since she isn’t then no, she would have had to wait.

Happy Easter!

 

[Gift_from_God]

Nah, I don’t think it’s a mortal sin. If losing your temper and yelling at people was a mortal sin, we’d all be going to hell

 

[JRKH]

Nah, I don’t think it’s a mortal sin. If losing your temper and yelling at people was a mortal sin, we’d all be going to hell

Your response saddens me since you seem to be justifying something that is so clearly agains the primary and greatest commandent, which is Love.

It isn’t about what we “Do” for we are all guilty of sin and deserving of hell Rather it is about what we repent of and seek to never do again 9though we maight fail)

“Losing your temper and yelling at people” is a grave act. It speak of anger which Christ specifically says we will be held to judgement for.
Anger is listed as one of the “7 deadly sins”, so to think that “losing your temper and yelling at people” is somehow not grave - just because it might happen a lot - is a mistake.

Peace
James

 

[benidict]

Thanks everyone for the responses.

I knew I was sinning by screaming at him but I continued to do so since I was so angry with him. I said things to him that were belittling…so i suppose it was a grave matter?

I have never asked a priest to absolve me of my sins before mass. Is this something that is common? This makes me a bit nervous as I don’t want to seem pushy, especially on Easter.

Its in a womans nature to do this to her husband during a heated argument…Your forgiven… Just dont hit us with a rolling pin. We can take anything but that! Happy Easter!

 

[benidict]

Your response saddens me since you seem to be justifying something that is so clearly agains the primary and greatest commandent, which is Love.

It isn’t about what we “Do” for we are all guilty of sin and deserving of hell Rather it is about what we repent of and seek to never do again 9though we maight fail)

“Losing your temper and yelling at people” is a grave act. It speak of anger which Christ specifically says we will be held to judgement for.
Anger is listed as one of the “7 deadly sins”, so to think that “losing your temper and yelling at people” is somehow not grave - just because it might happen a lot - is a mistake.

Peace
James

So, my brother. Paul was guilty of mortal sin, when he had a very severe verbal altercation with another Apostle, reguarding taking Mark on a missionary trip? I dont think they ever did resolve this. So did Paul die with a grave matter on his heart? It didnt stop his ministry either. Come to think of it, may be they did reconcile down the road. But what if he would have died before they did? Interesting. Happy Easter!

 

[JRKH]

So, my brother. Paul was guilty of mortal sin, when he had a very severe verbal altercation with another Apostle, reguarding taking Mark on a missionary trip? I dont think they ever did resolve this. So did Paul die with a grave matter on his heart? It didnt stop his ministry either. Come to think of it, may be they did reconcile down the road. But what if he would have died before they did? Interesting. Happy Easter!

I think you speak well when you mention that they might have resolved the matter. He also might have talked the matter over with a fellow bishop (Timothy?) and received forgiveness. We do not know.
We do know what Jesus said about anger. We also know that Paul, in his letters, exhorts the faithful to be at peace and to avoid disagreements and contention.

However, the main issue here is to help our sister in her trouble no and not debate a particular situation with St Paul 2 millenia ago.

Peace
James

 

[benidict]

I think you speak well when you mention that they might have resolved the matter. He also might have talked the matter over with a fellow bishop (Timothy?) and received forgiveness. We do not know.
We do know what Jesus said about anger. We also know that Paul, in his letters, exhorts the faithful to be at peace and to avoid disagreements and contention.

However, the main issue here is to help our sister in her trouble no and not debate a particular situation with St Paul 2 millenia ago.

Peace
James

It may have been 2 millenia ago, but it is relevant about the issue, of how to handle a relational conflict. I think it would fit into this situation very well. Peace

 

[JRKH]

It may have been 2 millenia ago, but it is relevant about the issue, of how to handle a relational conflict. I think it would fit into this situation very well. Peace

Well if the OP agrees then I suppose we can try to go into it a bit…
But regardless, anger is still listed as one of the Seven Deadly sins…

Peace
James

 

[benidict]

Well if the OP agrees then I suppose we can try to go into it a bit…
But regardless, anger is still listed as one of the Seven Deadly sins…

Peace
James

Ahh, but it is written. In your anger do not sin. It is not the anger that is the problem, it is what we do with it. Sometimes anger is a good thing. Like when I detain someone for beating their wife. I would hope Im a bit angry about it. But if I then in turn abuse him, well…I think you get what I mean. It is off topic your right. we could probably start a new thread on anger management? Peace

 

[JRKH]

Ahh, but it is written. In your anger do not sin. It is not the anger that is the problem, it is what we do with it. Sometimes anger is a good thing. Like when I detain someone for beating their wife. I would hope Im a bit angry about it. But if I then in turn abuse him, well…I think you get what I mean. It is off topic your right. we could probably start a new thread on anger management? Peace

It is also written:
“But I say to you that every one who is angry with his brother shall be liable to judgment; whoever insults his brother shall be liable to the council, and whoever says, ‘You fool!’ shall be liable to the hell of fire.” (Mt 5:22)
Not only was the OP angry with a “brother”, she was angry with her husband!! And she describes this expression of anger as a “Huge Blow-Out”.
Certainly a different situation than “detaining someone for beating their wife”.

I wonder if she called her husband, “You fool”…

Your right though it is off topic…

Peace
James

P.S. I should probably say here that my first marriage was a bit on the explosive side (understatement), while my current marriage is really the exact opposite, so I may be a bit sensative on this subject.

 

[benidict]

It is also written:
“But I say to you that every one who is angry with his brother shall be liable to judgment; whoever insults his brother shall be liable to the council, and whoever says, ‘You fool!’ shall be liable to the hell of fire.” (Mt 5:22)
Not only was the OP angry with a “brother”, she was angry with her husband!! And she describes this expression of anger as a “Huge Blow-Out”.
Certainly a different situation than “detaining someone for beating their wife”.

I wonder if she called her husband, “You fool”…

Your right though it is off topic…

Peace
James

P.S. I should probably say here that my first marriage was a bit on the explosive side (understatement), while my current marriage is really the exact opposite, so I may be a bit sensative on this subject.

I praise God your second marriage is going better. I hope mine does too. I know she has a much sweeter disposition than the first one…I still will watch out for rolling pins though. Women can be very fast when they want to be. Hopefully I will be married within the year.