Is it a sin to call a girl hot?

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I would much rather be called beautiful or lovely or pretty than hot.

My boyfriend calls me “Lady”. I love that! It’s so dignifying and beautiful and makes me realize why I wanted to be with him in the first place.
 
yes because in modern terms hot gives reference to a sexual idea of that woman “o she is hot, and i wanna have sex with her” kind of lustful idea. tho you yourself may not mean it in that way. i prefer to use the word beautiful much more intelegent and caring way to refer to a woman rather than “o she’s hot wouldn’t she be great sex.”
srry this annoys me at school with how women are objectified
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I am very conservative, and so I hate the term “hot”. When someone says it, it strikes me as though they are not considering anything deep about the girl. Its like, you are hot, your body is “hot” and nothing else matters. You could be the biggest in the world, but that doesn’t matter because you are hot. But when a guys says, you are beautiful, he means everything about her. (yes her body, too) but also her personality, how she acts, and her soul. The girl I like is really beautiful, not because she has a really nice body (I am so shallow), but I also love her soul above all. (this happens because all we do together, which isn’t much, is religious stuff).

Hot is a shallow term that doesn’t mean much. I could go to the city, walk up to a pretty girl and say," you are hot." and it is meaningless. If you really love the girl, and everything about her, she is definately beautiful.

So please use they correct terms… and if you use “hot” you shouldn’t be talking to her. 🤷
 
Verisimilitude said:
If they were the ones who first said “Let there be Light” they might deserve such respect.

If we had never exercised Free Will in opposition to God in the Garden we would be vegetarians since the first Blessing gave us only the fruits of the trees and other plants to eat.

I was impressed that my friend, in his search for God tried to strip away all of those later concessions (other foods, divorce…) to Man, had himself become a vegetarian in an effort worship I AM in they way he thought we were originally intended to.

Like I said, for me it is a personal thing for personal reasons. Sorry to have upset anyone or to have hijacked the thread.
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My Catechist Priest who took intensive studies in Hebrew University once explained to us that Hebrew language does not spell vowels. For example Yahweh is written in Hebrew alphabet as Y-W-H. So are other names- simply because that’s how Hebrew writing is organized. So it’s not really because of too much reverence.
 
Most of the time when I use the word ‘hot’ I’m just talking to my friends, out of earshot of the girl in question. I don’t think it’s a sin to comment on someone’s attractiveness. But I reckon even if I was talking to the girl in question, calling her ‘hot’ - telling her I think she’s physically attractive, in longer words - would be a compliment. I guess though some girls could be offended by the term, so if you knew a girl would be offended by it and you say it to her face, then it may be a minor sin.
 
Epsilon_Omega said:
I am very conservative, and so I hate the term “hot”. When someone says it, it strikes me as though they are not considering anything deep about the girl. Its like, you are hot, your body is “hot” and nothing else matters. You could be the biggest in the world, but that doesn’t matter because you are hot. But when a guys says, you are beautiful, he means everything about her. (yes her body, too) but also her personality, how she acts, and her soul. The girl I like is really beautiful, not because she has a really nice body (I am so shallow), but I also love her soul above all. (this happens because all we do together, which isn’t much, is religious stuff).

Hot is a shallow term that doesn’t mean much. I could go to the city, walk up to a pretty girl and say," you are hot." and it is meaningless. If you really love the girl, and everything about her, she is definately beautiful.

So please use they correct terms… and if you use “hot” you shouldn’t be talking to her. 🤷
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Very well said! 👍
 
I have always thought the term to be childish. Like a teenage boy saying it about someone in his class. And, they should be taught otherwise. I cringe when I hear grown men…like in their
40’s …50’s…saying it.

It’s like turn your ballcap back around the RIGHT way, and start talking like an adult.:rolleyes: We all know you’re not 20…k?
 
Cari said:
Just curious, but what, in your mind, is the difference between physical beauty in a person and sexiness?
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That’s two different things. Beautiful and sexually attractive is not the same. Not even attractive has to be sexy. Beautiful is appealing to the aesthetical sense. Sexy is appealing to the biological drive. Look at a mediaeval figure of a saint. Especially female. Beautiful? Most probably yes. Sexy? Not applicable. Sexy carries a sexual association. Beautiful not really - although beautiful physical traits will often coincide with sexy ones.

This still doesn’t make the use of the word “sexy” a sin, though. But I think we shouldn’t equate sexiness to beauty. Especially with the whole modern cultural load.
 
I’ve run into this situation. I prefer to use the term “pretty” or “attractive” rather than “hot”. “Hot” implies something sexual and even objectifying, while “pretty” and “attractive” don’t.
 
chevalier said:
That’s two different things. Beautiful and sexually attractive is not the same. Not even attractive has to be sexy. Beautiful is appealing to the aesthetical sense. Sexy is appealing to the biological drive. Look at a mediaeval figure of a saint. Especially female. Beautiful? Most probably yes. Sexy? Not applicable. Sexy carries a sexual association. Beautiful not really - although beautiful physical traits will often coincide with sexy ones.

This still doesn’t make the use of the word “sexy” a sin, though. But I think we shouldn’t equate sexiness to beauty. Especially with the whole modern cultural load.
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I think sexiness is a form of beauty.
 
cor said:
I think sexiness is a form of beauty.
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Hmm… Not sure I can agree. The material designate of “sexy” may coincide with the material designate of “beautiful”, but the two are different things in principle, so while the beautiful may be sexy or the sexy may be beautiful, the principle is different. Beauty is about aesthetics, sexiness is about some intensity of attraction of a specific kind. I think it’s the way people use those two words that breeds confusion. If it’s confusing with people, it’s less confusing with cloths, for example. Take a beautiful dress and a sexy dress, for example. Or a beautiful top and a sexy top, a beautiful skirt and a sexy skirt. So far as sexy means flattering, that might be a form of beauty, but when it crosses the line of trying to cause lust, then… well, there’s nothing beautiful in sin. Admittedly, “sexy” is not the first word that comes to mind upon seeing a trashy outfit, but you get the idea.
 
chevalier said:
Hmm… Not sure I can agree. The material designate of “sexy” may coincide with the material designate of “beautiful”, but the two are different things in principle, so while the beautiful may be sexy or the sexy may be beautiful, the principle is different. Beauty is about aesthetics, sexiness is about some intensity of attraction of a specific kind. I think it’s the way people use those two words that breeds confusion. If it’s confusing with people, it’s less confusing with cloths, for example. Take a beautiful dress and a sexy dress, for example. Or a beautiful top and a sexy top, a beautiful skirt and a sexy skirt. So far as sexy means flattering, that might be a form of beauty, but when it crosses the line of trying to cause lust, then… well, there’s nothing beautiful in sin. Admittedly, “sexy” is not the first word that comes to mind upon seeing a trashy outfit, but you get the idea.
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I would agree that lust-inciting-ness would not be a kind of beauty, but I maintain that sexiness is. Beauty is the quality in an object that makes it attractive to one’s experience. Sexiness is the quality in an object (object is a term used in contemporary philosophy to include things like persons) that make it attractive in a certain way to one’s experience. A sunset is attractive in one way and a sexy lady is attractive in another way – but in both cases there is attractiveness involved and therefore the objective quality of beauty is present in both.
 
Hot usually means that you are lusting for her…looking at her as an object, not as an extension of yourself as when you give of yourself in a covenant marital relationship.

Therefore, lusting for a girl…even it thought is a sin.
 
“hot” is just the current slang term for “whoa, that is one pretty gal”.

(fill in the blanks for the previous decade’s term… and oh, the same conundrums about her chastity still apply)
 
Yes, because such a statement is almost always derived from lustful thoughts.
 
Holly3278 said:
Yes, because such a statement is almost always derived from lustful thoughts.
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Do I have one of the exceptions? I think my wife is hot! I tell her that frequently, but I try to refrain when the children are around. 🙂

Dan

(If I repeated someone’s previous post, please excuse me. I read about half of the others and did not see this one.)
 
Dan_Grelinger said:
Do I have one of the exceptions? I think my wife is hot! I tell her that frequently, but I try to refrain when the children are around. 🙂

Dan

(If I repeated someone’s previous post, please excuse me. I read about half of the others and did not see this one.)
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It depends on if you call her hot out of lust or not. 🙂
 
Holly3278 said:
It depends on if you call her hot out of lust or not. 🙂
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No, I don’t think so. We don’t contracept, and I don’t knowingly abuse her in any other way.

For the other common situations this word may be used, the contemporary meaning of the word is sexually desirable. I can’t think of any normal circumstance where telling that directly to a girl (who you are not married to, or will be by the end of the day) could be a good thing. If said about her to someone else, it could easily be sin (objectification) or at least the occasion of sin (something tending to lead to willful impure thoughts). It would be good to avoid all of these situations.

Dan
 
I called a friend of mine “hot” just yesterday.

I had this specific thread in mind when I did it. She was dressed in jeans and a black spaghetti-strap top.

She didn’t mind at all, took it as the compliment that it was intended as, and all’s good.

No offence, no sexual innuendos no mis-understanings…and yes, she is Catholic.
 
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