Is it a sin to miss Mass like this?

[Teeliumtrozzle]

My mother promised to take me to the cathedral in the city today.But then when I went to her house she wasn’t there.She went off somewhere else, even though she promised.Then I went home to my father but of course he wouldn’t let me go off by myself, and he certainly wouldn’t take me. By then it was too late to go to Mass locally,and I had to stay home for the rest of the day.So I didn’t get to go to Mass. I really wanted to go, I’d been looking forward to it all week!Now I won’t have another chance until wednesday, at the earliest,and probably not till next weekend.And what makes me really mad is I missed the first Advent candle!And I love Advent!Is this a sin?

 

[LilyM]

My mother promised to take me to the cathedral in the city today.But then when I went to her house she wasn’t there.She went off somewhere else, even though she promised.Then I went home to my father but of course he wouldn’t let me go off by myself, and he certainly wouldn’t take me. By then it was too late to go to Mass locally,and I had to stay home for the rest of the day.So I didn’t get to go to Mass. I really wanted to go, I’d been looking forward to it all week!Now I won’t have another chance until wednesday, at the earliest,and probably not till next weekend.And what makes me really mad is I missed the first Advent candle!And I love Advent!Is this a sin?

It’s not a sin since you’re too young to be going by yourself (and clearly your father’s decided that you are, it would indeed be a sin to disobey him).

It’s a shame your mother didn’t deliver on her promise, perhaps in future it’s best to go on Saturday vigil if you can, then if you get to go elsewhere on Sunday it’s a pleasant bonus and no problems if you can’t.

 

[Teeliumtrozzle]

Thats good, thanks!

 

[baltobetsy]

I know you already have the right answer, but, for the sake of education, let’s have you arrive at the right answer for yourself.

A sin is always something you do on purpose. Did you miss Mass today on purpose? No? Then it’s not a sin.

You can apply this test to anything at all that you may think is a sin. The whole test is this: The action must be wrong. You must know it is wrong, and you must choose freely to do it anyway.

Betsy

 

[teachccd]

Teeliumtrozzle, (I hope that I spelled it right ) I just have to add that at your age you are doing great and God is very pleased with you. Keep up the good work and know that not only did you not sin but God knows how much you intended to attend Mass. Should only the rest of those your age be so responsible to themselves and to God…teachccd

 

[Catholig]

It’s not a sin since you’re too young to be going by yourself (and clearly your father’s decided that you are, it would indeed be a sin to disobey him).

It’s a shame your mother didn’t deliver on her promise, perhaps in future it’s best to go on Saturday vigil if you can, then if you get to go elsewhere on Sunday it’s a pleasant bonus and no problems if you can’t.

LilyM,

I don’t know about this case in particular, but my understanding is that if your parent or guardian asks you to do something immoral, or neglect your responsibility to god then you can disobey him in that matter, because your first responsibility is to God.

Catholig

 

[baltobetsy]

LilyM,

I don’t know about this case in particular, but my understanding is that if your parent or guardian asks you to do something immoral, or neglect your responsibility to god then you can disobey him in that matter, because your first responsibility is to God.

Catholig

It’s pretty hard to disobey your parents’ wish to keep you from going to Mass if you are 14 years old and have no transportation.

Betsy

 

[teachccd]

LilyM,

I don’t know about this case in particular, but my understanding is that if your parent or guardian asks you to do something immoral, or neglect your responsibility to god then you can disobey him in that matter, because your first responsibility is to God.

Catholig

God gave parents stewardship over their children. A child may think in his or her mind that they are being responsible to God by going to meetings with their Jehovah’s Witness neighbor and a parent may object. So your comment is not always necessarily correct in all circumstances. The fourth commandment states that we must honor our mother and father. In order to disobey his parents he may have had to do something else that would upset his parents or endanger himself. Parents are the primary religious educators of their children. It is their faith that they present to their children at baptism and it is their responsibility to see that child through their faith until such a time that that child can carry on himself. It is their culpability if they stray from that and the child has no culpability in that matter until they are independant enough to go to Mass on their own…teachccd