Is it a sin to not do what a priest merely recommends?

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Is it a sin to not do what a priest merely recommends?

Or to not do what any other good man recommends, since a good man is the standard for all men that are not as good?
 
Is it a sin to not do what a priest merely recommends?

Or to not do what any other good man recommends, since a good man is the standard for all men that are not as good?
i think it depends on the actual situation
  • the priest might recommend me to brush my teeth - good idea yes - but is it a sin not too - probably not… at least i dont think so
 
The question is far too vague for us to answer without speculation.

Did the priest recommend something in the confessional as spiritual counseling?
Did you ask him his advice in a pastoral context? Is he your pastor or spiritual director?
Does the matter have to do with faith and morals?
 
he just recommended to come to confession more regularly or something like that.
 
It all matters on ‘why’ you don’t do what he recommends. Why wouldn’t you go to confession more often? What is it about that recommendation that you would disagree with? The why determines if there is a sin there.
 
he just recommended to come to confession more regularly or something like that.
The answer is in the question itself. If the priest has “recommended” it, in language which is clear that it is a recommendation only, then it is not sinful, in itself, to not follow his recommendation. Of course, this is not a license to do something which is sinful by other standards (eg. If I don’t follow my priest’s “recommendation” to avoid fornication I have still committed I mortal sin!), but, there is no sin of disobedience or disrespect in not following a recommendation which was not issued with authority.

As a general rule, treat the priest’s guidance with respect, and don’t discard it without a reason, but, if you decide to not act on it then there is no sin (of disobedience or disrespect).

Note, the question is, “Is it a sin”. That is all that I have addressed. Whether or not we **should **follow a priest’s recommendations is another question. But it is not, in itself, sinful. It is nothing that would prevent me from receiving communion, or something which I should confess.
 
he just recommended to come to confession more regularly or something like that.
Obviously that is not a sin and to answer your previous question it is also not a sin not to do what any good man recommends.

What Church teachings lead you to believe that these could be sins?
 
Obviously that is not a sin and to answer your previous question it is also not a sin not to do what any good man recommends.

What Church teachings lead you to believe that these could be sins?
Thanks. A more simple response than mine! Yes - “obviously” 🙂 (although it did take me a few years in the Catholic faith to understand that sin is different from not always doing the best thing, and even longer to understand that conscience has a place beside Church authority)
 
It all matters on ‘why’ you don’t do what he recommends. Why wouldn’t you go to confession more often? What is it about that recommendation that you would disagree with? The why determines if there is a sin there.
Are you going to confession once a year? If the issue is how much you go to confession, and you’re NOT going once a year as the Chruch teaches, then I would think you might be asking the wrong question. Inherently, there isn’t sin in not doing what the priest recommends, but inherently there is sin in not going to confession once a year.

Not sure I worded that in the best way. :rolleyes:
 
Is it a sin to not do what a priest merely recommends?

Or to not do what any other good man recommends, since a good man is the standard for all men that are not as good?
No. We don’t need to leave our brains at the door. We should take priestly advise in light of his role as spiritual advisor, and allow ourselves to grow in humility. We should overcome any sins that might hinder us from taking good advise. But if its apparant that the advise really doesn’t fit well with your situation and that there is no objective sins taking place, than take it with a grain of salt.
 
The answer is in the question itself. If the priest has “recommended” it, in language which is clear that it is a recommendation only, then it is not sinful, in itself, to not follow his recommendation. Of course, this is not a license to do something which is sinful by other standards (eg. If I don’t follow my priest’s “recommendation” to avoid fornication I have still committed I mortal sin!), but, there is no sin of disobedience or disrespect in not following a recommendation which was not issued with authority.

As a general rule, treat the priest’s guidance with respect, and don’t discard it without a reason, but, if you decide to not act on it then there is no sin (of disobedience or disrespect).

Note, the question is, “Is it a sin”. That is all that I have addressed. Whether or not we **should **follow a priest’s recommendations is another question. But it is not, in itself, sinful. It is nothing that would prevent me from receiving communion, or something which I should confess.
Taking it further, even refusing to following a Priest’s command would not be inherently sinful.
 
Taking it further, even refusing to following a Priest’s command would not be inherently sinful.
In general I agree, but I think there are exceptions. Penance assigned in confession is the obvious example - it is inherently sinful not to do an assigned penance. Liturgy would be another matter. If the priest were to command that the people in the pews on the left approach communion before those on the right, then it would be a sin to disobey (without good reason). However, if he were to command me to stop dating a certain woman, just because he thinks she’s bad for me, and no other reason (eg. our marital statuses), then it would not be inherently sinful to disobey. I am struggling to think of any occasion, apart from penance, when it would be inherently sinful to not follow a priest’s command to me on a personal or even spiritual matter - even if he is correct, and the matter involves sin. He can withhold absolution for a just cause, but even then if I don’t do his required action (eg. stop living with my girlfriend) then my sin is not one of disobedience. I think that the Church does not give priests such authority.
 
Are you going to confession once a year? If the issue is how much you go to confession, and you’re NOT going once a year as the Chruch teaches, then I would think you might be asking the wrong question. Inherently, there isn’t sin in not doing what the priest recommends, but inherently there is sin in not going to confession once a year.

Not sure I worded that in the best way. :rolleyes:
We are required to confess our GRAVE sins once a year. I’m sure there are some people out there who don’t have any such sins over the course of the year and therefore are not required to confess at least once a year.

Though I personally think those people are probably people very close to the church who frequent confession anyway.

It is possible that if a person has not commited a grave sin, confession is not required. I hope to be there some year:)
 
Are you going to confession once a year? If the issue is how much you go to confession, and you’re NOT going once a year as the Chruch teaches, then I would think you might be asking the wrong question. Inherently, there isn’t sin in not doing what the priest recommends, but inherently there is sin in not going to confession once a year.

Not sure I worded that in the best way. :rolleyes:
You are wrong. It is not required to go to Confession once a year. You are required to confess mortal sins once a year in order to fulfill the obligation to receive Communion during Easter. However, you are not required to confess once a year if you have not committed any mortal sins.
 
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The answer is in the question itself. If the priest has “recommended” it, in language which is clear that it is a recommendation only, then it is not sinful, in itself, to not follow his recommendation. Of course, this is not a license to do something which is sinful by other standards (eg. If I don’t follow my priest’s “recommendation” to avoid fornication I have still committed I mortal sin!), but, there is no sin of disobedience or disrespect in not following a recommendation which was not issued with authority.

As a general rule, treat the priest’s guidance with respect, and don’t discard it without a reason, but, if you decide to not act on it then there is no sin (of disobedience or disrespect).

Note, the question is, “Is it a sin”. That is all that I have addressed. Whether or not we should follow a priest’s recommendations is another question. But it is not, in itself, sinful. It is nothing that would prevent me from receiving communion, or something which I should confess.
well I thought it was a recommendation since I do go to confession once a year for mortal sins and I confess any mortal sins I think I may have. So I figured, that since I’m relatively normal, then the priest did not say anything that was obligatory. (a little question begging)

But I don’t recall him necessarily saying it was a recommendation. Is thinking that it is a recommendation a safe course?
 
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Thanks. A more simple response than mine! Yes - “obviously” (although it did take me a few years in the Catholic faith to understand that sin is different from not always doing the best thing, and even longer to understand that conscience has a place beside Church authority)
What does this mean? Clearly is not every act that is against right reason a morally bad act, and so a sin?
I suppose I should ask “what do you mean by best”?
 
What does this mean? Clearly is not every act that is against right reason a morally bad act, and so a sin?
I suppose I should ask “what do you mean by best”?
Thanks for the follow up. It’s good for an OP to consider the responses and clarify any further issues.

I will answer with regard to “best”, which was my original word, rather than “right reason”, which is a more specific theological term.

We can always “do better” at the moral and spiritual life, but we only confess those failures which are a violation of God’s laws, or of our actual obligations.

Some examples…

I decide to say a rosary novena for the repose of particular soul. After two days I lose motivation and don’t finish the novena. Would it be best to finish the novena? Yes. Have I sinned? No, because the novena is not required.

Let’s say, however, that my mother falls critically ill. I visit her one day, but then don’t visit or enquire for a week. Have I sinned? Yes, because the natural law does require me to attend to her, and my lack of action will have deeply wounded her.

A final example. I have been lax in my practice of the faith. I resolve to start attending Sunday Mass every week, and saying the rosary every day. After two weeks I fail in both. I must confess missing Sunday Mass, because that is required by God’s law, but I should NOT confess neglect of the rosary, because it is not required.

From Fr. John Hardon’s Modern Catholic Dictionary

**Sin​

Any thought, word, deed, or omission contrary to God’s eternal law. **All actual sins are classified on the basis of this division, where sinful thoughts are essentially desires, the words may either be spoken or otherwise articulated, the deeds involve some external manifestation, and omissions are failures to do what should have been done by a person in a given set of circumstances.
The understanding of “sin” is an area where Catholicism shines in relation to Protestantism. Protestants tend to both reduce actual sins (eg. divorce and remarriage) and multiply non-existent sins (eg. not attending three church meetings a week). These effects often lead to a person performing actual sin in order to avoid imagined “sin”. Catholics can do this too, but the confessional tends to sort us out.
 
well I thought it was a recommendation since I do go to confession once a year for mortal sins and I confess any mortal sins I think I may have. So I figured, that since I’m relatively normal, then the priest did not say anything that was obligatory. (a little question begging)

But I don’t recall him necessarily saying it was a recommendation. Is thinking that it is a recommendation a safe course?
Sorry, but this is “too hard” for me. :(. I can only recommend that you either think it through for yourself, as best you can, or go back to confession and ask him directly. If you can’t see the same priest, then just ask another one.

I have been a similar situation in confession a couple of times and I explicitly asked the priest whether I was obliged to perform a recommended action, just so that it was clear. In both cases the answer was “no”.
 
well I thought it was a recommendation since I do go to confession once a year for mortal sins and I confess any mortal sins I think I may have. So I figured, that since I’m relatively normal, then the priest did not say anything that was obligatory. (a little question begging)

But I don’t recall him necessarily saying it was a recommendation. Is thinking that it is a recommendation a safe course?
Apart from being obliged to do the penance the priest gives you what else do you expect the priest to tell you that is obligatory?
 
well I thought it was a recommendation since I do go to confession once a year for mortal sins and I confess any mortal sins I think I may have. So I figured, that since I’m relatively normal, then the priest did not say anything that was obligatory. (a little question begging)

But I don’t recall him necessarily saying it was a recommendation. Is thinking that it is a recommendation a safe course?
Just one question. Whilst in confession did you agree to do whatever it was the priest “recommended”, or did you just politely listen? In my experience, the priest’s advice is usually given as a monologue and I listen politely and nod with a manner that says “Yes, I will try”, but not necessarily “I will do it” - and the priest understands that is my response also. If the priest is more clear and firm on a matter, then I don’t say “yes” unless I mean it, and, consequently, I am obliged to perform the action afterwards.

It’s a two way dialog. If you have agreed to go to confession more frequently then you are more obliged than if the priest offered it as advice, without you explicitly agreeing.
 
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