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Disobey parents and does this need to be confessed before receiving communion? Judging someone, lust in the heart by looking with eyes.
 
I think only you can judge that, because there are many factors involved. But since you are asking, I think that you already know they might be in your particular case.
 
You are supposed to obey Authority figures in all things but sin, now whether or not it’s a mortal sin, in disobeying them, I think that’s a different question.
 
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I think this statement says a lot. Most kids wouldn’t even think of this. You are clearly one who submits to authority. However, I really encourage you to explore why this is even important to you. Doing something just because you are told to is not necessarily faith. Strong faith involves making a deliberate discernment of why you do what you do. Owning your faith (and life choices in general) builds your character and in general makes you a nicer human being. Much of the evil in the world happens because of people abusing another to compensate for their lack of genuine self esteem.
 
The best attitude is to hate sin in any way it confronts us. Don’t fall into any of these sins. You have the power of your will to resist temptation.
 
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Disobey parents and does this need to be confessed before receiving communion? Judging someone, lust in the heart by looking with eyes.
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YES YES YES!

http://www.vatican.va/archive/ccc_css/archive/catechism/p3s2c2a4.htm

THE FOURTH COMMANDMENT

Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land which the Lord your God gives you.4

He was obedient to them.5

The Lord Jesus himself recalled the force of this "commandment of God."6 The Apostle teaches: “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. ‘Honor your father and mother,’ (This is the first commandment with a promise.) 'that it may be well with you and that you may live long on the earth.”'7

**[2197] The fourth commandment opens the second table of the Decalogue. It shows us the order of charity. God has willed that, after him, we should honor our parents to whom we owe life and who have handed on to us the knowledge of God. We are obliged to honor and respect all those whom God, for our good, has vested with his authority.

**[2198] This commandment is expressed in positive terms of duties to be fulfilled. It introduces the subsequent commandments which are concerned with particular respect for life, marriage, earthly goods, and speech. It constitutes one of the foundations of the social doctrine of the Church.

2199 The fourth commandment is addressed expressly to children in their relationship to their father and mother, because this relationship is the most universal. It likewise concerns the ties of kinship between members of the extended family. It requires honor, affection, and gratitude toward elders and ancestors. Finally, it extends to the duties of pupils to teachers, employees to employers, subordinates to leaders, citizens to their country, and to those who administer or govern it.

This commandment includes and presupposes the duties of parents, instructors, teachers, leaders, magistrates, those who govern, all who exercise authority over others or over a community of persons.

**[2200] Observing the fourth commandment brings its reward: "Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land which the LORD your God gives you."8 Respecting this commandment provides, along with spiritual fruits, temporal fruits of peace and prosperity. Conversely, failure to observe it brings great harm to communities and to individuals.

**[2227] Children in turn contribute to the growth in holiness of their parents.36 Each and everyone should be generous and tireless in forgiving one another for offenses, quarrels, injustices, and neglect. Mutual affection suggests this. The charity of Christ demands it.37
 
OP, if you are underage (and I see above that you are not), the answer is pretty simple, yes you should obey your parents.

As and adult (which you are), not so much, this actually depends on the situation.

The way I see it, as a minor, my parents could “force” me to do what they wanted, as an adult, they shouldn’t be ordering me around anymore, the relationship changes and it becomes a suggestion, instead of an order.

Having said that, my mom did not allow me to go out with friends at 28, because she said I had been going out too much. (Clarify that I was living on my own at this time 😂). So to make her happy I did not go out and my friends had a ball with my mom not “permitting” me to go out at 28. They had a good laugh yes. My mom is still embarrassed by this story, to this day, she still cannot believe I actually followed her on this at that age (I guess since my friends still tease her about it. 😆).

I am in my 40s now, I still value my moms (name removed by moderator)ut, but she has stopped ordering me around. 🤣

Edit to tell another story on the dangers of blind obedience as an adult.

I was in my early 20s (still living at home), and I had this great job. Apparently I was doing a pretty good job because I got promoted to manager early on.

Anyway, phone rings one early evening (around 8pm), and before I even answered the phone, my mom already told me that I was not allowed to go out, over her dead body (yeah, mom is pretty bossy). Turned out it was my boss, emergency meeting as something had happened at the office. All managers to their posts NOW!

I had to tell him I couldn’t attend, as my mom would not allow me out. I got laughed at again…sigh. But that was my life.

I thought nothing of it…until I started not getting invited to manager’s meetings. The company would plan their activities around my “strict” mom and I got left out a lot.

Totally damaged my career and had to switch. Did not become a manager again until 20 years later.

My mom still thinks that it was my boss’ fault, she cannot believe up to this day that my career got damaged because of her meddling, and still says my boss was the unreasonable one.

A shame too, cause that was the only job I absolutely loved. (Which is why I said early on that as an adult, careful with blind obedience.)
 
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