Is it against traditional teaching to be a stay at home father?

[WoundedIcon]

Would that not throw off the whole idea of the husband as head of household? A part of me wants to do this if I can’t exactly work due to disability (young and single right now) but I feel like I would be spurning bibliotraditional teaching.

Heh, I made up a word.

 

[Mrs_Sally]

There is nothing that I am familiar with in church teaching that says a man has to work outside the home in order to be considered the ‘head of the household’. You should be the spiritual head, that is the most important issue.

 

[Aelred_Minor]

Out of caution I don’t want to get too specific in my thoughts here, but one thing that’s safe to say is that husbands are not wives. Their respective roles in the family are not interchangeable. That said, how the differences in the roles of the spouses translate into economic arrangements like who works outside the home is going to be very complicated. In the historical period, men and women have often both worked on the farm, the man no more out of the house than the woman.

 

[jonbhorton]

Would that not throw off the whole idea of the husband as head of household? A part of me wants to do this if I can’t exactly work due to disability (young and single right now) but I feel like I would be spurning bibliotraditional teaching.

Heh, I made up a word.

Seems like you’re putting the cart before the horse. You’re single and young, currently disabled in a manner which apparently leads you to believe you cannot find work. While your disability may preclude you from finding hard labor, there are many options for other work with the proper educational foundation.

I’d worry about overcoming the obstacle in front of you before wondering what pretty, young lady will give you a glass of water on the other side. Hopefully she’s rich.

 

[Marie5890]

Would that not throw off the whole idea of the husband as head of household? A part of me wants to do this if I can’t exactly work due to disability (young and single right now) but I feel like I would be spurning bibliotraditional teaching.

Heh, I made up a word.

I cant speak of the more tradition roles of motherhood and fatherhood, but anecdotally I do know of a Catholic couple where she is the main breadwinner and his is the stay at home father (medically reasons for him, although he could work, but not in the kind of job he wishes)

They will be the first to admit, it’s a strain on their marriage. Big time. It works economically for their family, but it’s not a situation that they advise. Infact, they warn against it. It does, has and continues to create resentment.

Just one family’s story.

 

[jonbhorton]

This is assuming your disability is not going to get better and truly precludes you from engaging in work outside the home:

Why not work toward a career field which enables, more often than not, telecommuting. That way, should you get married and have kids, God willing, Dad could “go to work” in his office and mom could do mom things.

Saves gas too!

The IT field seems to be a good one for that. I have a few friends who work from home. They tend to be able to make their own schedules. One, a fellow shooter, is often at the range or riding his bicycle when most are working.

 

[Wesley7]

Would that not throw off the whole idea of the husband as head of household? A part of me wants to do this if I can’t exactly work due to disability (young and single right now) but I feel like I would be spurning bibliotraditional teaching.

Heh, I made up a word.

No, not unless you have to adjust to the circumstances that you’re in.