Is it always a sin to not finish the marital act?

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Sorry to always come up with strange questions but I don’t know where else to turn to. Is it always a sin to not finish the marital act with the husband not finishing inside his wife? My hubby has been working overtime for the past 3 weeks and last night we were doing the BD. I hope not to be too graphic, but he became soft more than once and we couldn’t finish. Somehow he couldn’t get erect enough to do his business. Because this happened around 7pm at night we didn’t even try. We went to sleep around 10ish…

I thought I wasn’t getting him in the mood, but this whole week it has taken him a LONG time to be ready for the act. I thought I didn’t excite him, but he made it clear that he has been too tired lately. Another thing was that around bedtime, he was “ready” but then he thought I didn’t want to do anything, so we left it at that.

I’m worried we sinned by not finishing the first time, and by not continuing at bedtime.
 
As long as both of you were trying good faith to complete the act in the correct fashion, there was no sin, either mortal or venial.

You guys are fine.
 
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Sorry to always come up with strange questions but I don’t know where else to turn to. Is it always a sin to not finish the marital act with the husband not finishing inside his wife? My hubby has been working overtime for the past 3 weeks and last night we were doing the BD. I hope not to be too graphic, but he became soft more than once and we couldn’t finish. Somehow he couldn’t get erect enough to do his business. Because this happened around 7pm at night we didn’t even try. We went to sleep around 10ish…

I thought I wasn’t getting him in the mood, but this whole week it has taken him a LONG time to be ready for the act. I thought I didn’t excite him, but he made it clear that he has been too tired lately. Another thing was that around bedtime, he was “ready” but then he thought I didn’t want to do anything, so we left it at that.

I’m worried we sinned by not finishing the first time, and by not continuing at bedtime.
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Don’t fret. I’m over 50 and it happens to me now and then. It is NOT a sin if the male can not continue to reach orgasm.

DW and I have the same “communications problems” too, somedays. It’s normal. Enjoy the love of your hard working husband!

Now if the male intentionally stops as a means to prevent possible pregnancy, then it’s another story.

Peace be with you and your husband…
 
As with all these kinds of questions…INTENT is all. You had no intention of not finishing the marital act correctly, so you committed no sin if circumstances beyond your control prevented it.

Same thing as when DH and I get started, and a little one who has had a nightmare wanders in or starts to beat on our door. :rolleyes:
 
I don’t know what “we were doing the BD.” stands for but considering you also referred to him “doing his business”. That honestly sounds a bit uncaring and like he had a ‘job to do’.

Honestly, and I don’t mean to come across this way, but if anyone feels that it’s a “job” or a “duty” or somehow just an act for him to do, then there is bigger issues at hand.

In either case, like other people have, there’s no sin in my honest opinion. Likewise if you hadn’t been able to “finish” there is no sin.

But if you feel like there is a task at hand in marital relations, then there might be more going on than what is decribed here.
 
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