Is it be possible to be a virgin in a spiritual way even if you are not one physically?

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Long story short, two months ago I was sexually assaulted by my ex-bf when he made me do oral sex and anal sex against my will. He did not respect or understand me when I told him that I do not want to have sex before marriage.

However, I did got to Confession and repented about this. I did personally promise to God that I will abstain from sexual activities and that I will lead a chaste life from now on.

I do know that I may not be a virgin physically, but is it possible to be one spiritually?

This incident that happened to me does bother me until this day. At the same time, I also feel like it was my fault that this incident happened to me.
 
You were raped. None of it was your fault. There was no sin on your part, only on his.

Don’t place so much importance on your physical virginity. Chasteness is what is vital, and from what you’ve said it seems you are very chaste. Please take this to a therapist - an assault like this will take much more than speaking to a priest to heal.
 
He did force and pressure me to do unwanted sexual activities
 
You had nothing to confess, a victim, a survivor of sexual assault is not guilty of any sexual sin. I am so very sorry this happened.

Prayers for you.
 
I am thinking about reporting him to the police but I am worried that he may stalk or creep up on me.
 
If he does, get a restraining order and invest in some personal self-defense weapons. Preferrably something long-range like a gun or pepper spray. The longer you wait, the less likely he will see justice. Not to mention, if he isn’t put on a sex offender list, it is more likely he will do this to another woman.
 
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I am also worried that he may do the same thing to other girls.
 
You were raped, and that is a crime. Report him.
As for the physical virginity, if your hymen is intact, you are still a virgin - you said oral and anal, not vaginal. But what does that really matter if you were raped? Rape is rape. Report the criminal to save other women from the same thing. Report him if he tries to harass or stalk you and get a restraining order. If this was all without your consent, as you say, then you are a virgin, especially in your heart. Don’t let this horrible man ruin your life or self-image. Get therapy. Report him.
 
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