Is it immoral for girls to visit guy's dorm rooms?

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I attend a secular college that has an excellent Catholic group there. It isn’t uncommon for a girl to visit her guy friend’s dorm room or vice versa… I myself have done the same, to watch a movie or chat with some friends. Considering the excellent morals of the people I socialize with, I didn’t see that there was a problem with this… however, a friend recently pointed out to me that this might be immoral, since it may be seen as a sort of breach of purity, since a bedroom is a bedroom. Also, many Catholic colleges such as Christendom do not allow male/female visitations. I was just wondering what you all thought, since I’m really not sure what to think about this.

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As long as you’re not leading yourself into temptation I don’t see the problem, I’ve visited girls’ rooms before and not thought anything of it.

The Catholic Chaplaincy near where I am lets students living there visit rooms of people of the opposite sex but then again it has a bar, so maybe we just do things different in Europe (remember conservative American culture is not the same as the Catholic view in all situations)
 
Conservative American culture?? Did I miss something? Or is the rest of the world out of control…:eek:
 
teachccd said:
Conservative American culture?? Did I miss something? Or is the rest of the world out of control…:eek:
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Sorry I meant the culture of conservatives in the USA, not as in the whole culture (though American culture is more conservative than European culture anyway).

It needs bearing in mind that the conservative view on issues like these is based on the puritan movement of Protestantism. The most Catholic countries in Europe tend to be much more relaxed about things like non-sexual physical contact (e.g. kissing as a greeting, which St Peter and St Paul tell us to do) and alcohol (which is neither in small quanitites nor to drunkenness but very much in moderation but often as in fact a lot of the Bible assumes people to be drinking, especially the Old Testmant wisdom literature).

As for visiting someone’s dorm room then it’s no different to talking to them/ watching a movie with them in any other room as long as they’re happy for you to be in there, and you’re intentions are non-sexual,l it’s not like you’re sneaking in which would be wrong. I do admit though that when I used to cuddle up with a girl on her bed while watching television it was pushing it
 
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I do admit though that when I used to cuddle up with a girl on her bed while watching television it was pushing it
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A dorm room is by definition a bedroom. It’s easier to push the limits there, even if unintentionally.
 
I don’t think it’s immoral, although it could be an occasion of sin. Best to leave the door open, to avoid any appearance of impropriety.
 
JimG said:
A dorm room is by definition a bedroom. It’s easier to push the limits there, even if unintentionally.
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That’s exactly my friend’s argument… she doesn’t think that it would be appropriate to go to a guy’s bedroom. I don’t agree with her, but I’m not sure how to explain why it isn’t a bad thing to do… :confused:
 
Not immoral, if you keep your thoughts and intentions clean, as well as keeping your hands to yourself, if you know what I mean.
 
If you have a guy and a girl in a dorm room with the door closed (or bolted open but otherwise closed, as my university requires), then that might be seen as scandalous by conservatives. It depends on what you’re doing in there.

If you have ten people of different sexes in a dorm room, somehow I think the door will be open anyway and that absolutely nothing immoral will be happening.
 
HannahLisa said:
If you have ten people of different sexes in a dorm room, somehow I think the door will be open anyway and that absolutely nothing immoral will be happening.
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Wow, ten people of different sexes, what else are these wacky college kids going to think of next? Back in my college days, there were only two different sexes, male and female, and the administrators said they didn’t belong in each others dorm rooms. Old fuddy duddys.

But ten different sexes… what are the other eight?? 🙂 🙂 🙂

Anyway, to the original post … There’s nothing inherently immoral in being in the presence of the other sex, and college dorm rooms are not exactly secluded. Have fun with your friends and see it as a chance to act morally responsible. It builds character … (there I go, sounding like an old fuddy duddy)
 
first of all, i would say it is not immoral in and of itself. definitely not. however, depending on the relationship of the persons involved it could become problematic. i have several friends of the opposite sex i could hang out with in their room and nothing would ever happen. if you were dating someone, it could be dangerous to spend long periods of time alone in the room though. i would keep such visits short to be on the safe side.
 
Dorm rooms aren’t bedrooms, at least, they aren’t just bedrooms. It isn’t the least bit inappropriate to visit a friend’s dorm room.
 
Wow, and to think that I had ‘liberals’ crawling over me for asking if I should be sleeping with a girl…HAHA

This is in NO WAY problematic, unless your intentions are sinful. Visiting dorm rooms of the opposite sex is completely natural and occurs regularly in college. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this. Problems occur when your intentions are outside of pure thoughts.
 
MMOG said:
I attend a secular college that has an excellent Catholic group there. It isn’t uncommon for a girl to visit her guy friend’s dorm room or vice versa… I myself have done the same, to watch a movie or chat with some friends. Considering the excellent morals of the people I socialize with, I didn’t see that there was a problem with this… however, a friend recently pointed out to me that this might be immoral, since it may be seen as a sort of breach of purity, since a bedroom is a bedroom. Also, many Catholic colleges such as Christendom do not allow male/female visitations. I was just wondering what you all thought, since I’m really not sure what to think about this.

Thanks!
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To avoid scandal, since it is known that you are Catholics, I recommend leaving the door open. And, to borrow from a Protestant brother, Billy Graham never met alone with a member of the opposite sex. Excellent policy.

Christ’s peace.
 
BlaineTog said:
Dorm rooms aren’t bedrooms, at least, they aren’t just bedrooms. It isn’t the least bit inappropriate to visit a friend’s dorm room.
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That was my thought, a dorm room is not just a bedroom, it’s one’s home – bedroom, living room, den, office, and sometimes kitchen & dining room. I see nothing wrong with being in the dorm room of someone of the opposite sex – although back when I was in university (fire hadn’t been discovered yet) males weren’t allowed to come to our rooms except on very special occasions (i.e. before the Christmas Ball). We were allowed in the men’s residences any time.
 
I’ve spent many hours alone with many women…in many different bedrooms/rooms…and am 100% a virgin…

Unless it’s an occasion to sin for you in particular I do not see how it could be a problem. It all depends on your intent.
 
Depends. I think many conservatives are oversensitised and many liberals are oblivious. This is not an expression of centrism on my part, but rather a desire for common sense. I think we should be concerned with the substance more than the appearances. However, temptations are temptations and even apperances shouldn’t be ignored if they may lead others to sin.

Generally, if I told people nothing happened and they refused to take my word, I wouldn’t waste time on them.
 
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