Thank you so much.
This is very inspiring and really helps me feel better. I will always do what is needed for my family but if I can at least try this., Im praying my plan will work. I know God will give me the strength to do whatever I need to do for our family.<3Thank you yes this is what I was thinking. I have a strong desire to take the traditional wife role. Its also very hard to imagine my husband in that role. I mean I know he will make the best father! But he doesnt even know how to rinse his own dishes… and always leaves empty beer bottles out. I know he doesnt act like this in a way to take me for granted, its just its not natural for him to keep a clean environment… >_< I love cleaning so it works magically now, but I know in role reversal it may be very difficult… But not impossible…
As long as we are following God thats all we need. It really helps me feel better to know that we would still be following God… and to know its worked well for some of you. I will still always respect my husband as head of family even if I got the outside income. Also, I found this article online a while ago. It says its catholic but I couldnt tell if the role descriptions were meant to be directives from the church?I can tell you that we probably felt the same when we started this thing. I think having a baby and leaving them was extremely hard for my wife even though I was the one staying at home. And, I certainly am not the cleanest person, I have learned to keep a clean house. (well as clean as can be with 4 kids) I do laundry, dishes, pay bills etc. All of which I would not do as a single man or in a “traditional” role.Thank you yes this is what I was thinking. I have a strong desire to take the traditional wife role. Its also very hard to imagine my husband in that role. I mean I know he will make the best father! But he doesnt even know how to rinse his own dishes… and always leaves empty beer bottles out. I know he doesnt act like this in a way to take me for granted, its just its not natural for him to keep a clean environment… >_< I love cleaning so it works magically now, but I know in role reversal it may be very difficult… But not impossible…
You sound like a wonderful husband and father.
Yes I agree about the beer. But we dont have children yet, so Im trusting my husband will put that away if we did and he became the care taker.Very admirable! May I ask why you homeschool your kids?
I agree!But not impossible…
Let your husband be the breadwinner. He already proves his commitment to work by working 60 hrs per week despite his residency status. That’s very impressive.
Well, the decision was made early on when my first was going to be in K. We decided that we would pray about it and reevaluate each year with each child. It has proven to be an amazing decision. We use Seton, which is a Catholic curriculum, but we started with a public school curriculum and a distance education program. We abandoned that and now do Seton exclusively. My mother, sister, aunts and many friends are/were teachers. My mother and sister hate that I homeschool. But the benefits and the outcome with my children is hard to dispute so that has shut them up a little.
I don’t understand how your mother and sister of all people dislike you homeschooling. I think it’s amazing to see fathers be able to take that kind of role. Aren’t fathers supposed to be instructors over their children in families? They should think of the long-lasting influence you will have over your children. There’s lots of empirical evidence to show the effects of fathers on their children, especially with instruction across all areas. But, if they are teachers who hate the idea of you teaching, I don’t think logic will explain itWell, the decision was made early on when my first was going to be in K. We decided that we would pray about it and reevaluate each year with each child. It has proven to be an amazing decision. We use Seton, which is a Catholic curriculum, but we started with a public school curriculum and a distance education program. We abandoned that and now do Seton exclusively. My mother, sister, aunts and many friends are/were teachers. My mother and sister hate that I homeschool. But the benefits and the outcome with my children is hard to dispute so that has shut them up a little.
To me, it is just an extension of parenting.
Feel free to PM me with more questions. I don’t want to hijack this thread.
Probably the best advice in this thread. We don’t live in the OP’s shoes or know her family life. She and her husband should do what is best for their family.
Thank you this brings peace for me.