An individual has been diagnosed by a psychologist as having “low self esteem.” This condition causes an individual to seek relief through drug addiction, or alcohol addiction, or sexual addiction, etc.
When such an individual engages in one of the noted “reliefs,” is he/she commiting a mortal sin?
Under normal circumstances any one of these acts would be a mortal sin. However, may the argument be made that the individual involved, due to his/her psychological condition, lacks the ability to form a “deliberate and complete consent” when engaging in one of the subject activities and, therefore, is not commiting a mortal sin?
Tough call.
I myself have a fetish, and when it creeps up on me, and I fall to masturbation because of it, I always agonize and wonder whether it was venial or mortal if I don’t feel like mentally I gave full consent, but physically I did or I gave in, but not completely. When you have a fetish you are somewhat psychologically impaired, I think, but generally not enough that you cannot say no and avoid the temptations, be they people, internet, your own personal fantasies, etc. Provided you avoid all these things, but it creeps up on your anyway, and you give in and masturbate without the aid of anything sinful, I wonder whether that’s a mortal sin, given that most of the time, you’re struggling and handling it well.
In the case of a person that’s diagnosed as having low self-esteem, it’s similar to an addiction in that they get used to filling the void (which they really aren’t doing but temporarily cheat themselves into thinking they are) and before long it’s habitual, and a psychological response, just as a fetish or addiction is.
Being afflicted with either of these things is a cross to bear in it’s own way. So, regardless of whether it’s venial or mortal under specific situations or factors, God understands what you go through even if others do not or cannot appreciate or respect it. It’s His Mercy that gets us through, and we have to believe that. God doesn’t make exceptions with people when they come to him and they’re sorry. Even if they know they’ll likely fall again, God still keeps His hands outstretched.
Sometimes, the only thing that keeps me from falling into despair and losing complete control of my fetish is knowing that by having a fetish, I am being humbled, and Jesus knew what it was to be humbled over things he did not ask to be humbled for and didn’t or shouldn’t had to have been. I didn’t ask to have this fetish, it just developed on it’s own and progressed as I grew.
You (or the person in your example anyways) didn’t ask for a low self-esteem either. We have to make do with the hand we have and believe that God is our ‘ace in the hole’ as it were, and that no matter how badly we feel we’ve fallen, or whether the Church says this is mortal and grave and you’re going to hell for it if you die unrepented, He’s there to give us peace and reassurance, when laws, boundaries, morals, teachings, and people seem to fail us.