Is it possible to stop masturbating?

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I’m 16 year old male and I pray everyday that I can stop. I don’t but it seems like people already have and it seems so easy, but I still have trouble. I’m also pursuing a vocation to the consecrated life, so I wonder if I’m heading in the right direction.
 
Yes, however, it takes a couple months to break the habit, and you have to surround yourself with a holy distraction to prevent yourself from continuing the habit.

Make a sincere prayer to the Lord if you ever fall for satans snare, and make sure you do this immediately afterward, so that it will be easier to get back on the way to salvation.
 
Darlin’ it is possible. Don’t give up. Just keep breathing, keep physically active, keep praying, and keep going to confession. And yes, someone else climbing Mount Everest successfully will always seem easier than when you actually have to do it yourself.

And here’s the good news: I once heard an old monk talking about this very sin. And when asked when those desires finally stopped for him, he replied, “I expect they’ll stop about fifteen minutes after I’m dead.” So you see, you won’t have to fight temptation forever, just in this life 👍

Cleave to Christ. His love for you is fierce, and demanding. Every step, He’s there.

God bless you, dear one.

Gertie
 
Yes it is possible. I have been free of this self abuse for over 3 years. Frequent Confession with a strong sense of repentance will help GREATLY. If you fall again, go before the Lord in the confessional again. Go to Mass and recieve the Eucharist as soon as you are in a State of Grace. Avoid anything that may arouse you, gazes at attractive women, pornographic images, songs, etc.
If being alone and bored is a problem, visit a good, holy friend, relative, or grandparent. Bad companions will NOT help. Go to a church and Visit our Lord in the Tabernacle. THROW yourself into an interactive, time consuming, hands on hobby . A man must use his sexual energy for a positive use. You can do this my brother! Do not lose hope!!👍 The Lord is full of Mercy, know that you can defeat Satan!!
 
Gertabelle said:
Darlin’ it is possible. Don’t give up. Just keep breathing, keep physically active, keep praying, and keep going to confession. And yes, someone else climbing Mount Everest successfully will always seem easier than when you actually have to do it yourself.

And here’s the good news: I once heard an old monk talking about this very sin. And when asked when those desires finally stopped for him, he replied, “I expect they’ll stop about fifteen minutes after I’m dead.” So you see, you won’t have to fight temptation forever, just in this life 👍

Cleave to Christ. His love for you is fierce, and demanding. Every step, He’s there.

God bless you, dear one.

Gertie
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This.
 
Try to go to confession often! Always go face to face with the same priest, and soon you will not have to face him again and that will help you. When you start to sin, you will picture the confessional.
 
JeraldW said:
Yes it is possible. I have been free of this self abuse for over 3 years. Frequent Confession with a strong sense of repentance will help GREATLY. If you fall again, go before the Lord in the confessional again. Go to Mass and recieve the Eucharist as soon as you are in a State of Grace. Avoid anything that may arouse you, gazes at attractive women, pornographic images, songs, etc.
If being alone and bored is a problem, visit a good, holy friend, relative, or grandparent. Bad companions will NOT help. Go to a church and Visit our Lord in the Tabernacle. THROW yourself into an interactive, time consuming, hands on hobby . A man must use his sexual energy for a positive use. You can do this my brother! Do not lose hope!!👍 The Lord is full of Mercy, know that you can defeat Satan!!
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This.

I’ve been listening as attentively I can to prayers during mass, to get a feel for what is being petitioned on behalf of the congregation. By extension, I’ve been thinking about the Act of Contrition, taught to me in 5th grade CCD. The clause in the middle is very important: With your help, I’ll do penance, sin no more, and ***avoid those things which lead me to make wrong choices. ***.

I used to fall victim to secular sports fan forums, with an off-topic section featuring highly attractive (naturally, and artificially [plastic surgery]) females. I stopped going there. To echo Gertabelle’s points about cleaving to Christ, I’ve managed to make my things more Christ-centric. I do this utilizing an icon of Christ for wallpaper on my computer, and smart phone. I also listen to sports, religion, and music won’t lead me to do such activities. It also helps to have undertaken an intense interest in Eastern Christianity; as well as take care of my obligations with the small business I’m overseeing. Practically, I’ve too much time (also going to an MMA gym to do martial arts and work out) to do that “stuff.”
 
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Try to go to confession often! Always go face to face with the same priest, and soon you will not have to face him again and that will help you. When you start to sin, you will picture the confessional.
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Not only this, but I found if there’s something deep, and subconscious lurking in your mind, it might mean there’s something you possibly haven’t confessed, yet. At least, when it came to my situation, I had something in my past I had once confessed, but sinned again. I felt, after reconfessing, it took a big weight off my shoulders, like I felt the power of absolution right there and then.
 
Living_Stats said:
I’m 16 year old male and I pray everyday that I can stop. I don’t but it seems like people already have and it seems so easy, but I still have trouble. I’m also pursuing a vocation to the consecrated life, so I wonder if I’m heading in the right direction.
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Hey I’m with you, I struggle to and we always will. I haven’t done anything that would get me to in several months now, I lost track but that’s actually ok. It’s the day to day that matters. L

If your seriously discerning there is no way on God’s green earth that’s wrong. I applaud you and your courage. You keep the sacraments, go to confession often, every week easily. Never stop trying. I see the work of the devil, I fight it all the time, you gotta keep getting up you know keep swinging for the fences. Satan try to knock you down, and sometimes there were times I would stand for a few days after the urge came on but then I would just fail, I just recently had another trial, and even though it’s been a week, I’m not out of the woods, The evil one is tugging, and you just offer it up, do something else. Lift it up to Christ. Also the rosary does help. See I need to watch porn to masturbate, so when I would fall I would fall hard. The rosary helps you do something else, and gets your mind or it would get my mind of a a porn model. You know i used to be shut in about this but when I found I am not the only one you get a lot of courage form it. So I share my battles because it is necessary for healing.
 
😃 I kicked the habit ONLY BY THE GRACE OF JESUS!!, Confession, EUCHARIST etc.

I recommend weekly confessions, and at least weekly reception of the BLESSED SACRAMENT.

Like the OP’s have said, go out and do something, play a sport, read, build something, fix some stuff, use that energy towards something good.

Pray, pray pray

Also, i feel i am called to Religious Life/Holy Priesthood, so, no, you might not be heading in the wrong direction!!

We are all sinners!!

Saints are sinners who keep on trying!!
 
hello masurbatiion is tough especially when trying to stay celibate and possible vocation. Just keep away from anything that will lead you there and instead of picking yourself up pick up scripture until the mood to do so is gone!
 
Oh! I quit! You can too. I’m older than you. Started at a young age and just stopped last year. I knew it was wrong. But I got such pleasure out of it. But once my priest told me face to face, it’s a MORTAL SIN!, and I would go straight to HELL! I had no choice but to stop. Praying the Rosary. Wearing a Brown Scapular. Asking and praying for help from Jesus and Mary I have gotten rid of that habit. Satan is not going to make it easy. He wants your soul. But the good news is Jesus and Mary want your soul more. I want to go to Heaven. So that’s where I was. Heaven or Hell? There is no middle ground. Masturbate = Hell! or Stop and go to Heaven!

Good Luck!

God Bless and Help You!
 
parable1 said:
hello masurbatiion is tough especially when trying to stay celibate and possible vocation. Just keep away from anything that will lead you there and instead of picking yourself up pick up scripture until the mood to do so is gone!
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Talk to a confessor and discuss your situation so that he can get a good picture of what’s going on and give you solid advice. You’re 16 so what you’re dealing with is normal and I wouldn’t beat yourself up. A confessor can work with you.
 
What helped me…

Regular confessions
Praying the rosary every day
Keeping a pocket rosary in my pocket at all times
Saying the Hail Mary every time the temptation begins

Good luck and know that it is possible!
 
This is what cured me…

I developed a “visual prayer”…After all, if we can “visualize” toward lust - why not “visualize” away from it…
So I prayed, “Father, take me to the foot of the cross”, and then began thinking, visualizing myself there. Gazing on the scene of teh one who died for my sins.
Hot, dry, dusty day.
The foot of the cross buried in the ground.
The wood of the cross stained black from blood and sweat.
The feet of our Lord.
Filthy and stained and dripping blood and sweat.
I did this - I put Him there - Not alone - but I helped.
Every time I sin, it is increases His pain.
If I refrain, it eases His pain.
Feel the heat of that day, the dryness of the air.
How thirsty He is…
…and so on…

How could I possibly sin while standing at the foot of the cross.

Peace
James
 
Quit being a wimp. You know darn well you can quit that any time you want.
 
Yes, go to confession and resolve to not do that anymore. get rid of anything you use to do that. Get educated to receive the eucharist. pray to your guardian angel. with God nothing is impossible!
 
When you get the thought or you almost do, get up, and run around your house two times for proper reinforcements… that is how parents little kids not to itch.
 
I think a lot of these answers are true in a long term perspective, but it seems to me that you are looking for an “on the spot solution.”

I offer a simple yet powerful solution; when the urge arises, grab your Rosary. Trust me, the peace and calm you find from praying the Rosary will get you through.
 
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