Is it proper to go up for a blessing when not receiving Communion?

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The problem arises when people travel and present themselves for a blessing where such a practice is unheard of – like any parish where I’ve been a member.

I think it’s unfortunate that we live in a ‘gimme’ society. It starts in childhood when every kid who goes to a birthday party gets a goodie bag – because perish the thought that they should just be happy to give a present to the birthday boy/girl and not get something in return – and it continues all the way up to Mass where “I can’t receive Communion, gimme an individual blessing.”
I really don’t think that’s the case, at least in the two parishes I attend. Most people who receive blessings are visiting non-Catholics. They are typically in awe of both the Mass and the setting.

If they choose to come up for a blessing, it’s done by invitation and their willingness to be blessed shows profound respect for the Church in my opinion. Sometimes they get confused and don’t get in one of the priests’ lines. That’s when people like me say a little prayer for them right on the spot.
 
The nature of a blessing by a layperson is different than the nature of a blessing by a priest, but laypeople can bless each other…and many do, every time they hear someone sneeze.

As to whether it is appropriate at Mass, there are those who think it inappropriate for even a priest to interrupt the distribution of Holy Communion for such a blessing. Others think it is OK, but only for the priest, so as to not confuse the special nature of the blessing by a priest with the common kind of blessing any baptized person might give.

The long and short of it is, though, that it is pretty difficult for a Christian to refuse to bless someone who asks. The EMHC shouldn’t use any blessing reserved for priests and shouldn’t use gestures that only priests use, but no one is barred from saying “God bless you” when asked to do so. Tracing a cross on the forehead, being something that those present at a baptism are invited to do, seems something open to the laity, although those who know of fellow parishioners who are upset by that are charitable if they keep that in mind when deciding what to do with a request for a blessing. If an innocent thing gives scandal, it is worth asking whether some other innocent thing can be substituted.

I’m also more comfortable with priests and EMHC who use fingers or the hand other than the one they use to distribute Holy Communion, if they choose to trace a cross on someone’s forehead. There is at least the appearance of a hygiene issue there.
I agree. As an EMHC, I was concerned on this particular point and asked our priest. He confirmed that it’s fine for the EMHC to make the blessing so as long he doesn’t make it in the air–like a priest does.
 
No, laypeople may not take it upon themselves to do a blessing. There is no instruction for it in the Rubrics.

I was instructed I had no authority to do so when I was trained. Not for adults either. But if one came up we are to not embarrass them and may just say "God Bless You "and ask them to talk to us later. We do not have blessings in the communion line as an accepted practice in our diocese either.
I think we should be careful not to make false accusations against the EM’s. In most cases, the EM’s do not “take it upon themselves” to do anything. They are just doing what they have been instructed to do. And sometimes that well meaning instruction can be misinterpreted. And sometimes it needs to be changed. We have had several meetings in our parish and the instruction has changed from time to time. We understand that we cannot give a priestly blessing. We were told at one time, to touch the top of the head of the child and simply say, “God bless you” . Then there was the concern about using the same fingers that we use to pick up the Host, so we were told not to touch them with those two fingers. The latest instruction was not to touch them at all, just say, “God bless you.” But some of the EM’s may not have attended a session where the instruction had changed or maybe they forgot, but they are still touching the forehead or head of the person coming up for a blessing. I have never felt comfortable with “the blessing” because I know that I cannot give a priestly blessing and I do not want to confuse people about what the blessing is. I only say “God bless you” to those children and a few adults that come before me with thei arms crossed for “the blessing”. This also can be of concern to some parents who wonder why I said, “God bless you” to some children but not all .
 
I really don’t think that’s the case, at least in the two parishes I attend. Most people who receive blessings are visiting non-Catholics. They are typically in awe of both the Mass and the setting.

If they choose to come up for a blessing, it’s done by invitation and their willingness to be blessed shows profound respect for the Church in my opinion. Sometimes they get confused and don’t get in one of the priests’ lines. That’s when people like me say a little prayer for them right on the spot.
However, there is still the problem of confusion, even among some Catholic faithful. Extraordinary Ministers of Holy Communion are commissioned to assist the celebrant in the distribution of Holy Communion under certain conditions. This duty does not include imparting a blessing, especially during the Mass.

This kind of confusion is what led Rome to clarify things back in 1997 and re-clarify, if you will, what the duties of the Extraordinary Minister of Holy Communion are. These duties are spelled out in Redemptionis Sacramentum, the document that came out seven years after the 1997 one promulgated by the Congregation for Clergy (which was also signed off on by the Congregation for Divine Worship):
[155.] In addition to the ordinary ministers there is the formally instituted acolyte, who by virtue of his institution is an extraordinary minister of Holy Communion even outside the celebration of Mass. If, moreover, reasons of real necessity prompt it, another lay member of Christ’s faithful may also be delegated by the diocesan Bishop, in accordance with the norm of law,256 for one occasion or for a specified time, and an appropriate formula of blessing may be used for the occasion. This act of appointment, however, does not necessarily take a liturgical form, nor, if it does take a liturgical form, should it resemble sacred Ordination in any way. Finally, in special cases of an unforeseen nature, permission can be given for a single occasion by the Priest who presides at the celebration of the Eucharist.257
[156.] This function is to be understood strictly according to the name by which it is known, that is to say, that of extraordinary minister of Holy Communion, and not “special minister of Holy Communion” nor “extraordinary minister of the Eucharist” nor “special minister of the Eucharist”, by which names the meaning of this function is unnecessarily and improperly broadened.
[157.] If there is usually present a sufficient number of sacred ministers for the distribution of Holy Communion, extraordinary ministers of Holy Communion may not be appointed. Indeed, in such circumstances, those who may have already been appointed to this ministry should not exercise it. The practice of those Priests is reprobated who, even though present at the celebration, abstain from distributing Communion and hand this function over to laypersons.258
[158.] Indeed, the extraordinary minister of Holy Communion may administer Communion only when the Priest and Deacon are lacking, when the Priest is prevented by weakness or advanced age or some other genuine reason, or when the number of faithful coming to Communion is so great that the very celebration of Mass would be unduly prolonged.259 This, however, is to be understood in such a way that a brief prolongation, considering the circumstances and culture of the place, is not at all a sufficient reason.
[159.] It is never allowed for the extraordinary minister of Holy Communion to delegate anyone else to administer the Eucharist, as for example a parent or spouse or child of the sick person who is the communicant.
[160.] Let the diocesan Bishop give renewed consideration to the practice in recent years regarding this matter, and if circumstances call for it, let him correct it or define it more precisely. Where such extraordinary ministers are appointed in a widespread manner out of true necessity, the diocesan Bishop should issue special norms by which he determines the manner in which this function is to be carried out in accordance with the law, bearing in mind the tradition of the Church.
Nowhere does it state in this document, nor in the GIRM, for that matter, that EMHCs can impart any type of blessing.

Again, it goes back to the point where it is not at all appropriate for the laity to assume any posture that is reserved for the celebrant during the Mass. I realize that Zab noted that his pastor told him not to make any gesture that is similar to the celebrant; however, even just saying the words is, in my opinion, already getting into the slippery slope.

Even in the communion service, the EMHC leading it doesn’t impart a blessing. Why? It is not appropriate nor is it licit. Such a blessing, in that case, is reserved only for clergy, such as a deacon who may be leading the service.

I don’t want to seem inflexible on this point, nor do I want to make generalities, because I can see Zab’s point that there are many EMHCs who do not take it upon themselves to do this. Please know that I am not trying to come out like the proverbial lion in winter.

However, I’ve seen too many strange things done, as far as some of the EMHCs in my neck of the mesquite are concerned, and believe that even the appearance or the verbage of a blessing shouldn’t happen. These include some EMHCs blessing people with oils during adoration at the local hospital chapel and other things. Thankfully, the bishop finally addressed the issue of the oils and told the well-intentioned folks that this was to stop.
 
I mention it because in training the deacon specifically said that if the EMHC made a sign of the cross on someone’s forehead that they should NOT use the same fingers that they used to distribute Holy Communion. On this account, one will often see that gesture done with the “pinky” finger. I have even seen priests do it that way at Holy Communion.

I think some EMsHC do the small cross directly on the forehead because the gesture is performed by laity at baptisms, whereas the “blessing in the air” can start getting close to what a priest does at dismissal. There is a desire to not appear to be assuming roles or gestures reserved for the ordained.
Yeah, the blessing in the air is definitely what only a priest does, but in addition to that being the right of a priest, I think he does it this way for hygiene sake. I suppose the laity make different accommodations, I just haven’t paid close enough attention.
 
I think we should be careful not to make false accusations against the EM’s. In most cases, the EM’s do not “take it upon themselves” to do anything. They are just doing what they have been instructed to do…
That’s an extremely good point. A great deal of this detail is left to the local ordinary by design. That’s what the Church intended to do.

More often than not, people come along with their misinterpretation or misapplication of Church documents which causes real problems and often discontent in others.
 
FWIW, I wrote a letter to the CDWDS a little under two months on behalf of myself and another CAF member:
Greetings, Your Eminence [Francis Cardinal Arinze]. I have a question in two parts concerning a custom found in various parishes and dioceses of the United States of America: the blessing of non-communicants during the Communion procession. Briefly stated, this custom consists of a non-communicant presenting himself (often with his arms crossed over his chest with his hands on his shoulders) before a minister of Holy Communion and receiving a blessing of some sort, e.g.: “May God bless you” or a gesuture such as the Sign of the Cross on the his forehead.
  1. Is this a custom that is within the faculty of a pastor, the local Ordinary, or a Bishops’ Conference to establish? That is, is this custom something that can be regulated without recourse to this Congregation [of Divine Worship and the Discipline of the Sacraments]?
  2. Are there particular guidelines or restrictions, from the Congregation, as to a) which ministers of Holy Communion may give these blessings, and b) what forms these blessings may take?
    I said I would make a post on this forum if and when I heard back.
 
Hi, I was told in RCIA that everyone who is not able to recieve communion should go up for a blessing.

Then, I did go to a different Catholic Church and I noticed there that no one went up for a blessing but stayed seated.

Please tell me what is correct.
If there is no church ruling on the matter do I just do what people at that particular church are doing?

Thanks very much:)
And yes, I will also ask my Priest when I see him next.
 
Obviously in the parish where you’re going through RCIA it’s done, but it’s definitely not something that is part of the Communion Rite and some priests would rather it never happened. I’ve attended many a parish in my day and I’ve never been in one where that was done.

Since you’ve been told to do it at your own parish, feel free to do so, but when attending Mass in another parish take your cue from those around you. If nobody goes up for a blessing, then it’s not something that’s done in that parish. At the moment the Church hasn’t said Yea or Nay. Perhaps it will rule on it in years to come.
 
Hi, Lisa! Going for a blessing at Communion time is a custom in some parishes but not others. You are correct that you should do what is being done where you are attending Mass at the time. There is no universal Church guideline about this, so you will find variation wherever you go.

Betsy
 
You will receive a blessing at the end of mass. I believe this is enough if you have not received.
 
If they do allow blessing make sure to get in the line of a priest or deacon as I recall on CAF EMHC’s are not supposed to bless the laity.
 
Hi, I was told in RCIA that everyone who is not able to recieve communion should go up for a blessing.

Then, I did go to a different Catholic Church and I noticed there that no one went up for a blessing but stayed seated.

Please tell me what is correct.
If there is no church ruling on the matter do I just do what people at that particular church are doing?

Thanks very much:)
And yes, I will also ask my Priest when I see him next.
There is absolutely no Church-wide prohibition to processing-up and receiving a blessing during communion. It’s up to your local ordinary.

Watch this little clip beginning at 2:20. It’s the very best guidance I have ever seen on the matter:

youtube.com/watch?v=-YorjE844mc
 
Hi, I was told in RCIA that everyone who is not able to recieve communion should go up for a blessing.

Then, I did go to a different Catholic Church and I noticed there that no one went up for a blessing but stayed seated.

Please tell me what is correct.
If there is no church ruling on the matter do I just do what people at that particular church are doing?

Thanks very much:)
And yes, I will also ask my Priest when I see him next.
Lisa, this is just my humble opinion.

At the end of Mass, we receive a blessing from the priest.

I would prefer to kneel during Communion and make a Spiritual Communion. It can be a formal one from a prayer book or missal, or it can be one’s own prayer.

Since we are to receive a blessing at the end of Mass, I would think the Spiritual Communion would be sufficient. Of course one can make the Spiritual Communion and receive the blessing also, but to remain in the pew, one is less likely to be distracted and can focus more fully.

I just don’t see the need to receive two blessings within 10 minutes or so.

Again, jmho.

God Bless

J+M+J
 
How did this whole thing about going up for a blessing in the Communion line get started anyhow? Was there ever any instructions allowing people not receiving Communion to go up for a blessing? Are people being misled into believing they can receive a “blessing” from EM’s?
 
How did this whole thing about going up for a blessing in the Communion line get started anyhow? Was there ever any instructions allowing people not receiving Communion to go up for a blessing? Are people being misled into believing they can receive a “blessing” from EM’s?
I’m sure you’ll get lots of responses to this thread. It’s come up a few times before. 🙂

I’m not sure how it started. I wonder if we’ll ever know for sure. A lot of these things just sort of happen. I don’t think there’s anything in the rubrics either way, but I think it does cause confusion.

In an episode of “The Office”, I think what Toby said regarding boss Michael Scott’s business practices speaks just as well to liturgical innovations:

“Forcing your employees to set you up is not a technical violation of any Dunder Mifflin rule. You know, but neither is forcing them to help you with a shot-by-shot remake of Indiana Jones. How do you make a rule book like that?”

You can’t account for everything someone might think up to do. So simply because it’s not forbidden doesn’t mean it’s a good idea.
 
I don’t know when the practice started. It’s like a lot of innovatroins, I’m afraid. Someone gets a “brilliant” idea and all of a sudden, like weeds, they pop up everywhere. What people forget is that we don’t line up to receive a What. Rather, we line up to receive a Who. We line up to receive the Body, Blood, Soul and Divinity of Our Lord Jesus Christ. Receiving Holy Communion is just that, receiving Our Lord and allowing ourselves to assimilate into Him. The blessing has no real purpose other than a good-hearted, but misguided attempt at making people feel like they are also receiving something which they will get 5-10 minutes later.

As for the blessing, we will all receive a blessing at the end of Mass when the priest imparts it.

Extraordinary Ministers of Holy Communion do not have any faculty at all to impart blessings. That is strictly a no-no, as noted in the 1997 document from the Congregation for Clergy:
§ 2. To promote the proper identity (of various roles) in this area, those abuses which are contrary to the provisions of canon 907 are to be eradicated. In eucharistic celebrations deacons and non-ordained members of the faithful may not pronounce prayers — e.g. especially the eucharistic prayer, with its concluding doxology — or any other parts of the liturgy reserved to the celebrant priest. Neither may deacons or non-ordained members of the faithful use gestures or actions which are proper to the same priest celebrant. It is a grave abuse for any member of the non-ordained faithful to “quasi preside” at the Mass while leaving only that minimal participation to the priest which is necessary to secure validity.
The only duty that we are commissioned to perform is to assist the ordinary minister of the Eucharist (the celebrant-priest or bishop) and the ordinary minister of Holy Communion (deacon) in the distribution of Holy Communion when the numbers are too great for them to handle.
 
The pastor of the last parish I belonged to told me that it was a practice that started in parishes with schools. At school Mass, any students at the school who weren’t Catholic were to cross their chests and receive a blessing from Father at Communion instead of receiving the Sacrament.

I would suspect that from there, teachers of grades whose children weren’t old enough to receive began to do the same thing with the whole class, and then it spread to religious ed classes for kids who went to public school, and on and on.

A good idea to make kids feel included? Maybe. An innovation that has now spread out of control and unchecked? Yep.

Solution? I’ven’t got one.
 
How did this whole thing about going up for a blessing in the Communion line get started anyhow? Was there ever any instructions allowing people not receiving Communion to go up for a blessing? Are people being misled into believing they can receive a “blessing” from EM’s?
I don’t know. It makes no sense. Everyone is about to get a blessing before the dismissal.

God Bless
 
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