Is it sinful to not sing as loud as possible at Mass?

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It is not that I don’t like to sing or refuse to sing, but at Mass i tend to be a quiet singer i suppoze. I think I just sing in a way that just sort of blends in, but I’ve been told otherwise. I do try so tiny loud enough, but I also enjoy being able to hear the congregation sing.

As the header asks, is it sinful or wrong to not be singing as loud? There’s more to it, but I do sing.
 
I hope not otherwise our church is in trouble. (200 people with about 20 singing)
 
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It is not that I don’t like to sing or refuse to sing, but at Mass i tend to be a quiet singer i suppoze.
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Look I really do try to be charitable and often fail however i love a good troll but really? Please tell me this question isn’t for real.
 
I suppose not “sinful” but according to my dad it steers me away, which I get offended by. Every time I sit by him at Mass he comments on that because he sees me moving my lips but can t hear me, and he got offended when we got home when I mentioned K didn’t care for him saying that every time. It didn’t go over well.

And it’s comments like that that make me all the more uncomfortable to sing louder
 
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Rejoice in the Lord…dont pile guilt or doubt into the recipe!
 
It sounds like the OP has a parent problem. If you can sing you should sing, I say. But our former choir director has asked certain choir members to sing more softly usually because one particular voice (i.e. Soprano) was overpowering the others. This indicates to me that singing as loudly as possible isn’t a requirement.

The only time I sing as loudly as possible is at Daily Mass when a certain person is leading the singing and singing badly. Otherwise I try to blend in.
 
So long as you’re not adding in soprano runs and whistle voice notes like a Mariah Carey clone. Also no falsetto, please. Tuvan throat tones are nice touch, though, as are Michael Buble stylings.
 
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Does your father feel you aren’t participating in mass if you sing to yourself or more quietly?
 
In my case, not singing loudly can be considered the eighth work of mercy 🙂 .
 
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Every time I sit by him at Mass he comments on that because he sees me moving my lips but can t hear me, and he got all offended when we got home when I mentioned K didn’t care for him saying that every time.
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Your dad’s being ridiculous.

Ignore him and let him go on his ridiculous rant.
 
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I think he does? Even though I am singing and i like to absorb what it is i am saying. and yes, there is one sided tension between my dad and I. I just don’t feel comfortable around him as I used to, and feel pressured to obide. My mom tells me to ignore him, which I try, but it just makes it all the more uncomfortable to sing louder next to him when I feel like I have t o. when I am pressured so, I’m not thinking about the praise as I am thinking if* I am singing loud enough.

I know I should just sit down with him some day and discuss this, but he is temperamental and I fear he will be highly offended if i mention anything, so I just follow what my priest has told me and try my best to understand him and love him. It just hurts when we get upset at each other. I don’t typically speak up either, so it isn’t that i argue with him every time, this was just the first time I decided I would mention how i felt.
 
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That’s what I will try, it just makes me more uncomfortable to sit next to him during Mass, but I do it still because I don’t want him to think I hate him.
 
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It’s not a sin. The only question is whether his request for you to sing louder is a reasonable request you should obey. If you are singing particularly meekly then I think it would be reasonable to ask you to sing louder.

One solution is to be an altar boy and then you wouldn’t have to worry about criticism of how loud you sing.
 
That’s what I’ve enjoyed doing at my church, but I’ve been decommissioned this year as I am old enough where I will be going off to college, so they leave room for younger and new people to join 🙂
 
Parents can be both the worst thing and best thing in your life. However you don’t owe them anything. They took the responsibility of bringing you into this world, if they cant respect you as your own person in your early adult life then outside of respecting the rules you don’t owe them any consideration.

Respect for authority only goes so far it is not absolute. When respect isn’t reciprocated the cycle is broken.

My mother is extremely toxic, she likes to say how her children are required to look after her in her twilight years.

I’m already estranged to her, if my dad has another heart attack shes in for a rude awakening.
 
I’m sorry. I pray you and your father will get along better. Sorry
 
Thank you, and everyone for these comments. I know it isn’t wrong but I feel for disappointing my father, it is. I just needed reassurance that i wasn’t doing anything wrong.

I haVe already forgiven him in my heart, and as soon as I call down I plan on going to him and apologizing for getting upset at him
 
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