Remember that we are supposed to judge not by appearances but by just judgment. We can’t always know a person’s intention behind his behavior, so we must be very careful in making judgments about others, lest we commit the sin of rash judgment. If it is clear as crystal that a person has done some wrong in word or in action, then we may judge their word or action as wrong. We just can’t be rash when we make judgments. Also, we should not go speaking of other peoples’ private faults to others, unless the fault is well known and already public, or unless we are called to do so in a court of law or for some other good reason. God bless you.