Is it wrong to go to a nightclub?

[Newbie2]

Newbie… by the way… I see you are not the OP right… but that does not matter… the scenario is hypothetical… so dont take it personally… I dont mean to say you engage in this behaviour… just that the the explanations you offered dont really hold water with me…

No problem. I never frequented nightclubs myself when I was younger…not much of a dancer.

Anyway, I’m not saying it’s the thing to do, only that it ***can ***be an opportunity to witness, for the right person.

When I was in college, one guy in our group never drank…not a drop. When we went out on occasion, he’d always come with us…even bought drinks for one of us on a special occasion like passing a difficult class or something like that.

I don’t know what his religious affiliation was, but he was never judgmental about our drinking (we rarely drank to excess)…but all of looked at him as kind of an example of someone who had tremendous willpower. I guess his presence had sort of a modering influence on us as well, with him never having said a single word about drinking.

That’s the sort of “witness” that I’m talking about. I guess you’d have had to be there to experience it, but to this day I think about him on occasion, and his example of self-control.

 

[Tracy10]

LOL! Great article (below)

Yes… by their actions… when you hang out with people and drink while they drink to excess then… no… I dont think anyone but you notice just exactly how many drinks you have had… A young man or woman might see you and your friends together at the club and think: “Oh… isnt that so and so from Church who says he is a Catholic… yeah well… you know how Catholics drink” … the same with suggestive comments… Do you think your buddies are going to notice your silence or whatever you are planning on? I believe that if you want to make a statement showing that you dont talk about women in a degrading way you can make that point to your buddies at any other time and place where they will actually remember your words vividly afterwards.
I once sat at a table with a bunch of drunkards and preached to them… my oh my… talking about throwing pearls in front of pigs. I dont think any of them woke up the next morning puking and thinking: Oh my… but at least I talked to Grace and I will be sure never to get drunk again. oh no… you forget when you drink. and when you want preaching or deep conversation you talk to a friend or go to Church.
Could it be that you really wanna go to this club… not because you want to show a good example but because you dont want to be left out? Look… if thats the case then why not be honest about it… we all know its tough to be the odd one out… and you go to places and make up excuses on the way.
I have secular friends too who have tried to get me to party with them…they bid me a beer and I say: no thanks. They know I am a Christian and they think :“okay… that is Grace… but this is me”- and then they empty the bottle and open the next one and go have sex with their girl friend… Even though they see me and know my stance… because we talk about these things in a civilised manner when they are sober too. i dont need to go clubbing in order to tell my friends about my faith. Do you?
I am sorry… you might not like to hear this… but I dont admire a man who preaches by silence while he is in the night club with his friends. If you wanna be an example then talk and walk as a Christian and loose the friends that cant handle the light of a new creation.

these are just my two cents…

 

[beeliner]

I want to go to a nightclub with my friends for some fun. They will play popular dance music at this club as they do at every club, which means some of the songs will have lyrics with nothing wrong with them and others will have raunchy lyrics. Is it wrong for me to go to the club just because some of the music will have bad lyrics? I think it would be better for a positive influence such as myself, a person who cares about morals, to be there, than for me not to go.

The real question is, why do women wear EVENING gowns to NIGHT clubs?

Why not NIGHT gowns?

 

[Lucania]

I guess it boils down to why you are going there to begin with. Is it to socialize with friends,dance & listen to music? I don’t see anything wrong with that. DH & I go to bars a couple of times a month to hear & support my Brother & Nephew’s classic rock band . If one goes to bars & clubs to find a possible mate, chances are good that you won’t find Mr. or Mrs. right. I know alot of people go to “hook-up” ( ugh), or drink in excess, but not everyone is there for that purpose.

 

[Enoch]

I met my wife at a nightclub, so God can make good of any situation, if you leave yourself open to Him.

Personally, I have found as I’ve gotten older, when I do occasionally go to a bar/nightclub it just makes me appreciate being married all the more when I see how pathetic some single guys act. I don’t ever want to go back to that.

 

[rwoehmke]

In my opinion not a sin unless you find that going there lowers your inhibitions to questionable behavior. Yes, if you like second hand smoke, slobbering drunks, and semi-dressed women, by all means go. But to use the excuse of being a good example or preaching to the club manager, give me a break buddy, that is by product of hay that has passed through a bull.

 

[Ruthie]

JMBNH,

Please tell us what about the nightclubs made you sick of them!

Waiting to hear more,

Ruthie

 

[JMBNH]

JMBNH,

Please tell us what about the nightclubs made you sick of them!

Waiting to hear more,

Ruthie

Pretty much because my friends grew out of going and I got bored of doing the same thing everytime I went. Was if anything probably less of a temptation to me than sitting next to girls in lectures because I was more on guard (I ended up getting myself in more trouble at a Christian girl’s party than at nightclubs but that’s another story)

 

[MidnightSun02]

I understand that nightclubs are different but the ones a former boyfriend used to attend apparently weren’t very good. There were drugs and a lot of not-so-good stuff going on. If it were me I would never think to support an establishment that is okay with that sort of behavior. You may want to do a little research on clubs in your area and maybe you’ll find something that isn’t as bad as the one I mentioned. Keep in mind that some churches have dances…especially for the younger people. Also, why not make yourself a couple fun mix cds and have a dance party at your place with friends near and dear to you? I have more fun dancing with people I know and trust than dancing with complete strangers. Since your friends already know the sort of person you are there are boundaries that can be set so it doesn’t get too out of hand.

 

[Sagefrakrobatik]

I understand that nightclubs are different but the ones a former boyfriend used to attend apparently weren’t very good. There were drugs and a lot of not-so-good stuff going on. If it were me I would never think to support an establishment that is okay with that sort of behavior. You may want to do a little research on clubs in your area and maybe you’ll find something that isn’t as bad as the one I mentioned. Keep in mind that some churches have dances…especially for the younger people. Also, why not make yourself a couple fun mix cds and have a dance party at your place with friends near and dear to you? I have more fun dancing with people I know and trust than dancing with complete strangers. Since your friends already know the sort of person you are there are boundaries that can be set so it doesn’t get too out of hand.

Are you Kidding ! Do you know how many hotgirls there are at these nightclubs!

I love to dance I’m a regular Casanova.

 

[FRATER_PAVLVS]

I want to go to a nightclub with my friends for some fun. They will play popular dance music at this club as they do at every club, which means some of the songs will have lyrics with nothing wrong with them and others will have raunchy lyrics. Is it wrong for me to go to the club just because some of the music will have bad lyrics? I think it would be better for a positive influence such as myself, a person who cares about morals, to be there, than for me not to go.

I do not go for health reasons. Music is too loud and can damage hearing. And not only hearing but the brain too causing little blood vessels to burst. It’s not like you get a stroke any time you go to dance but nothing healthy anyway. If I’m wrong correct me, I’m no medic, honestly.

 

[clock]

I have a different problem when clubbing, I don’t really listen to lyrics that much, but know the songs to dance to etc.
My problem is people constantly trying to dance with you, you move to another side, and someone else comes up And no, its not what I wear, my cloths aren’t revealing.

Or when you go out with 7 mates and think ‘well all 7 of them aren’t going to go off with guys’. Oh how wrong I could be, :dts: not a single one got to their own beds that night

Although something I do quite a lot that my friends don’t like, is when I see someone wearing rosary beads I go up and start asking them about them, once established that they are only wearing them to match with their top, I take them off from round their neck and put them in their pockets telling them ‘they are not for fashion now are they, I’ll put them in your pocket so that when you need to pray, they will be there waiting, and if you want some help, just find me’ , my mates used to be so embarrased when I did that, now they just stand by me smiling

 

[KingAlfred]

I want to go to a nightclub with my friends for some fun. They will play popular dance music at this club as they do at every club, which means some of the songs will have lyrics with nothing wrong with them and others will have raunchy lyrics. Is it wrong for me to go to the club just because some of the music will have bad lyrics? I think it would be better for a positive influence such as myself, a person who cares about morals, to be there, than for me not to go.

Just don’t get drunk or pursue women with wrong intentions.

 

[blessedtoo]

I especially liked what Jimmy says here:

The fact is that there are so many causes for temptation–even if you live in a monastery and never watch TV or listen to the radio or read non-sacred books–that you will be completely paralyzed if you try to run away from any possible exposure to temptation. You will simply stay in bed all day, and even that won’t work because staying in bed all day will not cure your temptations. Due to the fall, we have temptation built into us, and so temptation is something we just have to live with.
It is like risk: Just as we cannot eliminate risk from life, we cannot eliminate temptation from life. The correct strategy in both cases is to manage risk and to manage temptation.

 

[andy120]

Although something I do quite a lot that my friends don’t like, is when I see someone wearing rosary beads I go up and start asking them about them, once established that they are only wearing them to match with their top, I take them off from round their neck and put them in their pockets telling them ‘they are not for fashion now are they, I’ll put them in your pocket so that when you need to pray, they will be there waiting, and if you want some help, just find me’ , my mates used to be so embarrased when I did that, now they just stand by me smiling

That’s awesome!

 

[Matariel]

For some it poses no danger.

For some, it does.

Personally, i hate smelling like smoke when I get home and the crude behavior that I’m subjected to at some of these places. I don’t go. I prefer bowling and pool and go-cart racing.

I love Theology on Tap. Try to find one or ask to start one! http://www.phatmass.com/phorum/style_emoticons/default/cheers.gif

Uh…?
What’s Theology on Tap?
Do we get to guzzle beer
and debate theology
simultaneously?

 

[stcalixtus]

I do not go for health reasons. Music is too loud and can damage hearing. And not only hearing but the brain too causing little blood vessels to burst. It’s not like you get a stroke any time you go to dance but nothing healthy anyway. If I’m wrong correct me, I’m no medic, honestly.

what about those lyrics? do you thing God would approve of some hood boasting of sexual conquest and bragging of murdering someone? even if you have no ill intentions being there you support the music industry that promotes thug life

 

[Matariel]

I have a different problem when clubbing, I don’t really listen to lyrics that much, but know the songs to dance to etc.
My problem is people constantly trying to dance with you, you move to another side, and someone else comes up And no, its not what I wear, my cloths aren’t revealing.

Or when you go out with 7 mates and think ‘well all 7 of them aren’t going to go off with guys’. Oh how wrong I could be, :dts: not a single one got to their own beds that night

Although something I do quite a lot that my friends don’t like, is when I see someone wearing rosary beads I go up and start asking them about them, once established that they are only wearing them to match with their top, I take them off from round their neck and put them in their pockets telling them ‘they are not for fashion now are they, I’ll put them in your pocket so that when you need to pray, they will be there waiting, and if you want some help, just find me’ , my mates used to be so embarrased when I did that, now they just stand by me smiling

How nice. People love our Catholic sacramentals for their beauty, but they are way more than a fashion statement. Kudos!

Although I see nothing wrong with a Catholic wearing Catholic symbols to let people know they’re Catholic, as I wear my Sacred Heart of Jesus shirt and Rosary sometimes, usually Sunday.

I also wanted that Camoflauge Theotokos shirt too, but it was sold out…