Is it wrong to have a crush on a saint or a blessed?

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I just recently discovered a new saint from WWII, and after awhile I started having feelings of infatuation towards this person. I would like to ask if it is wrong to have a crush on a saint or a blessed person? Is it a sin or a temptation?
 
I think you are being a bit scrupulous. I think many of us have saints that we like. But it sounds like in your case you have a crush on a saint or blessed person. Now if the person was a Priest it may be a different story. But as long as you are not dwelling on sexual thoughts about the person or aren’t thinking about them to the point where you are absolutely obsessed it should be fine. I’d like another user to confirm this though.

Edit: I’d like to say I was looking at this issue as I would having a crush on any ordinary person, so I may be incorrect, but this seems Innocent.
 
I have a man-crush on St. Thomas Aquinas. Often, I just imagine sitting in a log cabin with him before a fire, discussing the things of Heaven over some nice white wine (there’s no way he was a red wine man). 🙂 We watch the dog scratch its ears in the dim light crackling under the mantlepiece, and occasionally I stand up to have a look out at the peaceful winter landscape. The angels glimmer like so many stars in the sacred night sky. I want to embrace St. Thomas, and I wish to be as intimate with him as the Father is with me. Our whole lives are connected totally with the saints, just as the Church.

Having a “Crush” may be a tad strong, but the saint is dead and in Heaven. It ain’t goin’ anywhere any time soon!
 
soulhunter182 said:
I just recently discovered a new saint from WWII, and after awhile I started having feelings of infatuation towards this person. I would like to ask if it is wrong to have a crush on a saint or a blessed person? Is it a sin or a temptation?
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May I ask how did this infatuation occur and in what terms of infatuation are we speaking of? If it is sexual of course it is wrong but if it is wanting to live this persons kind of life and be like this person then no it is not wrong . But remember that sometimes infatuation can lead to a serious obsession .
 
If you mean a crush as modern society understands it - yes, it’s wrong, if it has overstepped the admiration mark, and the desire to emulate their behaviour, yes it’s wrong. I would advise you spend time in prayer over it.
 
I don’t think this is wrong. From what I know, people don’t choose who they have or do not have a crush on. So, if you do your best to ignore it, then I can’t see anyway that this could be sinful.
 
There have been a good number of married saints, from St. Peter on (Jesus once cured his mother-in-law), It would hardly be wrong if their wives or husbands had loved them. So there is nothing wrong with love for a saint or blessed in itself, if that is some part of your question.
I’m not sure though what a crush on someone who has already died means, but what you say in itself seems harmless to me.
 
I remember when I first came back to my faith, about 7 years ago, and I went through the fairly typical revert enthusiasm and gung ho attitude. After about 2 years or so, things started to calm down. My faith was still there, and I still loved God but the fervency felt like it had fallen off. I spoke with my niece about this (she was one of the people I give credit for helping to guide me back to the church) and she explained it like this: just like when you get into a new relationship, there is the initial infatuation and excitement of the new feelings. With a new-found love for God, over time that starts to settle and you begin the process of maturing in your faith. So the “rush” of it all sort of settles down but the love for Him never goes away. After thinking about what she said I turned to her and said, “So what you’re saying then is that I had a crush on Jesus and now I’m just in love?” It kind of gave us a little laugh but it did clear up the worry for me.
I would say pray about this, pray to this saint and ask for guidance from God. The guidance will come, your heart just has to be open to recognizing and receiving it.
May I ask who the saint is?
 
I have a man-crush on JP II. His writings opened the door for a closer relationship with God our Father than I have ever known in my lifetime. It’s not sexual or anything. But I would love to have had the opportunity to hug him.
 
Defender1 said:
May I ask how did this infatuation occur and in what terms of infatuation are we speaking of? If it is sexual of course it is wrong but if it is wanting to live this persons kind of life and be like this person then no it is not wrong . But remember that sometimes infatuation can lead to a serious obsession .
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it’s like an infatuation when one has with a pop-star or a movie actor something similar to that.
 
IrishRush said:
I remember when I first came back to my faith, about 7 years ago, and I went through the fairly typical revert enthusiasm and gung ho attitude. After about 2 years or so, things started to calm down. My faith was still there, and I still loved God but the fervency felt like it had fallen off. I spoke with my niece about this (she was one of the people I give credit for helping to guide me back to the church) and she explained it like this: just like when you get into a new relationship, there is the initial infatuation and excitement of the new feelings. With a new-found love for God, over time that starts to settle and you begin the process of maturing in your faith. So the “rush” of it all sort of settles down but the love for Him never goes away. After thinking about what she said I turned to her and said, “So what you’re saying then is that I had a crush on Jesus and now I’m just in love?” It kind of gave us a little laugh but it did clear up the worry for me.
I would say pray about this, pray to this saint and ask for guidance from God. The guidance will come, your heart just has to be open to recognizing and receiving it.
May I ask who the saint is?
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Hi, it’s Blessed Alberto Marvelli
 
GloriousOrder said:
I have a man-crush on St. Thomas Aquinas. Often, I just imagine sitting in a log cabin with him before a fire, discussing the things of Heaven over some nice white wine (there’s no way he was a red wine man). 🙂 We watch the dog scratch its ears in the dim light crackling under the mantlepiece, and occasionally I stand up to have a look out at the peaceful winter landscape. The angels glimmer like so many stars in the sacred night sky. I want to embrace St. Thomas, and I wish to be as intimate with him as the Father is with me. Our whole lives are connected totally with the saints, just as the Church.

Having a “Crush” may be a tad strong, but the saint is dead and in Heaven. It ain’t goin’ anywhere any time soon!
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I understand completely 😉 I happen to love St. Augustine and have for many years. When I was going through a very tough time in my life it was St. Augustine who assured me that God is gracious and forgiving when we sin and he leads us through his providence to a place where we trust in him even more.

I would love to discuss our thoughts and understanding of our LORD with him. I am grateful to God that he chose to preserve the writings of these great saints and doctors of his Church.

St. Augustine, patron of theologians, lead us in our life’s quest to know the Lord Jesus better and proclaim him to those outside the faith…
 
The first time I saw a picture of Saint Bernadette Soubirous, my first thought was, ‘wow. she looks like she’d be a nice, cute, sweet, compassionate little girl’.

The feature that stood out most to me was her eyes. They say the eyes are the window to a persons soul. Indeed, her eyes are very clear and bright. They arent cloudy or shaded. They are so full of enlightenment as a clear indicator that yes, she really HAS seen something of heaven. It is interesting to see that sort of thing in some of the younger Saints.
 
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