Is Marriage Bad?

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Most people are called to marriage. Very few are called to celibacy.
 
You are definitely overthinking this.

Be grateful that you found a beautiful girl who you want to marry someday. Not all of us are blessed like you. Indeed a lot of us would gladly exchange celibacy for a happy marriage. A happy marriage is a blessing.
 
I certainly hope that my questioning of this topic does not insinuate that I desire to be celibate, as I really dont. With regards to sacraments, is there any possibility that I need be worried about it being a sacrament because it has to be (given the number of married people and need for future generations) or that holy orders is somehow a better sacrament than marriage? I’ve heard people make this claim, just want to double check.
 
Just because celibacy is a higher state in life doesn’t mean that marriage is bad or unnecessary.
 
Wouldnt the understanding of a higher state mean that anything less (marriage) would be less devotion to the Lord?
 
Paul constantly references that those “without self-control” should marry. Is that not something to be pursued? I’m confused by Paul’s language here. Perhaps my connotation with a lack of self control is too overtly negative, but Paul appears to be saying that marrying is for those without self control.
 
I mean, if something is higher, then any other alternatives are less than the best. For example grades, an “A” would be the higher state than a “B”. My question is, if God wants us to be 100% devoted/dedicated to him, then wouldnt choosing “B” be settling? I assume I must have something wrong in this formula, any insight from anyone?
 
Not necessarily, because God calls some people to the married life and some to the celibate life. Needless to say, choosing not to follow God’s plan for your life would not be giving Him your best.
 
God giving some a more perfect gift than others seems overtly calvinist and would almost support God favoring some over others.
 
This is why we don’t just decide to get married, we discern if we have a vocation to religious life or marriage.
 
Davis_tylerj said:
Rather Paul talks about choosing celibacy over marriage if already single.
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Remember what those first-generation Christians were expecting-- they were expecting the Second Coming within their lifetimes. The whole reason for taking a few decades to write the gospels was because they were seeing all the eyewitnesses die off, either through natural causes, or martyrdom, or whatever.

So Paul was thinking about “now”, not about how civilization would collapse if everyone opted for celibacy.
 
Personally speaking, I wouldn’t care one bit if someone else’s vocation is greater than mine.

I worry if I have found and am in the right vocation and how well I live out that vocation.

I don’t see the point of comparing myself to others who have different vocations.
 
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