Is Marriage Dead?

[fellowChristian]

IMHO

Marriage isn’t dead. Maybe for some its in a coma?

No I can’t say that marriage is dead.My mother and father were married in the Catholic Church almost 50 years ago and remain so.My husband and I were married in the Catholic Church almost 20 years ago and remain so. Our daughter has been dicerning the vocation of the sacrament of marriage for the last 6 months with her fiance’ in the Catholic Church with the help of our priest.

They have been told repeatedly by their peers “Why can’t you just live together?”.
The answer? “Because that would be wrong in the eyes of God.”

They are the exception.
The both of them graduate this weekend from high school.
They have one quarter left to complete their A. A. Degree at our local community college.
They spend alot of their time with family. Thats the key

The wedding is this October.
They understand that their souls will become one and that they have chosen to include God in on their lives.
They desire heaven for eachother.

I am very proud to see people as young as them just getting that much.
It shows that God has graced them with much understanding.And also that they have had good role models

So no marriage is not dead.
There are still those who invite God to be one with them.
My husband and I teach our children about our faith and anyone else we encounter.

Live your faith.Love your faith.Teach your faith.Set a good example.
Thats how we rivive marriage.

 

[Starwynd]

Excuse me, strngrnrth, I would appreciate it if you could change the color of your posts to a different one please. That color is hard on the eyes.

And thank you if you do.

 

[strngrnrth]

Excuse me, strngrnrth, I would appreciate it if you could change the color of your posts to a different one please. That color is hard on the eyes.

And thank you if you do.

Sorry, I didn’t realize what it would look like posted. It was pretty.
How about dark blue?

 

[rwoehmke]

Or failure to appreciate how good we have it and how much our forebears sacrificed to give us so much. But my main point was that a great blessing can still be mixed. We have a far better life now. Incomparably so. As a side effect, though, we must figure out what to do with all these years and all this extra energy.

Are you by any chance Irish. My wife’s parents were from Ireland and told me that the average age of marriage was much higher than in the states. Most of my high school graduating class(1954) were married before age 20. That was the way things were in the towns where I grew up. A few of us went to college and a very few became priests or religious with a rare genuine old maid every so often.

I think pre-industrial revolution, 19 th century, the marriage age in Europe was much younger than in the 20’s at least for women. I may be wrong.

 

[Starwynd]

How about dark blue?

That’ll do.

And thanks.

 

[strngrnrth]

Are you by any chance Irish. My wife’s parents were from Ireland and told me that the average age of marriage was much higher than in the states. Most of my high school graduating class(1954) were married before age 20. That was the way things were in the towns where I grew up. A few of us went to college and a very few became priests or religious with a rare genuine old maid every so often.

I think pre-industrial revolution, 19 th century, the marriage age in Europe was much younger than in the 20’s at least for women. I may be wrong.

I’m American with a longstanding relationship to Irish-America, and a lot of Irish blood. But my interest in history is broader than that. I have been reading actual marriage, baptismal and birth records among other data from Europe and North America for quite a while. Part of this is genealogical but part is just a fascination with history. Yes, at times of great sudden social change or migration the age of marriage can go way up or way down for a generation or more, but it settles into the early 20’s for agrarian/industrial people, mid-to-late teens for hunter-gatherer/pastoral people, most often as soon as things are stable. The normal age difference betwen bride and groom is about 10-15%. Elites usually marry earlier so that their parents can influence the match, whereas regular people choose their own spouses and therefore marry only when they are sure they have found the right person.
The 1950’s were a very artificial situation in the US. The government was trying to restore what people in the '30’s and '40’s were nostalgic for from easier times, a situation that had never really existed, like all nostalgias, and marriage was pushed through subsidized family home loans and similar policies, giving young people an incentive to hurry up and tie the knot.

 

[SpiritMeadow]

So why would it be significant that divorce is more prevalent among Christians than others. It is the religious that get married. The others don’t bother, so divorce among them is a moot issue. Not?

The others don’t bother? LOL…No the studies are among married people, not married and cohabiting people. The fact is that that those who raise the greatest roar about people being immoral divorce more often than do “secular” people that marry. Sorry to blow up your mind but facts is facts.

 

[crenfro]

I think that marriage, at least in America, is either dead, or dying out.

So I believe marriage is dead and has no rela value in America and part of the problem is the Secular nature of America’s morality and the constant attack on religious absolute and proper morality that affects the institution of marriage.

I disagree. I believe as long as there are still those who are trying to be faithful to the Catholic church and faithfully fulfill the sacraments, here mentioned the sacrament of marriage, that marriage isn’t dead. Because something’s weakened doesn’t make it dead.

That’s my opinion, my 2 cents.

I’m curious why someone would state that the institution of marriage is dead and has no value in the US…

just my honest reaction…

thanks for listening…

 

[Greg27]

I don’t think marriage is dead by any stretch. What seems more reasonable to conclude, on the basis of the evidence, is that due to divorce law reform in common-law countries (including most English speaking countries), divorce is a lot easier than it used to be. It is correct to argue people don’t try to work out difficulties in a marriage as much as was the case in the past, when more stigma and social pressure was applied to those who divorced, especially women. But, plenty of people still get married.

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