Is my annulment still valid?

[Murphster]

GloriaPatri4:

Perhaps the both of you should consider counseling with a priest who has experience with these situations. May I ask how old you were when the two of you exchanged vows? Youth has alot to do with irrational life affecting decisions that leave damaging lasting consequences. Maybe your ex realizes this now.

Have you spoke with a priest from your diocese Marriage Tribunal to verify whether your annulment was valid or not. I would think it would be best to find that out first before any other contact with this other fellow. If your ex is truly sorry for his actions wouldn’t it be best to give him a chance?

Please don’t take offense to this but this story would sure make an interesting Novel. Wow what a story. I hope it has a happy ending.

I will be praying for you.

I will soon have an appointment to see someone from the tribunal office this summer. I live in a big city and it is extremely backed up right now apparently.

I was 24 when I took vows.

It’s funny you mention this sounding like a novel. I actually have a book deal in negotiations to write my memoirs of certain experiences in childhood (immigrating from Ireland, settling on a farm in the midwest, my parents dying, being sent to boarding school, separated from my siblings, etc) and experiencs as a young adult with some of the non-profit work I’ve done overseas. But no, I don’t think I’ll be including any of this recent marital drama Writing about it in book format would be too painful.

As for my ex…the feelings just aren’t there right now. I can’t force it. I do struggle with a sense of obligation though. I don’t know what I will do yet.