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DominvsVobiscvm
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Try getting your son involved in sports or something, seriously.
I’ve always been involved in theatre (since high school, anyway), and this field brings with it many, many stereotypes. Add to the fact that after high school I entered a religious order (right when the gay sex abuse scandal was unravelling), and the fact that I’m good-looking (I couldn’t resist!), I could be stereotyped as gay, if people try hard enough.
*Thank God * I’ve never been effeminate. (Maybe a little flamboyant, but this comes with the Acting territory.)
Anyways, the point I’m trying to make is I’ve known many, many gay people. (I was one of only two straight guys in my high school drama club.) I do happen to have acquired a “gaydar,” so I know you cannot always tell my how “masculine” someone is.
I would be careful to diagnose early. Bringing this up to your child could really traumatize him and cause resentment.
Look, I’ll be really honest here. When I told my parents that I wanted to enter religious life, they took it very suspiciously. Late in high school I also went through a period of teenage depression, and during that time my parents asked me if I was gay. Not because I’ve ever been effiminate, or done anything to make them or others think that, but simply because they could not understand why their normal, first-born son would want to be celibate. (I wasn’t raised Catholic, keep in mind.)
And from what I understand from talking to many young aspiring priests and religious today, who don’t come from religious families, this is a question that is often times asked my skeptical, cynical parents.
Again, it causes a lot of resentment. It did for me, amd it took a couple of years for my parents and I to be “reconciled.” And it casued me a lot of needless worrying and questioning.
In short, do some homework, have him see an orthodox Catholic psychologist if you really think you have reason for concern, but do it in such a way that the child does not know you are questioning his sexuality.
Just my two cents.
Eric
I’ve always been involved in theatre (since high school, anyway), and this field brings with it many, many stereotypes. Add to the fact that after high school I entered a religious order (right when the gay sex abuse scandal was unravelling), and the fact that I’m good-looking (I couldn’t resist!), I could be stereotyped as gay, if people try hard enough.
*Thank God * I’ve never been effeminate. (Maybe a little flamboyant, but this comes with the Acting territory.)
Anyways, the point I’m trying to make is I’ve known many, many gay people. (I was one of only two straight guys in my high school drama club.) I do happen to have acquired a “gaydar,” so I know you cannot always tell my how “masculine” someone is.
I would be careful to diagnose early. Bringing this up to your child could really traumatize him and cause resentment.
Look, I’ll be really honest here. When I told my parents that I wanted to enter religious life, they took it very suspiciously. Late in high school I also went through a period of teenage depression, and during that time my parents asked me if I was gay. Not because I’ve ever been effiminate, or done anything to make them or others think that, but simply because they could not understand why their normal, first-born son would want to be celibate. (I wasn’t raised Catholic, keep in mind.)
And from what I understand from talking to many young aspiring priests and religious today, who don’t come from religious families, this is a question that is often times asked my skeptical, cynical parents.
Again, it causes a lot of resentment. It did for me, amd it took a couple of years for my parents and I to be “reconciled.” And it casued me a lot of needless worrying and questioning.
In short, do some homework, have him see an orthodox Catholic psychologist if you really think you have reason for concern, but do it in such a way that the child does not know you are questioning his sexuality.
Just my two cents.
Eric
