Is my fiancée being spiritually attacked by her pagan coworker?

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Well pray for me I guess because I’ll live out the rest of my life regardless, whether or not God gives me consolation. I appreciate your contribution!
 
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I understand that I am weak and disgusting-- I don’t know how to fix that except continuing to ask God to save me from myself.
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No, the way to fix that is to see a psychiatrist.
I mean, don’t stop praying to become a better person, but if you’re being genuine in your self-assessment, you need secular, temporal, here-on-Earth help. Prayer alone won’t cure mental conditions like you claim to have.
 
I appreciate that! After all these comments, I suppose flirting makes sense. People don’t really flirt with me (Audrey) since my conversion so I guess I was just confused. How do I go about kindly saying 'hi, I recognize you are flirting with me please stop because it is unwanted?" without making my work environment uncomfortable?
 
Wait what is happening. I do not claim to have any mental conditions! I have no mental illnesses. I am weak in faith. That’s a fact. It disgusts me because I remember feeling the boundless Love of God and now I don’t because of pride or something and that’s devastating. It makes me repulsed with myself because God has only asked me to love Him and I constantly fail. That’s the disgusting part.
 
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Well pray for me I guess because I’ll live out the rest of my life regardless, whether or not God gives me consolation. I appreciate your contribution!
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I’m not saying you shouldn’t live out your life at all. OF COURSE you should.

But you shouldn’t have to live in in the way that you do. Torn, confused and in pain. That’s no way to live life and God does not want that.

If you told me “I need to constantly drink water all.the.time and that leads me to needing to go to the bathroom all the time. I’m losing weight and I feel terrible. My coworker is a vegan and keeps telling me that it’s my meat-eating habits causing this.”

I would tell you. GO TO A DOCTOR!!! Or even the ER! That’s a major sign of diabetes! Don’t live like that, it will kill you!!! It has nothing to do with eating meat. Meat is a distraction to the issue.

This is the same thing. Religion is the secondary part of this. You are facing an abusive and manipulative co-worker and are in need of mental help and relief. The only thing you need to do is to get to professional help, fast.
 
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amc said:
Wait what is happening. I do not claim to have any mental conditions! I have no mental illnesses. I am weak in faith. That’s a fact. It disgusts me because I remember feeling the boundless Love of God and now I don’t because of pride or something and that’s devastating. It makes me repulsed with myself because God has only asked me to love Him and I constantly fail. That’s the disgusting part.
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When someone types the words, ‘I am weak and disgusting,’ that tends to make one think that there’s some serious problem underlying.

I’ve been a Catholic all my life, and women have been flirting with me for pretty much that whole time. I don’t think being Catholic is any sort of flirt-repellant. 😉
 
My thoughts were ,wow,that’s creapy.And it is.
Is there any way she could change jobs?
There are people,people and people and I for one feel your fiancé
should protect herself spiritually and find a different job if possible.
I did go to a festival not too long ago, a family fun day,medieval,
but in the evening we stayed on a bit later after the families went
home and the atmosphere changed markedly.It was pagan and
it felt sinister.I felt very catholic and had some very odd looks that
we’re plain hostile.And that was no imagination.
 
Audrey, the way we perceive things is a powerful thing in itself.

The mind can be made to suffer the effects of an attack, even if one is actually not taking place at all. Such is the power of the mind, anxiety and many other psychological things. Often, we do as much or more damage to ourselves, than those around us may wish to.

It’s an important stage of your life. Embrace that fact. Don’t hide from it in fear. You have much to look forward to 🙂

Try and reflect inward, not at those around you. On the strength you do have. Because believe it or not - what you need is already inside you. The ability to control this situation yourself. You have that power. It is invested in all people meek and strong. You need ask no forgiveness of God, you already have it. You aren’t disgusting. You are beautiful. As is all creation.

I’m posting to you now; because I’ve been there you see. The unwanted attention and the devious action. Immoral people all learn to manipulate from day one. As a female, I know all too well how men can think. There is no tool, lie or weakness they will not use in pursuit of an agenda. Make no mistake - there are great men out there and women can be just as guilty! But sexuality is a powerful draw. You can count on the fact that Daniel is interested, even if it is but a game to him.

Because he exploits your situation - it makes him unworthy of almost all respect. So do not impart any on him, beyond what is due common decency. Deny them their twisted victory over you - or over those that worry for you. As I’m sure your fiancé does. Because those who love - deserve better in this life. Always.

We seldom are effected by those who hold no value to us Audrey That much should be obvious to you. So you must examine your own mind today. Determine what about Daniel vexes you thus. What gives him his hold over you, is likely your own uncertainly and fear for the future. Not any malific power he claims to hold.

And those doubts are natural! Nothing you are doing wrong. It is God given to doubt things! Don’t forget it.

To conquer this; you must realIse that IT is a battle of faith. But not yours against his. Not against the atheist or the ‘Druid’ but against your own doubts. An internal war.

You seem to repeat in various ways, that your faith is weak. But is it so? Or are you stronger than you think for getting this far? For asking for help? You are capable of far more than you know. So stand up and fight.

Those who wish harm on the harmless are unworthy of your emotional distress. This is why I will never condemn those who have commented about ‘having words’.

So politely tell Daniel that his bombardment and perspective is causing you to feel uncomfortable. That is something any person should respond to - friend or foe.

And if he will not. Then you have your answer. He has no good will for you in his heart. The flaw lies with him and you can move forward.

Focus on your bright future, on what is important and never hold back from educating Daniel on his misguided steps. For it is the RIGHT thing to do.

God will stand with those who believe in the right over the wrong. Trust in that. I’ve lived it myself. Good luck x
 
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Audery should start praying for the would be druid. That act alone has settled many problems large and small for me and others. The other thing she might do is carry a little bottle of holy water. Blessed sacramentals carry the good intentions of the whole church. Many carry these. Finally she could pray some deliverance prayers every now and then and then, and then she can stop worrying about the druid.

If anyone here has a problem, it is the “druid.” Those unfortunate enough to have run across some sho nuff black magic end up being devoured by it spiritually.
 
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I would also point out, at least if you are in the U.S., that religious harassment is also against the law. He could very well be told that going around at work talking about how much you hate Catholics is inappropriate, and joking about hurting people with magic is extremely inappropriate. There was an askamanager article about this - “religious” or not, talking about hurting people is not acceptable at work. You would be perfectly justified in going to HR and saying that your coworker is making you uncomfortable, making unwarranted and disparaging remarks about your faith, and manipulating you into a situation that you had already indicated you were uncomfortable with. And frankly why he’s doing that isn’t actually relevant.

Honestly I wouldn’t treat this as an issue of your faith so much as an issue with a coworker who is out of bounds.
 
amc said:
How do I go about kindly saying 'hi, I recognize you are flirting with me please stop because it is unwanted?" without making my work environment uncomfortable?
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You don’t say that to him. You go to your boss and tell them everything your co-worker has done.
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Which is a good way to get your fiancee fired and in trouble with the law. While you might think it noble to be the hero, that kind of behavior is NOT tolerated in the American work place.
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She doesn’t want to stop it, so his options are (as I see it) to either put a stop to it himself or dump her and move on.
 
Dear sister, Scripture tells us that we cannot rely on feelings. Feelings lie. God is there even when you don’t feel it.

Trust, obey.
 
What keeps coming to me is that you and your boyfriend would very much benefit by
praying the Rosary together frequently. Our Blessed Mother intercedes for us in all kinds of situations. Talking to a priest is an excellent idea also.

Peace,

Dorothy
 
Audrey; this dude is a predator. Regardless of whatever demonic lie of a religion he practices. Just stay away from him and report him to HR. I agree with praying the Rosary and talking to a priest. Maybe have the priest bless the two of you. I’d also suggest praying the Lorica of Saint Patrick and the Saint Michael Prayer; as I do believe you’re under assault in the mundane and spiritual sense. Keep praying and trust in God, sister. I’ve offered up a Rosary for the both of you.
 
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amc said:
He is marrying a broken woman begging God to save her.
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Audrey we are all broken women and men until the final days. Marriage is also a sacrament God gave us to lead us to salvation. I also guess it’s a case of flirting. You have to put an end to it. Think, it will happen later on in life, what will you do? Just be as polite as you can with Daniel and stop answering his funky comments. You have to not be nice to him without being rude, or attractive to him. It sucks I know but this is the only way until he finds someone else to flirt with. Wear less makeup, pull your hair up in a ponytail, dress more boring… you know. How pull them into liking us is the same path to get out of this situation. The reality is that since you are engaged you are not supposed to want men to flirt with you anymore. I mean if they do it may not be your fault, but for you to feel sad that the scapular made men not flirt with you, other then your fiancee… that is not ok. There is a nasty siren in all of us. But there is also a good fairy right next to her.
Oh and when Daniel said he hates this and that so you can hear while you were obviously wearing a scapular, he was saying to get your attention because he likes you. He already is too important in your life. He mustn’t be. Push him in the back.
 
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