Is my friend being Euthanized today?

[graceandglory]

If she doesn’t want to live she shouldn’t be forced by strangers to live. Show a little respect for the dying.

The deal is, she was not dying. It seems that there was not enough love from her friends to support her to live. All of a sudden, there are friends, who were on the periphery and not in the husband’s inner circle who are getting enraged right now.

 

[graceandglory]

Cardinal Maria Martini reject the use of a stoma because he considered it an extraordinary measure and after a consultation with the physicians he acknowledged that it would not have helped in a significant manner, he died a few days later.

Was Cardinal Martini dying? My friend was not dying.

Cardinal Martini was 85 yrs old and was in the end stages/terminal of Parkinsons. The feeding tube would have prolonged his suffering. A feeding tube would not have prolonged my friend’s suffering, but her life. She was young, active, beautiful, and was now bedridden. She was not terminal.

 

[maryjk]

Yes, a stoma should have been placed. It is common for patients to find the feeding tube irritating, and may need some sedation for a few weeks to adjust. The husband did not sign for her to have the stoma. My understanding is that a pt. pulling out their gastric tube is normal. The temporary sedation is also normal. Rather, he sedated her so that she would not notice she was dying of starvation.

Each time a gastric tube is pulled out, surgery is required to put it back in. I can’t believe that you wanted your friend to go through repeated surgeries and, as you put it, weeks of sedation for each surgery. There is a limit. The Church doesn’t require us to do everything and anything to stay alive.

I have found articles online that do address this situation.

My mom went through the surgery for a feeding tube. Once. We talked before she went under and she really didn’t want it at all. But she agreed so we could have more time together. How many times do you think she should have gone through that surgery?

I went to be with her last Friday at 3:00, in order to pray a divine mercy chaplet. She died at 3:10. I think our angels met that day.

My mother was very dear to me. We lived together as roommates for three years, while my father was away for the military. We became best friends. It was like a part of me died, the day she died. I still think about her, every day. And it has been over a year since she left us.

I think about the choices I made about her healthcare. I am sure there are people that would have done something different. Maybe would have taken her to a different specialist or tried a new age medicine or refused to admit her to Hospice. I didn’t. And I have to be at peace with what I did or didn’t do. All we can do is to try to do our best. I know I did my best.

Please think about the husband. Chances are he was doing what he thought was right. What he thought she wanted. He was doing the best he could.

I am glad you were with your friend when she died. As much as I miss my mom, I am very glad I was with her, when she died.

 

[asd72]

As far as I know in these situations in the UK the wish to withdraw nutrition/dehydration has to be brought before a court of law. Long term feeding requires a proper feeding tube rather than just a NG tube. It is difficult to know in your friends situations if there weren’t other factors involved.

I’m sorry for the loss of your friend.

 

[DCNBILL]

Yes, a stoma should have been placed. It is common for patients to find the feeding tube irritating, and may need some sedation for a few weeks to adjust. The husband did not sign for her to have the stoma. My understanding is that a pt. pulling out their gastric tube is normal. The temporary sedation is also normal. Rather, he sedated her so that she would not notice she was dying of starvation.

I have found articles online that do address this situation.

I went to be with her last Friday at 3:00, in order to pray a divine mercy chaplet. She died at 3:10. I think our angels met that day.

Eternal rest grant unto her O Lord.
And let perpetual light shine upon her.

May she rest in peace.
Amen

May her soul and the souls of all the faithful departed rest in peace.
Amen.

 

[TheRealJuliane]

Yes, a stoma should have been placed. It is common for patients to find the feeding tube irritating, and may need some sedation for a few weeks to adjust. The husband did not sign for her to have the stoma. My understanding is that a pt. pulling out their gastric tube is normal. The temporary sedation is also normal. Rather, he sedated her so that she would not notice she was dying of starvation.

I have found articles online that do address this situation.

I went to be with her last Friday at 3:00, in order to pray a divine mercy chaplet. She died at 3:10. I think our angels met that day.

I am so sorry to hear this.

May God be with her family and friends, and may she rest in peace.