Is my marriage valid I was a non Catholic

[Seavila777]

So I got married back in 2006 my husband is a Catholic, I however was not I’d never been baptized either, we married in a civil ceremony. In 2009 I entered the church through rcia, my instructor never answered me on whether I should be allowed communion or not. I was told by someone here in Mexico where I live that it’s valid for me since I was baptized after but I feel it’s incorrect my priest just says “pay the stipend and get married” but in the meantime whilst saving up for said stipend should I avoid communion?

 

[SuscipeMeDomine]

Since your husband was Catholic, he was obligated to either be married in the Catholic form or get a dispensation. It sounds like that didn’t happen. It’s too bad your RCIA team didn’t pursue this earlier. What you need to do now is bring your marriage into the Church. It’s technically called a convalidation. Talk to your priest and he’ll help you move forward. Best wishes.

 

[Titivillus]

Since your husband was Catholic, he was obligated to either be married in the Catholic form or get a dispensation. It sounds like that didn’t happen.

I read nothing to imply that the husband did not seek and receive a dispensation – If it is the case that he did do so, then (other things being equal) not only was/is your marriage valid, it automatically became valid when you became baptized!

(But otherwise, I believe the above is correct – By all means, take the situation to your priest, who will help you determine your course)

 

[Seavila777]

@titusville
No he didn’t get a dispensation he doesn’t even know what that is

 

[Phemie]

How much of a stipend do you have to save up for? You can just meet with the priest with 2 witnesses and get married. No need for a big ceremony or anything. My friends did that in the parish office after the Sunday morning Mass.

As far as forgoing Communion just do what your priest advises you. We can all express our opinion but you should be guided by your Pastor, not some anonymous folk on a website.

 

[Seavila777]

The stipend is 4000 pesos my husband makes 1200 pesos a week we have four kids I might have 100 pesos left over at the end of the week hes really wanting a big ceremony but I’m leaning towards small and personal I’ll ask the church secretary about how much it costs just to get married no mass

 

[ChristMyLife]

costs just to get married no mass

If it’s a small ceremony done in the Chapel and the Pastor knows you are tight on money it should be free.

My wife and I were married in the Rectory Chapel at our Cathedral by our Deacon, we had about 12 family members present, and it didn’t cost us a single dime (or peso )