Is my parents marriage valid?

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This is becoming too convoluted for any of us. He should confer with his priest. I am out of this one.
 
He also said his parents were married 50 years initially before saying his father had remarried so I am slightly confused.
 
MaryEstelle2 said:
He also said his parents were married 50 years initially before saying his father had remarried so I am slightly confused.
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It’s “supposed to” be their anniversary. Of their maybe valid marriage.

The OP would do well with therapy before proceeding further on that line of thought.
 
I understand your feelings,i am in a somewhat similar situation.

however, children chastising their parents ararely accomplishes anything. would they even listen to you? mine don’t. there is nothing I can say really,except sometimes encouraging them to try to be right with the church, when the timing is appropriate. which is always rejected. so I just pray, there’s not much else that can be done.
 
OsculeturMeOsculo said:
Ironically it isn’t your place to tell him what to do. You seem to be assuming a lot regarding his intentions and actions.
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He was clear in his motives. He wants his father to divorce his current wife and get back with his mother because he believes this will make the situation right with God.

The fact of the matter is that even without knowing his mothers first marriage was invalid and they got permission to marry his parents do not have to ever set foot in the same house so long as they are chaste. He has an unrealistic pipe dream.
 
You say you are not assuming but it still sounds like it.
 
OsculeturMeOsculo said:
You say you are not assuming but it still sounds like it.
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He said what he wants. Unfortunately, what he wants (his father to divorce his wife and parents back together) is not at all tied to their salvation.

There is a a very real chance that given this information the father would be able to make his current marriage good with God. If his father did leave his current wife, no salvation would rest on the OP parents getting back together.

They need to get right with God. Not fulfill the fantasy of an injured adult child.
 
I would not consider this a rant from the other poster. When posting here expect different views and opinions as well as responses. BTW if you want to see a real rant or many…just go to FB!
 
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A child has the right to know whether his parents are living according to the Christian faith they profess.

Obviously this child is learning there is some insincerity going on. Divorces and remarriage against the Lord’s commandments.

Shame on parents who leave their children to have to sort out their messy situation just to have understanding.
 
Yes, but it seems that his fantasy-his parents reuniting–is also against Church teaching. If what the OP has presented is accurate, their marriage was never valid.

The more appropriate course of action would seem to be for his father to attempt to regularize his current marriage.
 
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rcwitness said:
Obviously this child is learning there is some insincerity going on. Divorces and remarriage against the Lord’s commandments.
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We don’t really know that. We don’t know that the OP has all the facts about his parents’ marriages.
 
  1. If they’ve reached 50 years of marriage and they are your parents, by all means congratulate them. A 50-year commitment to each other is to be celebrated, especially when you’re the child of that commitment.
  2. Your parents’ moral issues are their own and are between the two of them and their priest. They are not your issues to either judge or analyze and you need to quit minding your parents’ business for them. At most, if you are concerned, you could advise them to please talk to a priest because you are worried about their souls. If they take your advice fine. If not then pray for them.
 
rcwitness said:
A child has the right to know whether his parents are living according to the Christian faith they profess.
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No, he doesn’t have a “right to know” the personal business of an adult member of his family that is not directly affecting his own health and well-being.

Any more than the parent would have a “right to know” whether their adult child was living according to Christian principles.
 
My gut says that the OP thinks it is smart to celebrate his divorced parents original wedding date. What I’d suggest is having a Mass said for a private intention on that date, and you pray for your parents on that day.
 
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this is really not your concern. you might have scruples?

have you spoken with a priest about this
 
TheLittleLady said:
My gut says that the OP thinks it is smart to celebrate his divorced parents original wedding date. What I’d suggest is having a Mass said for a private intention on that date, and you pray for your parents on that day.
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Yeah, I was really confused by this whole post as to whether his parents are still married or not.

if they are now divorced, it would just be stupid to congratulate them on a 50-year anniversary of a marriage they consider themselves no longer in. I would follow the above advice to discreetly have a Mass said for them.
 
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