Is my parents marriage valid?

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I made the decision to avoid this controversy way back and now I am glad I did. This cannot be resolved via the internet or CA. Let there be peace.
 
Dad - “yeah, that’s what they told me 50 yrs ago, they aren’t going to determine if I am married or not, son. You have to live your own life, stop worrying about what some religious folk think they know.”
 
mrsdizzyd said:
“Dad, I understand that it is against church teaching to marry more than once. I also understand that there is a way to regualrize your current marriage. Maybe you should think about talking to a priest about it.”
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Are you saying that the Church can “regularize” this marriage, guaranteed? What if the Church determines his wife is unable to be married to him?
 
I just don’t like seeing others bash people. Most people aren’t adding anything either unless repeating the same thing over and over again counts.
 
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Then, you pray for him. You can’t force someone to do what they don’t want to do.
 
adgloriam said:
Ironically it isn’t your place to tell him what to do. You seem to be assuming a lot regarding his intentions and actions.
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Aren’t you doing the same thing now? Just saying… :man_shrugging:t2:
adgloriam said:
Simple fact, I haven’t read anything written by you that merits.
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In all fairness, I’m waiting to see what you will constructively contribute to this Thread…
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Last time I checked, it is an act of mercy to admonish a sinner. No one has suggested judging the man, or ridiculing him.

A lot of people act like it’s a sin to help someone turn from what Jesus calls sin.
 
No one has suggested forcing anything.

Prayer is good. But prayer without action is not always listening to what God is asking us to do.
 
It comes down to tact and realism. If the OP believes the marriage can be restored he’s probably fooling himself.

If he delivers the information or suggestions poorly, it’ll just be awkward and ineffective. Honestly, some people don’t want to change their situation :man_shrugging:t2: We really can’t force them.
 
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In the scenario that we just played out, he told his father there was a problem, suggested a solution to the problem, and prayed for Dad. Action was taken.

And, let us not forget that prayer is one of the most powerful actions we can undertake.
 
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You did make it sound like the Church can “regularize” the marriage, guaranteed.

It’s possible the Church is unable to declare the wife free to marry, right?
 
Cruciferi said:
It comes down to tact and realism. If the OP believes the marriage can be restored he’s probably fooling himself.

If he delivers the information or suggestions poorly, it’ll just be awkward and ineffective. Honestly, some people don’t want to change their situation :man_shrugging:t2: We really can’t force them.
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I agree that is not realistic. And that is the damage done from Catholics who take very lightly their faith and relationship with Jesus.

Choices are made and years and years go by ignoring the Holy Spirit.

I honestly think the Church lacks conviction to admonish the faithful. Or should I say, the people of little faith.

We don’t have priests who are seeking the lost sheep, and crying out to the wayward flock
 
rcwitness said:
You did make it sound like the Church can “regularize” the marriage, guaranteed.

It’s possible the Church is unable to declare the wife free to marry, right?
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Yes. That is right. It would have been better if I added a qualifier. I will edit it to reflect that.
 
What a mess. 😟

OP, do NOT congratulate your parents on what would have been their 50th anniversary. What a hurtful, selfish idea. It would only cause them pain. Pointing a finger at their past sins will only push them further away from the Church. Take a look at the sin in your own life first.

Pray for them. Don’t mention the anniversary AT ALL. Bring your mom flowers “just because” or take her to dinner or do some jobs around the house for her. She could be feeling pretty low about it all. Spend time loving your parents instead of trying to butt-in about things that are none of your business.

Having a discrete Mass said for them is a wonderful idea at any time. Say the Rosary for them daily. Be a living example of Christ’s love. Your joy in Christ will bring them to the Church quicker than any self-righteousness on your part.

Accept that they are divorced, as hard as it is, and move on.
 
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