Is posting on CA a good habit?

  • Thread starter Thread starter consumedconvert
  • Start date Start date
Status
Not open for further replies.
C

consumedconvert

Guest
As I catch up on a few of the debate threads I missed during Lent, I simply have to wonder, is posting to this site such a good habit? Look at the debate threads! Unless you start a post about beer or something, someone somewhere will say something very edgy and unChristian, or at least state their opinion with a very unChristian tone.

The usual pattern is:
  1. OP posts.
  2. Three or four thoughtful responses.
  3. Someone gets sardonic.
  4. Those involved in #2 respond sarcastically.
  5. The sardonic poster attacks those involved in #2 and ridicules OP.
  6. OP responds sarcastically.
  7. The thread goes on angrily for twenty or so pages, degenerated into attacks, counterattacks, baiting, backbiting, and complaints about attacks (which become “YOU are attacking people!” “No you idiot, YOU are attacking people!” etc.) until a mod shuts it down or people get bored and move on to another thread, which will degenerate the same way.
I’ve been drawn into this too many times. I’ve enjoyed this site, and wasted a lot of time on this site, admittedly when I should be off to other things. I’ve contributed to CA Forums before, but now I have to wonder: was that money well spent? I’m basically paying for my own enjoyment with discussing issues and getting bashed in the head by (primarily) other Catholics, and bashing other Catholics in the head. Should I really be so eager for this? Just a thought.

Well, enough already. I’m off to go do something else.

CC

PS – I’m waiting to see if this thread will degenerate in the same way; so maybe I’ll kick the habit for my non-lenten journey 😉
 
I think the system would work fine if mods would routinely close threads at the middle or end of page 2, about the time it takes to be totally off topic and into the personal attacks.
 
I think the system would work fine if mods would routinely close threads at the middle or end of page 2, about the time it takes to be totally off topic and into the personal attacks.
I have to agree. A topic may start out quite interesting and thoughtful. By the time you get to page 3 or 4, it’s usually not. I’m not entirely certain that my reading or posting here is good for my spiritual life.
 
I feel the same way. I have detached myself from this site a lot. I stayed away for about a year and now only participate minimally. I need to have a constant awareness though, because it is easy to find oneself caught up in old bad habits.

I often wonder how those that post here regularly find time for anything else, then I just assume that they are better at managing their time than I am.

I noticed when I came back that there are a lot of bullies.

Just MO.🙂
 
I left for a long time because I felt it was hurting me spiritually.

I came here originally to learn about catholocism and to talk about the bible and meet people.😃

I did meet one person that I have been friends with now for 2 years:D

But, I quickly saw what you are talking about and I have to humbly admit it was turning me into an anti-catholic:( :o
I do not want to become one of those types of people so I left. I just came back like a week ago and nothing has changed.😦 Same old same old.

I try not to hang around too often for the reason stated above.
 
As I catch up on a few of the debate threads I missed during Lent, I simply have to wonder, is posting to this site such a good habit? Look at the debate threads! Unless you start a post about beer or something, someone somewhere will say something very edgy and unChristian, or at least state their opinion with a very unChristian tone.

The usual pattern is:
  1. OP posts.
  2. Three or four thoughtful responses.
  3. Someone gets sardonic.
  4. Those involved in #2 respond sarcastically.
  5. The sardonic poster attacks those involved in #2 and ridicules OP.
  6. OP responds sarcastically.
  7. The thread goes on angrily for twenty or so pages, degenerated into attacks, counterattacks, baiting, backbiting, and complaints about attacks (which become “YOU are attacking people!” “No you idiot, YOU are attacking people!” etc.) until a mod shuts it down or people get bored and move on to another thread, which will degenerate the same way.
I’ve been drawn into this too many times. I’ve enjoyed this site, and wasted a lot of time on this site, admittedly when I should be off to other things. I’ve contributed to CA Forums before, but now I have to wonder: was that money well spent? I’m basically paying for my own enjoyment with discussing issues and getting bashed in the head by (primarily) other Catholics, and bashing other Catholics in the head. Should I really be so eager for this? Just a thought.

Well, enough already. I’m off to go do something else.

CC

PS – I’m waiting to see if this thread will degenerate in the same way; so maybe I’ll kick the habit for my non-lenten journey 😉
well if that is the way you feel good stay away we bullies don’t want nice people showing us how mean we are 😛
please don’t take this seriously just trying to show my humorous side.which is kinda sarcastic.
 
I was asking myself this exact same question.

I think I was actually a better person before I started posting here. It seems that most of the people who stick around are getting more entrenched in their opinions and less charitable to those that disagree with them (myself included).

I used to be open-minded, but now I find myself getting hostile the moment any mentions religion. Not just on this board, but socializing and even at work. Which is a serious problem.

It’s funny, because I’m getting more intollerant of people no matter what their religious beliefs are. I dislike the ignorant and ill-tempered atheists every bit as much as the ignorant and ill-tempered believers.

I’ve even found myself in bitter fights with the people on the board I find the most reasonable.

I’m starting to wonder if I should post here at all.
 
As I catch up on a few of the debate threads I missed during Lent, I simply have to wonder, is posting to this site such a good habit? Look at the debate threads! …
PS – I’m waiting to see if this thread will degenerate in the same way; so maybe I’ll kick the habit for my non-lenten journey 😉
I gave CAF up for Lent too and ask myself the same question for different reasons.

There are areas of this site that I rarely visit. I mostly just check family life, parenting and moral theology. Even if I am inclined to heated debates, (which I am not,) they take my time away from my family. Still, I come here in part because the heated debate without charity can turn people off to God and Catholicism as ALLFORHIM noted, and I like to believe my posts aren’t that way. (BTW, good to see you back ALLFORHIM. 👋 )

So…I cut CAF out completely for Lent as I have done in the past as well. This was a nice Lent. While I missed this place and my “virtual friends”, I prayed more, read more books, and got a lot more done around my house. But I also spent more money by internet shopping :o . I ask myself the same question often, but I still don’t know the answer.
 
Here’s a better way to spend your time. audiosancto.org.

Jesus says it’s better to be hot or cold than to be lukewarm, but it doesn’t mean being hot or cold in any way is ok. I think we get i here to learn, then we get passionate and probably spend less time praying than writing here. Thus, I think we start working off our dim lights and not grace. I think we mean well, conservative or liberal (you can be a too sensitive member of the clothes police, “That jeans wearing impious jerk!”, or judgmentalism police, “I can’t believe that pharisee says wearing sleeveless blouses is wrong–what a soul-judger!”, without being heretical). The liberals laugh and judge us, sometimes rightfully when we misbehave here, and maybe not as lukewarmly as they imagine themselves (as they keep thinking the organized religious are the ones shoving beliefs down kids’ throats and getting huffy if a practicing Christian has a differing opinion–after all, why should the “open-minded” care if there is a differing opinion?) .

In fact, this is more a place for the common people than the big news machines and other places of liberal atheist (and practically atheistic, non-practicers) domination. The atheists shove their beliefs down our throats in polite society places while we have to shut-up and be “polite” by not expressing our views. They shove their beliefs down our kids’ throats in public schools, and all-too-often, even various Christian schools, and we have to accept because it’s separation of church (mostly intended for the Catholic Church, but including any meaningful practice of Christianity) and state (religion of modernism or even some earth-worship). Liberal Christians usually open the door for atheists, but I admit, conservative Christians’ overweight on faith over charity can aggravate the affliction of liberal Christians’ ignorance of faith’s part in informing charity and thus they pay prefer relaxing the standards which allow laxity into our families, schools and parishes/congregations. That creates a backlash where, ironically, the damages of liberalism invite fascism which, if not using traditional Christian values, continues the abuses of the previous liberal errors (see Weinmar Republic and its election of the leaders of and transformation into the Nazi regime).

People who care about what’s right make mistakes in their passion. I think it’s mostly they who get things heated up here. It’s fallen human nature. We need the Church to lead us.
Others who care are quiet and pray for us all, so I’m not saying those who don’t care don’t post on forums. Maybe the raving atheist or Protestant could become the next St. Paul. Due to caring about truth (though that idea could be tainted by ungodly desires), even if they believe the truth is that there is no objective truth, their “friends” who, for some reason, don’t have the grace or do not respond to the same grace, will probably abandon them and discredit them. I think those of us who are truly not being charitable (and ones spreading wrong teachings about the Church and/or the Bible, who know better or should know better) better get the graces by praying, which may bring the grace to pray for the grace of more charity, faith, etc., though as being hot or cold in caring about the truth does not excuse us from at least Purgatory.

If the leaders go screwy, we still have dogma in the various approved Catechisms and the Church Fathers and saints’ writings that were given the approved stamp as free of errors. Halleluiah! Halleluiah! Christ has risen and gave us the Roman Catholic Church (which includes the other obedient rites) as his infallible bride, his mother as our Queen and holy brothers and sisters–both to guide us in true Faith Hope and Charity n the true Church if we only pray for their assistance (well, the Church is always there) and use it (this pertains more to all 3 helps)!
 
One needs to put on the “armor of God” when reading or posting on this site. Some posts are truly inspired. But if it isn’t easy to see who or what is inspiring it, I suggest you take a break from this site and do whatever it is that you do to regain your sanctity and sanity. Inspiration comes from both the light and the dark side here. There are many who come here looking for the truth. Yet there are also many here who are SURE they have the truth and are unwilling and hardened to listen to anything but what they think they believe. Some come for help and prayer, some come to attack, and many arrive full of “righteous indignation”. Some come here to deceive and still others lurk and take mental notes. Some posters are so sure that everything they think they know is infallible and they look for an ax to drive home their point. Yes, this is a cross-section of humanity in the 00’s. Yet one can still learn and become enlightened, one can still see goodness and purpose in this site, and one can see signs of spiritual fruit also. So if it feeds your hungry spirit, keep on visiting. If it robs you of your serenity go and rebuild your faith and then put on the “armor of God”, and come back to be the peacemaker in your thoughts, in your speech, and in your heart.
 
I’ve even found myself in bitter fights with the people on the board I find the most reasonable.

I’m starting to wonder if I should post here at all.
I have found that when I start getting cranky and feel a hostility towards a given member, that is wise for me to take a break from CAF.

I pray to become more understanding and less judgmental, spend my hours on other interests… then return when I feel refreshed.

Doing this has actually made me more mellow than I used to be. CAF has not only taught me things (and continues to do this), but it has also made me a bit less obnoxious and overbearing than what I might have otherwise been.

At least I think so - folks may disagree about my personality getting better. :o
 
One needs to put on the “armor of God” when reading or posting on this site. …There are many who come here looking for the truth. Yet there are also many here who are SURE they have the truth and are unwilling and hardened to listen to anything but what they think they believe. …
Good points about putting on the armor of God. Ephesians 6 mentions** truth **first when descibing the proper armor. The problem isn’t those who are sure they have the truth if they really have it, (who wants luke-warm, wishy-washy witnesses who don’t really believe what they say they believe?) Knowing the truth isn’t the problem; but we must speak the truth in love.

The problem is usually not lack of truth on one side of the debate, but lack of the proper footwear–the gospel of peace. (I’m a mom-and I constantly have to remind my children about wearing proper shoes.:)) These debates shouldn’t turn into arguments. Ephesians also tells us we need the breastplate of righteous, not self-righteousness. Those wearing the wrong breastplate of *self-*righteousness are not properly dressed for spiritual battle as righteousness should come from God, not self.

The spiritual battle is not a fight with each other; it is a spiritual fight that often one must engage first and foremost with self. We each have our own personal sins to battle with ourselves. Posting on Catholic Answers may witness our sins to the rest of the world if we haven’t conquored them (or edited) before we post.
 
As I catch up on a few of the debate threads I missed during Lent, I simply have to wonder, is posting to this site such a good habit? Look at the debate threads! Unless you start a post about beer or something, someone somewhere will say something very edgy and unChristian, or at least state their opinion with a very unChristian tone.

The usual pattern is:
  1. OP posts.
  2. Three or four thoughtful responses.
  3. Someone gets sardonic.
  4. Those involved in #2 respond sarcastically.
  5. The sardonic poster attacks those involved in #2 and ridicules OP.
  6. OP responds sarcastically.
  7. The thread goes on angrily for twenty or so pages, degenerated into attacks, counterattacks, baiting, backbiting, and complaints about attacks (which become “YOU are attacking people!” “No you idiot, YOU are attacking people!” etc.) until a mod shuts it down or people get bored and move on to another thread, which will degenerate the same way.
Why would you make such a generalization?
 
I’m fairly new to CAF and I’ve been extremely surprised at all the misinformation that’s being put forth as truth. I’m not talking religion - that part that folks here seem to have down pat. It’s every other thread, from abortion, to homosexuality, to whatever - people are so happy to spout out a lot of very biased, very incendiary statements that have absolutely no basis in fact. I have said this a lot the past few days, it does no one good if we can’t stick to facts on these matters. I thought that in the apologetics forum I’d find people who were interested in the truth. But I’m finding that the people who know the truth are more often shut down rather quickly by people who simply want to continue in their ignorance.
 
I gave CAF up for Lent too and ask myself the same question for different reasons.

There are areas of this site that I rarely visit. I mostly just check family life, parenting and moral theology. Even if I am inclined to heated debates, (which I am not,) they take my time away from my family. Still, I come here in part because the heated debate without charity can turn people off to God and Catholicism as ALLFORHIM noted, and I like to believe my posts aren’t that way. (BTW, good to see you back ALLFORHIM. 👋 )

So…I cut CAF out completely for Lent as I have done in the past as well. This was a nice Lent. While I missed this place and my “virtual friends”, I prayed more, read more books, and got a lot more done around my house. But I also spent more money by internet shopping :o . I ask myself the same question often, but I still don’t know the answer.
Hello,
Im glad to see you had a refreshing time away:thumbsup:
I should add that I have also learned to be more patient and understanding of how individual people believe. While I may disagree with their theology from time to time, I do believe that most on here truly love the Lord and are honestly trying their best to walk in the Spirit and become more Christ-like.👍 😃
 
In response to the OP, that’s a very good question. As long as you keep things in perspective, I suppose it can be helpful. There’s quite a range of folks on the forum, as there are are “types” of Catholics, and it can be interesting to grow through discussion and through the experiences of others.

Perhaps the two groups of forumites that have caused me the most reason for pause are the “Pharisees” and the “Trolls”, the Pharisees being…well…holier than thou and the heck with you if you don’t believe as they and the trolls who just post to cause havoc.

On the other hand, I do find that many “non-troll” protestant posters 🙂 provide a good opportunity to sharpen my apologetic skills. 🤷

Perhaps if the moderators would shut down uncharitable posts earlier, things might be a wee bit better, but in their defense, it’s difficult to sort out passionate responses that may not be well worded from those who are generally just being contrary.

All in all, it’s much more civil around here than a lot of other forums. 👍
 
Status
Not open for further replies.
Back
Top