is premarital sex bad? why?

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This exactly! I can’t sit here and speak for all atheists any more than I look to you to speak for all Christians. Like the earlier example of Singer and Rand, who would both claim a moral system based on objective truth and like believers of every stripe also claim objective moral truth. But obviously, they can’t all have it. I get drawing a line between those who share your beliefs and those who don’t. But a line between people who believe in something (anything) and those who don’t seems much more arbitrary since there isn’t a moral foundation, source, or ideology common to believers that non believers lack.

Statements that lump the moral reasoning of millions of people into the same offensive, small-minded bin is to deny the critical thinking skills of anyone who disagrees with you and shut down any positive conversation on our common humanity.

Rather than “atheists can’t point to any moral obligations”, it seems to me that it would be more effective and charitable to say “Would a nonbeliever point to moral absolutes? If so, on what grounds?”. It’s fine to question and dig deeper. But telling someone that it’s impossible for them to have the beliefs or views they do is presumptuous, arrogant, and uncharitable.

I’m sure it’s frustrating to be told over and over that Catholics have animosity towards women and gays because if some of the church’s teachings. A lot of people, myself included, struggle to understand how the church’s view of women and gays is anything but hateful. But I really try to give the benefit of the doubt to Christians who are tired of being called bigots. Because it’s a worldview that’s really very foreign to me, but I trust they know better than I do what’s in their hearts. You should try to extend the same benefit of the doubt when someone else explains their spiritual or moral positions to you, even if you have a hard time understanding exactly how that mindset can be had.
Let me just be plain here. I’m not deriding you for being an atheist. Believe what your conscience steers you towards.

I’m encouraging you to take a stand and speak up for any specific moral system with some, any, objective reference point. Help us out.
We hear that Atheism is about what is not-god. Ok fine. Atheism is about no-god. But what is it for.
And if you’re going to say that you are not part of a system called atheism, then please tell us who you are and what it is you stand for. It’s only fair.
What is the good that your morality revolves around?

The whole point of Christian morality is that it does not lump the moral standards of people into lumps, but that it points to something precisely outside those lumps, as you call them. Because it’s outside those lumps and independent of them, it’s not subject to the insanity of popular whim and opinion.
 
Excepting the case where the biological parents are not known, aid to children is based on their parents’ ability to support the child, not the marital status of the parents.
Your legal point is of little consequence. Given the statistics for single mother families making claims on the community for child support, the marital status makes quite a bit of difference. The percentage of families that lack self sufficiency in single parent female headed families is over 37% compared to married-parents families at less than 7%. In fact, a good case has been made (Daniel Patrick Moynihan) that our welfare system causes fornicators to remain unmarried and fathers unidentified.
Once paternity is established, your legal responsibility to support your child is the same, whether you are married or not. If you father a child and the child’s mother cannot support the child, be very sure that the state won’t let your decision not to marry her get in the way of coming after you for child support.
Again, a mute point. Daddy’s identity is more likely than not shielded by mommy to increase her subsidy.
So no, I don’t support your premise. It is not the way the world currently works, because too many people tried to use avoidance of marriage as a way to avoid their parental responsibilities. That loophole does not cut it any more.
Well, it’s not a premise, it’s a point. And I get it that you don’t agree but that doesn’t make you right. I think your comment above is a bit naive. People continue to increasingly game the system. “In 1969, the average participation in the SNAP program stood at 2,878,000. In 2014, average participation grew to 46,536,000 showing an increase of 1516.96 percent.” cnsnews.com/news/article/ali-meyer/food-stamp-beneficiaries-exceed-46000000-38-straight-months
 
What measuring stick do you use to decide that one rule is better than the other one? But that is not the point. The ever-recurring assertion on the board is that there is no rational reason for an atheist to conduct a kind and helpful life. After all if one does not believe in God, there is no reason to be altruistic, kind, loving, helpful. 😉 One can be selfish, mean, unhelpful… whatever. (As if there would be no believers like that. )

Your error is that you discount the effect of behavior in a society. One does not need to “fear God” to cultivate a good, mutually beneficial environment. It is obvious to reasonable people. There are others, psychopaths, sociopaths, greedy and antisocial people. They can be ostracized, or even put in jail if necessary.
No, not my thinking at all. Atheist reasoning, such as consequentialism, is quite rational given its premises. I’ve not condemned your thinking, just identified how and why it differs from Catholic moral theology. You find the latter irrational due to not accepting that God revealed a law.

It is rational to note that keeping the money, in the mind of a greedy person, does not threaten society. “Whatever goes around comes around” is prone to being discarded, quote rationally, when it suits.
 
…People are people. If they’re good and religious, they’ll be good. If they’re good and not religious, they’ll be good.
What is good? How is a person (really, their acts) to be assessed such that they can be found “good” or “not good”?

An objective standard is required.

Atheists by definition reject a divine law, so often it’s tenets (particularly its negative precepts) don’t feature in their moral system. That opens an array of acts as “ok” for them…subject to some other test, typically a weighing of foreseeable consequences.

A reference point or standard is required if one is going to talk about what is moral and good. Atheists can have one - but what is good by their standard my be evil by a Catholic standard. And vice versa.
 
In any case, being obliged to do something doesn’t mean that you have to comply.
This is correct.

Of course, this is correct only if you believe in free will, which, IIRC, you seem to toss around the idea that there is no such thing as free will.

So, if you do decide to endorse the idea that there’s no such thing as free will, then the above statement you made is inutile.

And it puts you in a very awkward position. You have endorsed the idea that human beings are simply following a moral algorithm, like a computer.

And, like computers, you can’t talk about human beings having moral obligations.

So, just to be clear: you sound like right now you’re espousing the idea that we are NOT merely human computers and that we do indeed have moral obligations?
 
…People continue to increasingly game the system. “In 1969, the average participation in the SNAP program stood at 2,878,000. In 2014, average participation grew to 46,536,000 showing an increase of 1516.96 percent.” cnsnews.com/news/article/ali-meyer/food-stamp-beneficiaries-exceed-46000000-38-straight-months
How did you determine that this increase reflects mostly a gaming of the system, *moreso *than a continuation of the growth in the poor and working poor in the USA?
 
No, not my thinking at all.
Nor mine.

Atheists can be quite moral. More moral than some Believers, sadly enough.

And, as I’ve stated oft and ad nauseum, there are some atheists that I’d rather have my back than some Christians.

However, the question is NOT WHETHER SOME ATHEISTS CAN DISCERN WHAT’S RIGHT AND WRONG…

the question is: how does an atheist talk about moral obligation without a belief in a Moral Lawgiver?

The position that an atheist espouses, which states, “It is a person’s moral obligation to do A, B and C and to not do C, D and E” is incoherent with an atheistic worldview.

I do wish Vera et al would try to address the correct proposition.
 
For what it’s worth, the disagreements on real world moral issues (where theory plays out) like abortion, sex, animal welfare, aid to the developing world, end of life care, war, crime and punishment, etc not only between believers and nonbelievers but within each group proves a lot more nuance on both “sides” than you realize. Even people who believe deeply in the same theology can have very different beliefs on these things, and that’s to say nothing of two people of very different faiths.
Tu Quoque fails here, BEL.

No one denies that Believers disagree on moral issues.

The point that is being professed, ad nauseum, is that there is no coherent reason for an atheist to assert that a particular behavior is morally obligatory.
 
Rather than “atheists can’t point to any moral obligations”,
Oh, atheists do point to moral obligations.

Bradski just did just a few pages ago.

But it’s an incoherent worldview.

Kind of like a person who is an English Only advocate saying, “But we should also have signs up like these in our restaurants to help Spanish speaking folks!”

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#incoherent
 
…the question is: how does an atheist talk about moral obligation without a belief in a Moral Lawgiver?
Presumably atheists can themselves define some principles, and by accepting those, create “obligations”?

Though, the obligations ALL seem a bit woolly. For example, with “the return of lost money” example given, the “obligation” to return the money didn’t really rise to the level of an *obligation *- rather returning it was judged (by some at least) to contribute to a broad good - relying on the “what comes around goes around” principle. But as I pointed out, any individual can readily, and very rationally, determine that he can quietly act contrary to this principle, with no harm to the common good and with personal benefit. Presumably one could even make an argument that it is “good” to keep the money if you can do more “good” with it than its owner intends :eek:
 
Presumably atheists can themselves define some principles, and by accepting those, create “obligations”?

Though, the obligations ALL seem a bit woolly.
Oh yeah.
For example, with “the return of lost money” example given, the “obligation” to return the money didn’t really rise to the level of an *obligation *- rather returning it was judged (by some at least) to contribute to a broad good - relying on the “what comes around goes around” principle. But as I pointed out, any individual can readily, and very rationally, determine that he can quietly act contrary to this principle, with no harm to the common good and with personal benefit. Presumably one could even make an argument that it is “good” to keep the money if you can do more “good” with it than its owner intends :eek:
Indeed. Indeed.
 
“But Jeez Brad, keep it, it’s a $grand!” We see this thinking all the time…

A rule that says theft is contrary to love of God and love of neighbour (i.e. morally wrong) seems somehow more altruistic than one that says “whatever comes around goes around”. 😉
It does indeed seem more altruistic. That’s why people cling so much to the illusion that moral laws dictate our actions when it is our actions that have determined moral laws.
The rational reason for an atheist to conduct a moral life is that a moral life “works”. It’s effective.
Isn’t that the best possible reason?
Morality is designed to enable people to make good decisions. The problem with just following the crowd in altruism is that a poorly formed morality does not always stand up against tests.
Morality isn’t designed. No-one sat down and devised a system of morality that would cover all problems from first principles. Morality is a reflection of how we react to problems. And how we react is generally in built. Hard wired. As I said, it’s a requirement for civilisation. And altruism isn’t learnt. It’s innate. It doesn’t emerge as a consequence of ‘following the crowd’. Even young children exhibit it before they reach an age where it could be the result of rational decision making.
If you like, you can maintain that it’s God given so you can claim it as being Christian and wax lyrical about Morality and a Moral Law Giver (all in upper case of course).
And so it came to pass:
Fortunately, most atheists borrow, without acknowledging, from the Believer’s Model.
To take this back to the OP - whether or not one is a believer, there are surely numerous sensible practical and societal reasons why sex before marriage is bad. Then for us that word bad becomes sin.
You are quite right. There are reasons why extra marital sex could be bad. But to say that the reasons are applicable in all cases and at all times is absurd.
What we have is a claim to morality on the part of atheists without:
  1. knowing what morality is
  2. having any reference point whatsoever as a basis for moral evaluations, other than vague appeals to popular opinion and orientations, which in the end are proven to be quicksand.
There appears to be some mysterious access Christians have to answers to moral problems that atheists do not have. They believe in a Moral Law (mustn’t forget the upper case!) and therefore there must be a Moral Lawgiver and therefore…well, therefore what? It seems to be suggested that Christians then have access to what ought to be done as opposed to just, well I don’t know, expressing a personal opinion.

So sex outside marriage is wrong. Look, it says here and here and it taught there and Jesus said it (or more accurately was reported to have said it) and so it must be right. As opposed to the atheists who have to work these things out themselves. You know, give concrete, real life, relevant reasons for something being right or wrong. To look for actual consequences of a given act. Which, wouldn’t you know, Catholics seem to do as well and there have been numerous examples in this thread. So what’s the difference in how we approach problems?

It turns out that there is none. Except for the fact that Catholics have a limited set of specific moral rules that they are meant to follow and which they can declare to be inherently correct, such as extra marital sex. But even in a case such as that, Catholics are required to give concrete, real life, relevant reasons for it being wrong. Otherwise anyone who simply makes an appeal to authority is simply going to be ignored. Hence the concrete, real life reasons given for not indulging in premarital sex and for disallowing SSM and for not playing with your own genitalia.

As Blue Eyed Lady mentioned, Sam Harris is of the belief that we can determine what is right or wrong by straightforward reasonable arguments. Should we use drones? Is factory farming acceptable? Should medical marijuana be available? I can’t recall seeing any of these problems being addressed in the bible. I can’t recall Jesus talking about the acceptable number of chickens per square metre. So how do Catholics differ to atheists in their approach to these problems? The simple answer is: They don’t. A Catholic is fully justified in saying that we ought not to direct an air strike at a hospital or we ought not to pack a hundred chooks into a one metre square pen. As is an atheist. But for a Catholic to baldly state that his ‘ought’ carries more weight than an atheist ‘ought’ simply because he believes in a Moral Lawgiver is frankly absurd.
At the very least, religious practice seems to point one to an objcective standard of reference for the good, as opposed to the atheist insistence that no such objective standards are available.
So please point me to the standard of reference for determining the morality of factory farming.
Where are the standards? You can ask me a number of moral questions to which I will provide specific moral evaluations.
You have one. How do you determine what we ‘ought’ to do and how will it differ from how I approach the same problem?
 
There appears to be some mysterious access Christians have to answers to moral problems that atheists do not have.
No one has been saying that atheists don’t have access to this.

Atheists can discern quite well what’s right and wrong.

In fact, there are quite a few atheists that I would rather have my back than Christians.

(I will continue to repeat this, ad nauseum, until my fingers are bloody, if necessary. And it appears, sadly, that it’s necessary. Still. No matter how many times it’s already been said. But whatevs. I can continue to type it and type it and type it. No sweat. Right now).
They believe in a Moral Law (mustn’t forget the upper case!) and therefore there must be a Moral Lawgiver
Well, yeah.

That seems kind of…logical, yeah?
and therefore…well, therefore what?
And therefore…God.

And you seem to realize this as well.

Which is why it’s been so difficult to get you, even now, to admit that you believe in the Moral Law.
 
Moral obligation simply cannot be prescinded from a belief in a Moral Lawgiver. If one believes in the former, it presupposes that you believe in the latter.
So Zac and Julie live next to each other. There are no supermarkets around so they need to go out and find food. When Zac gets back, he can see Julie has had no luck. She is obviously hungry. So what does Zac do? Well, he gives Julie some of his food. He felt obliged to do it. It seemed like the right thing to do.

So does Zac believe in a Moral Lawgiver? He felt obliged to share his food. It was, for him, obligatory. So does this seemingly moral act presuppose a belief in a Moral Lawgiver?
Presumably atheists can themselves define some principles, and by accepting those, create “obligations”?

Though, the obligations ALL seem a bit woolly. For example, with “the return of lost money” example given, the “obligation” to return the money didn’t really rise to the level of an *obligation *- rather returning it was judged (by some at least) to contribute to a broad good - relying on the “what comes around goes around” principle. But as I pointed out, any individual can readily, and very rationally, determine that he can quietly act contrary to this principle, with no harm to the common good and with personal benefit. Presumably one could even make an argument that it is “good” to keep the money if you can do more “good” with it than its owner intends :eek:
All agreed. But there seems to be some confusion over the term ‘obligation’. In this context is doesn’t imply compulsion. It doesn’t mean that you have to return the money. The obligation is a sense that you should return the money not that you must. Generally, people will do what they feel is the right thing to do. Quite often, the ‘obligation’ is then passed on so that the person getting the money back will feel an obligation to do the same thing if he finds some money. And then we call these acts moral.
 
So Zac and Julie live next to each other. There are no supermarkets around so they need to go out and find food. When Zac gets back, he can see Julie has had no luck. She is obviously hungry. So what does Zac do? Well, he gives Julie some of his food. He felt obliged to do it. It seemed like the right thing to do.

So does Zac believe in a Moral Lawgiver? He felt obliged to share his food. It was, for him, obligatory. So does this seemingly moral act presuppose a belief in a Moral Lawgiver?
I don’t know if he does or not, luv.

But when Naya comes, has food for 10, and says to Zac, “I don’t believe that I have to give my food to anyone who is starving. It’s not part of my ethos. I feel no obligation, whatsoever to feed anyone.”

Zac says what to her?
 
I’m really trying to understand this POV, to try to make it coherent.

And the best I can do is that you seem to be saying that a *concept *can be harmed?

Is that right?

The concept of a loving marriage/promise/covenant is harmed when someone cheats?

Is that what you’re professing?
Also, would you mind addressing the above question, too, Bradski?

Are you saying that a concept can be harmed vis a vis this scenario in which adultery occurred but the cuckolded spouse did not ever know any harm from this?
 
But when Naya comes, has food for 10, and says to Zac, “I don’t believe that I have to give my food to anyone who is starving. It’s not part of my ethos. I feel no obligation, whatsoever to feed anyone.”

Zac says what to her?
Naya is ostracized. If she is hungry at some point and others have food, they don’t share it with her. She either has to manage on her own or she dies. The chances are that she gets a Darwin Award and her selfish genes are removed from the pool.

Those who have a tendency to share their food get to pass on their genes. And reciprocal altruism continues. No givers of law required in this scenario.
 
It does indeed seem more altruistic. That’s why people cling so much to the illusion that moral laws dictate our actions when it is our actions that have determined moral laws.
Really? Morality is as we do? Morality is what the majority are OK with at the time? Or what each of us is individually OK with?
 
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