Is running away a sign that you are called?

[JollyGal88]

I was just wondering, a while back I got scared of marriage, and ran away from it. And thought of myself as being a nun, but now I feel called towards marriage, could it be that I am truly called to marriage if I ran away from it in the first place?

 

[Drilling4Truth]

Not necessarily. Perhaps running away was a sign that you were scared. Marriage is a drastic change in one’s life. Granted, it’s seen as more “normal” than becoming a religious. But, it is very much a turning point in any person’s way of living.

Believe me, you’re not the first person to become afraid when marriage comes up. But, it might be a good idea to explore why exactly you ran away the first time.

 

[Janechantal53]

I think that being called comes with a yearning, something that just won’t let you alone. There are numerous reasons to run away from marriage, ie., witnessing other’s bad examples of marriage, or the person just wasn’t right for you. One runs to religious life to be with God, not to get away from something else…

Janechantal53

 

[JollyGal88]

Thank you Janechantal. I ran away because of my parent’s separation, but I can tell you know 100% that I yearn for marriage, and that I am no longer afraid of what happened in the past. I have been healed by God.

 

[withwind]

Thank you Janechantal. I ran away because of my parent’s separation, but I can tell you know 100% that I yearn for marriage, and that I am no longer afraid of what happened in the past. I have been healed by God.

If you are around the age of 20 (I guessed based on your username), then give yourself time and pray about it - even if you have a small thought of “being a nun”, you should keep praying about it. The best thing is to get a spritiual director and guide you along.

 

[George14]

Running, being scared of “commitment” means to me that the person from whom you are running is simply not the right person for you, and your subconscious knows it!

When they say a man isn’t ready to commit and cast that pejorative on “men,” I just about KNOW that it is not about “willingness to commit” at all. It IS because the person does not compel the commitment.

I have had two experiences in my life where I “could not commit fast enough” because of the attraction, the depth of the love, the purity, the strength and beauty of the soul [as I saw it at the time] of the potential partner. It isn’t about willingness TO commit at all: it is about not being able to help yourself when you DO fall in love. It is then that the opposite disposition needs to be considered, i.e., is my “infatuation” really based on shallow values, or is it grounded and do I know enough about me and the partner that my emotions aren’t going to cause me to act rashly.

If someone runs, or “can’t commit,” THANK GOD for the impulse TO run or not to make what could turn out to be a disastrous step. When it’s the real deal, it’s “unstoppable.” And that’s a “no-brainer.” When in doubt, opt out.

 

[Janechantal53]

JollyGal88, I am glad that you feel you have the answer so quickly. If I were you I would “Pray and wait,” for what the Lord is saying to you. It sounds as if you need some healing. Spiritual direction and therapy are two good places to begin. God bless you.

 

[JollyGal88]

George14, I am sorry, but I think you misunderstand. I did not run away from marriage because there was someone… I was only 17, and I had witnessed a terrible divorce from my parents. There was no other man. I have a man in my life now, and I am not in doubt. And I do not feel as if I should run. God healed my heart, as I said above, I am no longer afraid. But I do appreciate what you said. Very deep.

 

[JollyGal88]

JollyGal88, I am glad that you feel you have the answer so quickly. If I were you I would “Pray and wait,” for what the Lord is saying to you. It sounds as if you need some healing. Spiritual direction and therapy are two good places to begin. God bless you.

I have been healed mostly But a spiritual director wouldn’t be bad. God Bless you Too.