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Partinobodycula
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SimmieKay, no, I don’t have a wife or children. I’ve never really felt a need for such intimate personal relationships. I don’t know why. Indeed there are a great many things about the behavior of others that I’ve always found quite puzzling. Why do people do the things that they do? That question fascinates me. But I assume that everyone asks that question about the behavior of others from time to time. I’m quite certain that it’s this inability to associate with the behavior of others that allows me to accept solipsism where others find it abhorrent. But it wasn’t solipsism that caused me to be as I am, it’s the way I am that allowed me to be a solipsist.Partinobodycula, dare I ask you a personal question? Do you have a spouse or partner, do you have any children? For me, I cannot look my son in the eyes and deny that he exists and is a different person from me. If my son is just a figment of my imagination, then my life is a meaningless nightmare. If I told my wife that I was a solipsist, she’d first ask me what that meant - once I’d explained it to her, she’d call a psychiatrist (or else a divorce lawyer).
As for your wife and children, I find your reaction to the notion of solipsism to be quite understandable given your perspective. It’s just that you and I have a different understanding of what the term “real” means in this context. To me people are still real. To me people are an expression of myself. So if you love your wife and children, that emotion is real. It comes from within you and is embodied in them. They’re no less real than the emotion is, than the need for them is, than the love for them is. So it’s not that I believe that people aren’t real. It’s that I believe that they’re an expression of myself. Your wife and children may not simply be a part of you, they may be the most precious part of you. Everyone, everywhere is the embodiment of that which exists in me. They’re no less real than I am, for they’re not simply created by me, they are me. Which is why I believe that in order to change the world, one must change themselves. And in order to change themselves one must attempt to change the world. And that’s why I’m here.
Now when I say such things I have a fear that it makes me sound like God, but I’m not God. My consciousness is an emergent phenomenon. It’s born of something else. I don’t know what that thing is, but I know that it isn’t me. Although it may in a sense, be a part of me.
I think that if you could understand that the world, with all of it’s hate, indifference, and suffering isn’t an expression of God, it’s an expression of you, then you would be more inclined to try and change you. You’d be more inclined to be merciful, compassionate, and forgiving, for as these things abide in you, they abide in the world.If I actually started believing in solipsism, I have no doubt that I would go so mad that I’d soon end up in a psychiatric institution as result.
As I say, my journey to solipsism is in many ways unique to me. It may not be possible for anyone else to get there. But I believe that if I could instill within others the idea that in order to change the world they must change themselves, then indeed perhaps I could change the world. But some might question that if solipsism is true then why do I need to change others, won’t it suffice to simply change myself? I would answer that the effort to change others IS an effort to change myself. For if others truly are an expression of one’s self, then the mission to change one’s self is by its very nature an apostolic one.Quite apart from the theoretical reasons to accept or reject a belief, there are practical concerns. Some beliefs are simply psychologically impossible for most people to hold (you may be a rare exception to that general rule.) If a belief is psychologically impossible, inevitably one will reject it - most people won’t even go looking for a reason to justify their rejection - but a minority of the more philosophically inclined, will search for justifications. But we have to remember, that the rejection comes first, the search for rational justification is an (optional) afterthought.
We are human beings, after all, human beings with lives and with loves, not abstract perfectly rational thinking machines.
I worry however, that I may not be up to the task.