Very interesting.
I am aware that not attending mass for frivolous reasons is a mortal sin, but only
for Catholics. It is not problematic for non-Catholics. Now is this
get-out-of-jail-free card pertain to other actions, too? Are we non-Catholics free to commit all sorts of actions which we do NOT consider “sinful”?
As a non-believer I do not even accept the concept of “sin”. As such I do not accept that acts separate me from God. (Unfortunately God plays hard-to-get, even when one asks him to show up.) Therefore engaging in non-procreational sex is perfectly fine by me. But what does the church say about it?
Is there some official writ, which would say: “artificial birth control is forbidden for Catholics, but it is perfectly fine for non-Catholics”? That would be a strong endorsement for what you said. But I rather doubt the existence of such document.
Reading about something and accepting that “something” are two, very different things. I am aware of what the church asserts, but I reject it. We, with my partner do not consider the other one as “sex” objects, even when we play all sorts of games.
So, where does it leave me in the opinion of the church? Do I commit mortal sin, or don’t I? I am aware of the three “prongs” that define a mortal sin:
- It must be a grave act.
- One must be aware that it is a grave act.
- But one performs the act with full volition.
I deny that ABC is a grave act. So, what now?
Most people have no objection to doing “things” which others consider “hurtful” or “evil” (Performing acts of love to be declared “evil” - amazing). They are willing and happy participants in all sorts of games. Instead of hurting the relationship, it actually strengthens it. It makes the bonding even stronger.