Is the marital act sacrificial?

[DaShadow577]

Is it sacrificial, i mean ik the husband give themselves to one another, but i dont understand how its sacrificial…ik husbands and wives are supposed to make sacrifices for eachother,
but how do they sacrifice themselves in sex?

 

[BlueEyedLady]

It can be. It’s like making dinner. I love to cook, so most days, I really enjoy throwing together a meal and getting to be creative. Other nights, I’m tired and cranky, so spending another hour on my feet making a home cooked meal for my husband instead of ordering Chinese food is a sacrifice.

Most nights, my husband and I both love having sex. But there are occasional nights where I’m tired or moody, but he really wants it. So I make the sacrifice of putting my issues aside and doing my best to get into it. There are some nights where he has to do the same for me because he’s the one that’s tired.

The sacrifice comes in committing to marriage. Part of marriage is doing your best to fulfill your spouse’s sexual needs, and in getting married you are agreeing to do so. Just making that lifelong commitment is a sacrifice. But when you’re talking about marriage or raising children, virtually everything involves self-sacrifice. That doesn’t make it a bad thing. Quite the contrary, it makes it meaningful and special.

 

[rcwitness]

Is it sacrificial, i mean ik the husband give themselves to one another, but i dont understand how its sacrificial…ik husbands and wives are supposed to make sacrifices for eachother,
but how do they sacrifice themselves in sex?

Interesting question!

I think in many profound ways, yes, especially in a valid marriage according to the Church and a that marriage being upheld even through one anothers sins.

Sex is an offering involving our trust in the Will of God, so long as we dont violate His commands given to us through the Church.

 

[underacloud]

It can be. It’s like making dinner. I love to cook, so most days, I really enjoy throwing together a meal and getting to be creative. Other nights, I’m tired and cranky, so spending another hour on my feet making a home cooked meal for my husband instead of ordering Chinese food is a sacrifice.

Well said.

And just to extend this analogy a bit further…

Some nights I feel like pizza and my wife feels like Chinese food. Other nights I feel like Chinese food and my wife feels like pizza. Some nights I sacrifice what I want, and other nights she sacrifices what she wants. Neither spouse always gets their way, but over time you try to even it out.

Sex can be the same. A husband and wife may enjoy different things (no need to go into details) and so make sacrifices to please the other.

 

[EasterJoy]

Even thoroughly secular folks understand very well that a good lover is not selfish or self-centered. Putting someone else’s needs and even their wants before your own desires is sacrificial. It is in the nature of love to want to make a sacrifice, too:

“…This is the monstruosity in love, lady, that the will is infinite and the execution confined, that the desire is boundless and the act a slave to limit.” Troilus, from Troilus and Cressida, Act III Scene 2

 

[JRKH]

It can be. It’s like making dinner. I love to cook, so most days, I really enjoy throwing together a meal and getting to be creative. Other nights, I’m tired and cranky, so spending another hour on my feet making a home cooked meal for my husband instead of ordering Chinese food is a sacrifice.

Most nights, my husband and I both love having sex. But there are occasional nights where I’m tired or moody, but he really wants it. So I make the sacrifice of putting my issues aside and doing my best to get into it. There are some nights where he has to do the same for me because he’s the one that’s tired.

The sacrifice comes in committing to marriage. Part of marriage is doing your best to fulfill your spouse’s sexual needs, and in getting married you are agreeing to do so. Just making that lifelong commitment is a sacrifice. But when you’re talking about marriage or raising children, virtually everything involves self-sacrifice. That doesn’t make it a bad thing. Quite the contrary, it makes it meaningful and special.

The flip can also be a sacrifice…If one forgoes the act because the other does not desire it.

Peace
James

 

[DaShadow577]

i think i understand now, thanks for explaining it