Is there any possibility of finding a soulmate if I have HPV?

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Hi there everyone,
Thank you for taking the time to read my post. I just wanted to start by saying that I’m a 22 year old single female who has remained abstinent for a little over a year and a half (I have made a promise to myself and to the Lord to remain chaste until marriage). I was raised Catholic and although I fell away from the Church for a period of time, I am devoted to our beautiful Faith once again 🙂
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I have however made some mistakes in my past. I was in a relationship with my boyfriend at the time and we had intercourse on several occasions. Although I was in a monogamous relationship/he was the only person I have ever been intimate with and we used the pill and condoms, I found out that I tested positive for a low risk strain of Human Papilloma Virus. (although my case is for the most part dormant, there is no cure)
Even though I have turned over a new leaf in my life and have confessed my sexual sins/the fact that I used contraception to a priest, I still feel guilty and “dirty”. I fully intend on telling my future husband about my sexual past and about having HPV, but I’m rather nervous about it. I fear that the fact that I’m not a virgin/that I am infected with HPV will send my spouse running for the hills. Am I over exaggerating or will this prove to be a difficult hurdle to overcome while trying to find a soul mate?

Thank you again for reading and sorry if my post is a tad bit long! God Bless!
 
Congratulations on your decision to live a chaste life! God has forgiven you your sins and it is the trap of the devil to make you still feel like you are “impure” or “ruined.”

I am reading the Center for Disease Control’s website and it says this, “HPV is so common that nearly all sexually active men and women get it at some point in their lives.” It also says 79 million Americans have some form of the virus or another. So, no, it is highly unlikely that this will ruin your chance for a soul mate.
 
Thank you so much for your encouraging response, I really appreciate it! 🙂
 
racheous792 said:
Hi there everyone,
Thank you for taking the time to read my post. I just wanted to start by saying that I’m a 22 year old single female who has remained abstinent for a little over a year and a half (I have made a promise to myself and to the Lord to remain chaste until marriage). I was raised Catholic and although I fell away from the Church for a period of time, I am devoted to our beautiful Faith once again 🙂
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I have however made some mistakes in my past. I was in a relationship with my boyfriend at the time and we had intercourse on several occasions. Although I was in a monogamous relationship/he was the only person I have ever been intimate with and we used the pill and condoms, I found out that I tested positive for a low risk strain of Human Papilloma Virus. (although my case is for the most part dormant, there is no cure)
Even though I have turned over a new leaf in my life and have confessed my sexual sins/the fact that I used contraception to a priest, I still feel guilty and “dirty”. I fully intend on telling my future husband about my sexual past and about having HPV, but I’m rather nervous about it. I fear that the fact that I’m not a virgin/that I am infected with HPV will send my spouse running for the hills. Am I over exaggerating or will this prove to be a difficult hurdle to overcome while trying to find a soul mate?

Thank you again for reading and sorry if my post is a tad bit long! God Bless!
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Honestly, it depends on the guy, as well as the potential risks involved (for you, him, and any possible children) with your particular strain of HPV.

More importantly though (and I completely understand that it can take quite awhile), you have to learn to accept your former relationship; especially that (through confession) you have been forgiven by God, who has already “forgotten” your past transgressions and “moved-on” Himself through your Confession.👍
 
Lamentation said:
Honestly, it depends on the guy, as well as the potential risks involved (for you, him, and any possible children) with your particular strain of HPV.

More importantly though (and I completely understand that it can take quite awhile), you have to learn to accept your former relationship; especially that (through confession) you have been forgiven by God, who has already “forgotten” your past transgressions and “moved-on” Himself through your Confession.👍
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Thank you very much for your (name removed by moderator)ut! 🙂
 
turtle18 said:
Congratulations on your decision to live a chaste life! God has forgiven you your sins and it is the trap of the devil to make you still feel like you are “impure” or “ruined.”

I am reading the Center for Disease Control’s website and it says this, “HPV is so common that nearly all sexually active men and women get it at some point in their lives.” It also says 79 million Americans have some form of the virus or another. So, no, it is highly unlikely that this will ruin your chance for a soul mate.
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Thank you so much for your encouraging response, I really appreciate it 🙂
 
From my understanding, most men don’t have any symptoms or health risks with most HPV strains. Maybe talk to your physician about this.

I have a sorority sister with HPV and she is happily married. 🙂
 
KendraDZ1902 said:
From my understanding, most men don’t have any symptoms or health risks with most HPV strains. Maybe talk to your physician about this.

I have a sorority sister with HPV and she is happily married. 🙂
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Thanks Kendra! I’ll definitely inquire about that with my doctor 🙂
 
I think if you tell your potential spouse about this, and he “runs for the hills” then he really wasn’t your soulmate after all!
 
A friend of mine contracted HPV when she as a teenager as well. I was so afraid to even let her spend the night because I was afraid I could “catch” it. Obviously, I couldn’t, but we were young and didn’t know any better back then. What is shocking to me is that everyone I have ever talked to about it since then says, “Oh! I have that too…” as if it is not big deal. 🤷 So, I doubt it will prevent you from getting married or finding your soul mate. Apparently, it is no big deal these days.

(I will note that she had a strain that can affect fertility, so it is important for you to disclose that to anyone you are dating if there is possibility of marriage.)
 
Abundant said:
A friend of mine contracted HPV when she as a teenager as well. I was so afraid to even let her spend the night because I was afraid I could “catch” it. Obviously, I couldn’t, but we were young and didn’t know any better back then. What is shocking to me is that everyone I have ever talked to about it since then says, “Oh! I have that too…” as if it is not big deal. 🤷 So, I doubt it will prevent you from getting married or finding your soul mate. Apparently, it is no big deal these days.

(I will note that she had a strain that can affect fertility, so it is important for you to disclose that to anyone you are dating if there is possibility of marriage.)
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Thanks for your response Abundant!
 
I was coming to echo what a few others have stated. HPV is very common, many strains have no symptoms and clear up with time. A very high percentage of sexually active people have it. As other have mentioned its important to mention to a fiancé/serious partner but if he bails because of it you have dodged a bullet. The important thing is that you work diligently on restoring your self esteem and self worth. You have done a good job of getting back on track spiritually (Congratulations).
 
Miss_Felicity said:
I was coming to echo what a few others have stated. HPV is very common, many strains have no symptoms and clear up with time. A very high percentage of sexually active people have it. As other have mentioned its important to mention to a fiancé/serious partner but if he bails because of it you have dodged a bullet. The important thing is that you work diligently on restoring your self esteem and self worth. You have done a good job of getting back on track spiritually (Congratulations).
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Thanks for the response Miss_Felicity! 🙂
 
Miss_Felicity said:
I was coming to echo what a few others have stated. HPV is very common, many strains have no symptoms and clear up with time. A very high percentage of sexually active people have it. As other have mentioned its important to mention to a fiancé/serious partner but if he bails because of it you have dodged a bullet. The important thing is that you work diligently on restoring your self esteem and self worth. You have done a good job of getting back on track spiritually (Congratulations).
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HPV usually clears up by itself. Almost everyone is exposed to it at some point.

It’s commendable that you intend to be honest about your previous life to your future husband, but I don’t know whether you need to tell him that you once tested positive for HPV. It might just confuse him or make him think it’s more important than it is. Especially if you think it’s more important than it is.

There’s such a thing as having too much information. Not long ago it wasn’t even possible to be tested for this virus so people weren’t upset by it. The most important thing is that it can cause cervical cancer, so women should have regular pap smears. Luckily you had a low risk type.
 
Boccherini said:
HPV usually clears up by itself. Almost everyone is exposed to it at some point.

It’s commendable that you intend to be honest about your previous life to your future husband, but I don’t know whether you need to tell him that you once tested positive for HPV. It might just confuse him or make him think it’s more important than it is. Especially if you think it’s more important than it is.

There’s such a thing as having too much information. Not long ago it wasn’t even possible to be tested for this virus so people weren’t upset by it. The most important thing is that it can cause cervical cancer, so women should have regular pap smears. Luckily you had a low risk type.
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Thank you very much for your (name removed by moderator)ut Boccherini! 🙂
 
You need to learn more about HPV and worry less about your prospects for marriage.

A) some ridiculously high percentage of women under the age of 65 have contracted HPV at some point in their lives. (80% seems to stick in my mind).

B) you can catch it whether or not you have sex.

C) it’s not a big deal because of the 20-some strains, only two or three MAY lead to cancer. In other words, your chances of getting seriously sick from it are very, very slim.

D) regular Pap tests will identify any pre-cancerous cells. Your doctor can remove them quite easily. It is the only cancer that is 100% curable provided it is caught in the early stages. Cervical cancer is very slow to develop (can take years) so it’s almost always caught in time.

E) HPV will have essentially no serious health consequences for your husband.

F) I know two women who have undergone the procedure to remove suspected pre-cancerous cells and have not had any subsequent problems in the past 20+ years.

G) God won’t punish you for having sinned and reconciled with him. HPV is not God’s revenge.
 
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