There is nothing wrong with you. If you are truly happy being single then there is no problem at all - I have always been single and I am certainly not depressed; likewise there are many Priests and Religious who are single and not depressed.
NO!
Many people are called to serve Christ as a single person. Some are called to religious life-- as a priest, brother, or sister. Others are called to lay ministry of some type, but as a single person.
Well, there are no perfect women, so I’m glad you’ve stopped looking for one. You don’t mention why? Because there is no desire for marriage in your heart? Because you’ve been hurt? Other?
Why would you think you are “supposed” to be depressed? I don’t understand where you would get that idea?
Well, if you can handle lifelong celibacy, why not look into the seminary?
There is nothing whatsoever the matter with being happy in your state in life. You are blessed. This is a gift from God. Don’t feel guilty about it, and don’t feel pressured to change.
PS: It reminds me of a joke: “Somewhere out there, there is a man who has no idea why he is so blissfully happy. The reason is, he didn’t marry my daughter.”
, because we will soon reach the point where we won’t be able to have a good party anymore!” We were really afraid that she will date and break up with yet another guy, and then she will be heart-broken again, and we won’t be able to have her and the other guy present at the same party, because of the hurt feelings… So we had to be proactive. Yeah being single isn’t a bed of roses but is you check out some of the other forums here being married isn’t either. Even family members who are happily married sometimes tell me to enjoy the single life while it lasts.
Being married, with all its joys, does not necessarily improve a woman’s financial status. Indeed, depending on the man, it can get worse - and when you are married, you have less control over your money. The “extra cash” that you bring to the household often gets spent on things you had no idea even existed, instead of put into savings or wisely invested.
Absolutely true. In my case, I am much better off financially as a single woman, and much happier. True, I had a lousy marriage, but actually I think I always was suited to the single life, it’s much freer, and you can make your own decisions about your life. The only good thing to come out of my marriage was a son, whom I love with all my heart and soul.Being married, with all its joys, does not necessarily improve a woman’s financial status. Indeed, depending on the man, it can get worse - and when you are married, you have less control over your money. The “extra cash” that you bring to the household often gets spent on things you had no idea even existed, instead of put into savings or wisely invested.
I sympathize with your struggles as a single woman - it’s difficult to get ahead because people are always expecting you to find a man, get married, and move on with your life. They don’t expect you to be making a career of whatever you’re doing now, so you aren’t seriously considered for promotions, etc. That’s a huge burden. It means you have to work three times as hard as everyone else to get the same recognition. But your instincts are absolutely on target, that marriage is not the “solution” to these difficulties.
I will certainly keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
What the?
I and** one** other person **asked the OP if **he had considered whethere he might have a vocation to the priesthood. There was no “should”. And I wouldn’t even have suggested that if he had not come to a Catholic forum saying that he felt that there was something not quite right with the way he was living his life.
Newsflash:We married people ALSO OFTEN work with lots of nice, helpful people of the opposite sex who might have a crush on us. We have to deal with it just like single people do. Without even the option of dating.
Not my experience of the Catholic Church at all. Whenever the topic of vocations is mentioned, it is always publlicly stressed that the single lay state is also a true and worthwhile viocation in itself.
You’re allowed to say “no”.
You’re allowed to watch TV by yourself. Or with relatives or people of the same sex. Or at someone else’s house so that he/she has to be the host/hostess.
beginning to think you protest too much. There is no loneliness like the loneliness of being married to someone you have a problem with but your spouse can’t or won’t talk about it or address it.