Not me, but once upon a time, I was standing in the line at the bank in a city about 400 miles away from where I lived, taking an icon workshop. It was a looooooong wait, because there was a lot of complicated paperwork stuff happening in the teller line, and we’re all standing around bored, not making eye contact.
The lady in front of me was a little old black grandma who had fun socks she was proud of, so she tried making a little conversation, and everyone was ignoring her. So I lifted my pants leg a little and showed her I was wearing fun socks as well. We chatted a little. Then she said, “You’re not doing what you’re supposed to be doing.”
And I’m thinking, “Well, yeah, I’m on vacation, so others are taking care of my responsibilities,” and I say something to that effect.
And she’s like, “No, you’re supposed to be teaching people about God, and you’re not.”
And I’m like, “Ah, thank you for telling me; I appreciate it.”
I had taught religious ed for several years, but had gotten frustrated and annoyed that my kids didn’t seem to be learning anything, because it wasn’t part of their home life. So they’re in junior high/high school, and they still don’t know what an Evangelist is, and they’re not solid on a Hail Mary or a Glory Be, or whatever. So I’d decided to step back and let someone else run religious ed, hoping that maybe they could get through to them, and give me a chance to step back and pay attention to my own kids, because religious ed was scheduled for when I usually put them down for bed. But I knew it was just an excuse in my head, and that few people in the parish had… fluency? …in the material that was being covered.
So, maybe she had a message from God. Or maybe she was just a random nut. Either way, she was a sweet little old lady with fun socks. It might have been easy for her to say that, or it might have been very, very embarrassing, but she said it anyways. I don’t know.
But I signed back up to teach religious ed the next time, and people were happy, because the people who had taken it over had just done games and snacks. And while games and snacks are good, and can be educational in their own way-- it had turned more into “youth group” than it had “religious ed.” So this time around, I made sure to try and change my approach by having snacks more consistently, and providing a fun game or a craft on top of the lesson, just for the change of pace, and we worked in evening Mass attendance to let them participate actively as readers and altar servers, and I think that improved things as well.
My high schoolers still can’t necessarily tell you what an Evangelist is, or name more than two Apostles, or name more than two Commandments, or say a Hail Mary without getting lost halfway through. But I’m doing my part, and I trust God to take care of the rest.