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jazzy0710
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Hi there,
This is more of a what do you do kind of thing. Before I get into this I just wanted to clarify 2 things. First, confronting this person and trying to talk to him is completely out of the question and second, going to management is out of the question as well. Why? I’m about to get into that, and I hope there’s enough space, if not, then just bare with me and I’ll make another post.
I work as a cleaner and event person in a family fitness facility, for almost 9 years. My Father is the head of my department, which means he is my boss. There’s good days and bad days.
There is a guy that works in the weight room. He’s in his mid 40’s. He’s worked there for like more than 15 years. I’ve known him since I was like 9 yrs old. We always had a very good friendship, or so I thought. We’ll call him “Frank”. Frank’s wife who we’ll call “Tina” frequents the gym a lot.
Frank hates my Dad. He has hated my Dad for years. He thinks my Dad is “racist”.
several years ago there was an incident in one of the classrooms where some glass was broken. Frank’s class was the last class in there, but nothing was mentioned to my Dad. My Dad mentioned to a female staff member “If he did it or one of the people in his class did it, why wouldn’t he just come tell me? Accidents happen, and it doesn’t look good when people don’t tell the truth”. I felt that he made a valid point. However this female went to “Frank” and told him that my Dad was accusing him of breaking the glass. Frank never went to my Dad. Instead he went to the security director and flipped out, banging on things saying that he was going to beat the living lights out of my Dad. My Dad made 1 attempt to talk to him to try and sort things out but Frank pretty much turned his nose up at him.
Almost 5 years ago, Frank and Tina got married. They decided to have their wedding reception in the building where we work. Tina had a lot of questions about sound equipment, etc. She called the buliding but the man she needed to talk to was on vacation so they fowarded her to my Dad instead. She was telling him of another conversation she had with the lady who did bookings but my Dad couldn’t clarify it because the lady that did the bookings had already left for the day, but he answered what questions he could about the sound equipment and if there wasn’t something he was unsure of he was honest with her and told her that he would get the guy to contact her about it when he came back from vacation. Then she had mentioned about a conversation that she had with her husband Frank. My Dad was honest with her and told her that he and Frank don’t talk very often, so he wouldn’t know. But I can’t honestly remember what the convo was that she was supposed to have had with Frank.
A couple of days later Frank went to the security director and did the exact same thing he did the last time. Then shortly after that my Dad was called my the general manager of the building into his office. Frank’s wife Tina had written a six page essay about how extremely ignorant, overbearing, cocky, and rude my Dad was to her over the phone. The general manager questioned my Dad because he thought it was some kind of joke because he knows that my Dad isn’t like that. There were also 2 other people in the office with my Dad when he took the call that can verify that he wasn’t like that but Frank’s wife and Frank still to this day claim that he was rude.
When Frank and I were still talking, he felt that my Dad had absolutely no business telling his wife that they don’t talk. That he didn’t need to broadcast that. Alright, maybe he shouldn’t have, however my Dad is a very honest person and I know that he was just trying to be honest with her.
I felt that this ongoing battle was ridiculous and some of the comments that she was making about my Dad hurt, but I let it go.
Frank would say really gross and inappropriate things to me at times, like for example his boss; he told me one night that if he could **** her he totally would.
There was a young girl who worked in another area of the buliding, she’s only like 21, he told her as well as me and others that if she would be with him and love him, and satisfy him that he would totally leave his wife. I thought this was absolutely discusting because he’s got a daughter the same age!
Frank is black. I don’t think I mentioned that. He had made a couple of comments about me not ever being able to be with a black man in the bedroom because I wouldn’t be able to handle his animalistic tendencies and that my Father would kill him.
There was a young girl that worked in my department a few years ago who’d be about 24 now and he still to this day makes comments about her bumb and tried to grab it one time but she didn’t do anything about it.
Now on to Frank’s wife Tina. She used to change in the locker room that I clean but doesn’t anymore because she told Frank along with customers and other staff that I apparently would stare at her private parts while she was changing. Then all of a sudden there was a rumor circulating like crazy, that I was a lesbian, which I am not nor have I ever looked at this woman!
Frank once told me before this that he liked me and considered me a good friend. I wondered if he did they why didn’t he defend me when his wife did this?
However as I said, I let all of this stuff go.
This is more of a what do you do kind of thing. Before I get into this I just wanted to clarify 2 things. First, confronting this person and trying to talk to him is completely out of the question and second, going to management is out of the question as well. Why? I’m about to get into that, and I hope there’s enough space, if not, then just bare with me and I’ll make another post.
I work as a cleaner and event person in a family fitness facility, for almost 9 years. My Father is the head of my department, which means he is my boss. There’s good days and bad days.
There is a guy that works in the weight room. He’s in his mid 40’s. He’s worked there for like more than 15 years. I’ve known him since I was like 9 yrs old. We always had a very good friendship, or so I thought. We’ll call him “Frank”. Frank’s wife who we’ll call “Tina” frequents the gym a lot.
Frank hates my Dad. He has hated my Dad for years. He thinks my Dad is “racist”.
several years ago there was an incident in one of the classrooms where some glass was broken. Frank’s class was the last class in there, but nothing was mentioned to my Dad. My Dad mentioned to a female staff member “If he did it or one of the people in his class did it, why wouldn’t he just come tell me? Accidents happen, and it doesn’t look good when people don’t tell the truth”. I felt that he made a valid point. However this female went to “Frank” and told him that my Dad was accusing him of breaking the glass. Frank never went to my Dad. Instead he went to the security director and flipped out, banging on things saying that he was going to beat the living lights out of my Dad. My Dad made 1 attempt to talk to him to try and sort things out but Frank pretty much turned his nose up at him.
Almost 5 years ago, Frank and Tina got married. They decided to have their wedding reception in the building where we work. Tina had a lot of questions about sound equipment, etc. She called the buliding but the man she needed to talk to was on vacation so they fowarded her to my Dad instead. She was telling him of another conversation she had with the lady who did bookings but my Dad couldn’t clarify it because the lady that did the bookings had already left for the day, but he answered what questions he could about the sound equipment and if there wasn’t something he was unsure of he was honest with her and told her that he would get the guy to contact her about it when he came back from vacation. Then she had mentioned about a conversation that she had with her husband Frank. My Dad was honest with her and told her that he and Frank don’t talk very often, so he wouldn’t know. But I can’t honestly remember what the convo was that she was supposed to have had with Frank.
A couple of days later Frank went to the security director and did the exact same thing he did the last time. Then shortly after that my Dad was called my the general manager of the building into his office. Frank’s wife Tina had written a six page essay about how extremely ignorant, overbearing, cocky, and rude my Dad was to her over the phone. The general manager questioned my Dad because he thought it was some kind of joke because he knows that my Dad isn’t like that. There were also 2 other people in the office with my Dad when he took the call that can verify that he wasn’t like that but Frank’s wife and Frank still to this day claim that he was rude.
When Frank and I were still talking, he felt that my Dad had absolutely no business telling his wife that they don’t talk. That he didn’t need to broadcast that. Alright, maybe he shouldn’t have, however my Dad is a very honest person and I know that he was just trying to be honest with her.
I felt that this ongoing battle was ridiculous and some of the comments that she was making about my Dad hurt, but I let it go.
Frank would say really gross and inappropriate things to me at times, like for example his boss; he told me one night that if he could **** her he totally would.
There was a young girl who worked in another area of the buliding, she’s only like 21, he told her as well as me and others that if she would be with him and love him, and satisfy him that he would totally leave his wife. I thought this was absolutely discusting because he’s got a daughter the same age!
Frank is black. I don’t think I mentioned that. He had made a couple of comments about me not ever being able to be with a black man in the bedroom because I wouldn’t be able to handle his animalistic tendencies and that my Father would kill him.
There was a young girl that worked in my department a few years ago who’d be about 24 now and he still to this day makes comments about her bumb and tried to grab it one time but she didn’t do anything about it.
Now on to Frank’s wife Tina. She used to change in the locker room that I clean but doesn’t anymore because she told Frank along with customers and other staff that I apparently would stare at her private parts while she was changing. Then all of a sudden there was a rumor circulating like crazy, that I was a lesbian, which I am not nor have I ever looked at this woman!
Frank once told me before this that he liked me and considered me a good friend. I wondered if he did they why didn’t he defend me when his wife did this?
However as I said, I let all of this stuff go.
